Small wedding with after party

My fiancé’s idea of a great wedding has started involving the more we research and talk. We are considering two options:


1. About 30 guestsGuest list mostly immediate familyCeremony and dinner at Avant GardenTaco truck dinner (highly recommend)DJ for ceremony, dinner, first danceOpen bar is complimentary After party with wedding party bar crawl style
2. About 75 guestsGuest list is immediate family, extended, friendsTypical wedding celebrationAll above things included.No after party
The reason we are debating one or the other:1. We want our wedding to have an intimate feeing.2. Budget... having more people costs almost double.3. Our immediate family aren’t big drinkers, but our friends know how to get rowdy.4. We would prefer for it to stay adults only.5. Fiancé specifically requested DJ and open bar which both these options cover. He didn’t care if we party at our wedding or after party style.6. We both come from divorced families so wondering if things will be awkward/tensions will be high.7. Love all the details of a wedding.
Please help me!