So annoyed

Ahah dude my husband did the same thing.

so he explained it to me as he still wanted it to be something he plans, something he still surprises me with even if i knew we were gonna get engaged anyway cause we talked about it.

it'll happen

Not sure if you two agreed that he is suppossed to actually ask you, but my dad never asked my mom "will you marry me?" They just both expressed the ddesire to spend the rest of their lives together and started planning the wedding. I dont think couples need to do everything that is "normal" or expected of society and Pinterest.

Have some patience. It sounds like he knows what he is doing. I personally think the surprise is what makes it special ❤️

View Quoted Comment I get that but he told my father he was going to ask me like 2 months ago 😅 I don’t understand what changed. And why we are waiting

I would say to give him some space to do what he wants to do. He obviously wants to surprise you. I know it’s hard but let him do his thing.

I’m a little bit OCD and i can’t really help to get to over thinking about it all

We had actually talked about when we would have our wedding (narrowed it down to a specific season of a year, with an ideal month) at least a couple years before he proposed. We didn't start actively planning, but I knew he had to get a move on proposing if we wanted to keep our ideal wedding timeframe lol. Just give him time, I'm sure he has a plan if he is asking to start the planning process

I knew when my FH bought the ring and everything, but he didn't propose until months later and how he did it was actually a huge surprise. Since he knew I knew it was coming, he wanted to do something special and totally caught me off guard!

I get being anxious, but hopefully it'll work out.

You said that you know it’s coming, then just let it happen. Until then, there’s no harm in planning out ideas. Plus there will be less to do once he proposes and you can enjoy the engagement stage together without worrying with wedding planning.

DH and I were together so long before we got engaged, our friends actually learned to stop asking, because I would get a little ... stabbity?

DH just wasn't ready, yet. He's younger than me and needed some time.

I also sniffed out half his plan, because I like to ruin my own surprises.

The only thing I can say is that communication is key. If you don't know where he is on getting engaged, it will create problems.