So far no bachelor party... Should I say somethong?

It's still super early to plan any kind of bachelor party. FH is having his next weekend (one week before the wedding.)

There has been previous posts about people reaching out to FH friends about bachelor party's and it not being well received from the guys sides. Just be aware of this...guys are typically just not pre-planners like us girls are. There is still a couple months for them to figure something out that's low key, and I personally would stay out of it. Let the guys figure it out!

I definitely wouldn't interfere. FH is having his two weeks before our wedding and they have been planning it since January...men and their fishing! Mine is at the end of August and my MOH didn't say anything about it until about a month ago.

Maybe I'm rude, but I would absolutely ask him if he was planning on doing something. If he said "no", that's absolutely fine, but at least I'd know then! I could then try and do something special for the FH at the very least.

Definitely not "too late" to plan something. The wedding is still 3 months away. There are 13 weekends between then and now. The planning itself probably wouldn't take more than an hour, even if they did decide to do a trip to Vegas. Check what days people are available, pick one, make a reservation somewhere if necessary (bar/activity/hotel/flight/whatever) and boom, you're done.

Unpopular opinion here, but I don't think you would be wrong to check in with the best man. It's his brother; you don't have to stand on formality. Just something like, "Hey Josh, just wondering if you are planning on doing some sort of bachelor party for Brian. You obviously don't have to, but our weekends are starting to fill up and if something is in the works I want to make sure we keep that day open." That way you aren't demanding that he make with the partying, but it does serve as a subtle reminder if he hadn't been thinking about it.

@StPaulGal I agree 100% I think asking casually is ok.

I asked my girls if they wanted to get together for what we are calling my bachelorette party. Really it's not a big deal, especially if you are close with these people. My fiancé and me's friends are sort of blasé and definitely wouldn't plan anything if we didn't say we wanted to get together with each other.

Our wedding is in the beginning of September and FH's groomsmen haven't planned anything either for him. Sometimes that just happens I guess. Gotta let it go.

My FH is in a similar situation. The people he chose to be in his party are family and certainly not reliable nor appropriate. (The BM suggested they go to strip clubs all night and see who can get laid first --this man was just married a month ago, btw). FH wants nothing to do with that, but is a little bummed that he has no plans. So, he decided to plan a guy's day out a few days before the wedding... paintball and a brewery. I know it's poor form to plan your own party. But, considering the alternative... i think it's a good plan.

Maybe your FH can consider a "guys day" vs an actual bachelor party.

I was also a little concerned about this. my MOH started planning my bachelorette party like 6 mos in advance (we rented a house at the beach). meanwhile, the BM just recently contacted the guys about doing something, and they are having a party the weekend before our wedding. sometimes i think ladies are just more planned out than guys....

I really don't understand what would ever be wrong about a man going out with his buddies to drink/dance/whatever, the weekend before the wedding. He can do that once he's married too. Not sure why it matters "when" he does it, as long as it's not the night before, only because I wouldn't want him to be hungover at the wedding. I've never understood when girls get bent out of shape about that.

If it gets very close to you're wedding and you haven't heard anything I don't think it's wrong to reach out and ask his brother, I agree it should stand on the premise that you don't want to overbook a weekend though.