So much at once!

I can't imagine doing the 2 at the same time. We purchased our house before we were engaged. It kind of made the getting engaged a bit more stressful for me because for 8 months I woke up everyday thinking today is the day we are getting engaged and every night i went to sleep disappointed that today was not the day we got engaged. I mean we owned a house so what was taking so long!!!

Anyway, we closed August 31 2018 so we haven't even been in our house a year yet and OMG it was crazy stressful. I feel like most of my stress was searching for homes and feeling pressure to make such quick decisions. The areas we looked for houses in had such a quick turn over if you didn't see the house in the first week it was listed you missed out on it. Our house was on the market for 10 days before we put in an offer and part of our offer was a super quick closing so we rushed to get everything done in 30 days. But when you find your home, you know and you will do whatever it takes to get it.

Now that I am finally engaged and starting to plan a wedding, it is making wedding planning very difficult. All I keep thinking is, "but we could use that money for new windows" or "what if we need a new roof and we have to take away from our wedding budget", or the biggest one "I really want a new bathroom!"

I think the fact that you recognize that you are having moments of struggling to feel grateful is something you should give yourself credit for. When all is done you will have such a fun unique story to tell and you will see just how grateful you both really are. Also, there is so much we stress over that we have no control over. Sometimes it's just helpful to take a step back and say "can I do anything to change this?" if the answer is no, it's probably not worth that much stress.

One piece of advice I can give with house buying, find people you can trust & go with your gut. In NJ you need a lawyer to close on a house. Our first lawyer was HORRIBLE and I just had a bad feeling about him. He was saying one price over the phone and paperwork had a different price and when questioned he kept evading the question. We immediately found someone else, and it was smooth sailing after that.

Good luck, everything always works out the way it is supposed to, if it doesn't then the journey isn't over yet!

We also considered it and fell in love with a house just knew it wasn't feasible at the time so we renewed our lease at our current house and figured we would re evaluate after our wedding which is October 13th.

View Quoted Comment Congrats on your car! I think all of these adult decisions are so stressful. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yes, I have so many lists. And we’ve been reviewing our budget multiple times a month to make sure we’re on track. Gotta make sure we’re good with things.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yes, I’m excited. Good for you, for doing the hard work of saving!!!

View Quoted Comment Why do you wish you had gotten the house first?

View Quoted Comment Oh it’s so nice to know we’re not alone! I feel so stressful keeping things on track and making sure we can pay for everything. We’re also paying for chemo for our dog, so it’s just been a pricey season of life all around. Sigh.

View Quoted Comment Congrats!!!! How did the move go? We close tomorrow and move this weekend. Can’t wait!

I want to buy a house shortly after the wedding if not before, but like others said, we are also looking at newer cars (he really needs one, I just want an upgrade lol )

I'll start serious hunting next year on jan 1st lol his mom n brother currently live with us and ive been keeping an eye out for land contract places. Theres one thats 39,000 that i like but not in the greatest neighborhood so im trying to wait and just keep looking our lease ends next year augast 7th and we refuse to resign

My fiancé and I are 20 years old and bought a house together in January this year. We get married in two months and we have been living in our home ever since we closed. It is the best decision we made and we wouldn’t have it any other way ❤️. Congratulations ❤️

View Quoted Comment That’s great! What do you love about being a homeowner?

We did! I don't regret it. We also adopted 2 kittens!

Home buying was stressful and so was the first 2-3 months of wedding planning. When one thing got too stressful, I stopped and focused on the other.

We did the same thing! But we’ve been engaged for almost 2 years and bought our house about 2 years ago. I think it’s awesome that you did!! Congrats!!! Now you know what to add to your registry too!

View Quoted Comment Mmmm. That’s good advice. Letting myself go back and forth, as my stress ebbs and flows. Thanks!

Yes! Equally crazy here 🙋‍♀️ it’s all very exciting but yes it is A LOT!

Yes we just bought a house. We are getting married in January. We went to my daughters graduation up north June 11th closed on the house June 15th, fully moved in June 29 the all while working lots of over time and taking a cruise in 4 weeks grad gift to my daughter. It has been stressful. We discussed buying a house next year. Went and looked at homes just to get an idea of prices and what we liked. Realized that next year we just might be priced out of our price range for a house. So the hunt begain.

We purchased a house in June and we’re getting married in August. It hasn’t been too stressful. We’re taking things one at a time and now focusing on finishing up small wedding details. You got this!

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It would make it easier to relax after the wedding and be settled. We don't want to wait too long to have kids. We are dumping a lot of our money into this wedding, we are hoping we get some back!

View Quoted Comment Mmmm. Yes, my hope is that after the wedding we’ll feel settled in and able to focus on saving money!!!