So my sister is not coming to my wedding....

I think I would be more hurt than mad .... I'm so sorry that neither are coming!! What did you say to her text??

I'd be hurt that Salmon fishing is more important than my wedding. Sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you on your special day.

Wow, not cool! They have been married for 20 years?!?! WTF? They can't go fishing for a reasonable price any other time of year? BS! Be mad, be very mad!

Id be hurt yes. at the same time i would think that if this is how they were spending their ANN. then i would have no hard feelings. (what if that is me in 5 years? what if we go and someones asks us to stay?) its though one. I would ask if they could come after maybe? Visit take in a dinner with you? Family means the WORLD to me so thats my 2 cents =) good luck

Well thats a pretty stupid reason.... i mean i couldnt attend my sisters wedding but she scheduled it I think purposely around my daughter being in the hospital in SC. I live in metro Atl.... so to get from SC to ATL to Savannah for her wedding, the day AFTER my daughter got out of the hospital was nuts. I mean I simply couldnt do it! if it were a valid reason like mine then let it go, but fishing? wtf

Wow. Bailing on your wedding is bad enough, but doing so via text message is downright cowardly. I would feel hurt and rejected, too! I would simply call her and say, calmly and respectfully, "I hope you understand that a wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event, and it hurts my feelings that you have not made it a priority to be there to support me and welcome FS into the family."

You should tell her how you you. Seriously fishing VS your wedding. I don't see how fishing wins. If it were me, I would seriously be hurt. She waited a month before the wedding. I would so no talk to her again. Texting is so impersonal. She could have had the decency to call.

It doesn't sound right. There must be an underlying reason. Who would miss there SISTER'S wedding for a fishing trip. Doesn't strike me as the truth. Have you spoken to her yet about it? I would ask her what's really going on and let her know how important it is that she be there for you.

I would be totally be hurt, disappointed all of the above that I can't even think of right now! I;m so sorry that they wont be able to make it, but in the mean time talk to your sis and tell her how much this means to you, how important it is to you that she is there . I don't know your sis but I'm hoping she will understand that your request may be a selfish one but reasonable at the same time and You would really appreciate it if she were there.

Sorry if my responds is blunt or completely off I'm just stating how I would handle it. Good Luck Sekasorto

No, no, no, no. Fishing trips should never come before your sister's wedding. They can go on another fishing trip. They will never be able to experience your wedding again.

I would talk to her and tell her how you feel. They can go fishing again, but your wedding is not something they can go to a couple months later.

I would probably be more hurt than anything. A salmon fishing trip is no where near as important as your sister's wedding. I would also be kinda pissed that she chose to ask you via text message...seems a bit cold. I am sorry that you are going through this and hope you can work it out.

Wow! I cannot believe this!! I would be so sad if one of my sisters couldn't make it. But to add insult to injury they're going FISHING instead?? Are you sure this is the reason? Just curious but it seems like kind of a lame excuse. Is there any tension between you and your sis's hubby? Or between them and FH? Or any combination thereof? I don't know your family dynamics but this would NOT fly in mine

The fact that she texted rather than calling just shows that she knows damn well she's being horrible. If it were their anniversary, that would be one thing, but you scheduled it for 10 days after--that's over a week; you were more than accommodating in doing that. It's not as if she had plans for the date when you invited her; she is suddenly trying to make plans now for something that, as many people have noted, will be way easier to do another time than attend your wedding. It sucks all around.

Honestly, I'm just astounded that someone who is old enough to be celebrating her 20-year wedding anniversary thinks that she can do this. I think you probably should call her and tell her in no uncertain terms that you find both her plans and her mode of communication incredibly hurtful, but I'm unsure how much it will help. At least it will be on the record, though, so she can't ever pretend she didn't know it was wrong.

Be mad. A fishing trip? That's BS. Let her know that YES, it is a problem if she doesn't come and find out what the real deal is.

If my FH said that he wanted us to go fishing instead of attending my brother's wedding, I would be beyond insulted and hurt. I really don't understand why she isn't being more insistant about going. Come on, what girl wants to go fishing vs. going to a wedding? Do you think she doesn't want to go for other reasons and is just using that as an excuse? I mean a text message is a pretty sorry way of excusing yourself from your siblings most important day. JMO

Omg..I would be reallyyyy mad..I don't care that they found a great deal for the fishing trip..how could they not attend your wedding???

She is 8 years older than I am. She is not very girly. I really do think that it is just the fishing trip not anything else. There is nothing else that would have happened in the last 6 months since I started planning the wedding. We don't talk very much and she has made it a point to tell me that there is just too much age difference and we are too different to hang out. That we have nothing in common...which is more BS but whatever. It really upsets me she would rather go up north for a fishing trip well after the anniversary which I planned so that it would not interfere with any anniversary plans since it IS 20 years.

This is not my first marriage...this is just the right one. I married when I was 23 and he turned out to be a mentally abusive b@#tard who hit me and raped me. I left very quickly. My second husband was not much better. She did not come to that wedding. She was in the first one. I did not ask her to be in the second because it was at a JOP.

I did not ask her to be in this one because she made it clear she didn't want to have to be. Now she says she isn't even coming. It just makes me angry.

Well ofcourse I would be hurt.Maybe your past marriages may have her worried about you but the fishing could happen anytime or it can be saved for another time.You as her sister should come first.Have a talk with her like you said ts your 3rd marriage and you have married bad people..Talk to her and reassure her this one is the right one.She could be worried.