So people seriously do this?!

View Quoted Comment Oh nice, we’re using WeddingWire as well! I would’ve done it that way too, but figured I wouldn’t get the actual rsvp with their meal choice(s) back.


Sounds like a headache on your end too! I don’t know why people are so inconsiderate! I would dream of pulling a stunt like this or saying stuff like you FH’s mom and grandma either. I’m glad he’s in your corner too! It definitely makes it easier! He initially didn’t understand why I was so mad/upset about his aunt including the gfs of 2 of her sons, but after I explained it. As for the gf of my brother, my FH hasn’t had the “pleasure” of meeting her, but knows she the reason there’s a rift in our family, between siblings. We’re a blended family and our parents got married after we were all over 18. My sister and I were close with my stepbrother until he started dating this chick. Good luck to you too!!!

View Quoted Comment Completely agree that she was rude to invite herself. However, it wasn’t totally unprompted-you are the one who chose to exclude the SO of an adult family member. Making decisions on who gets +1s on the basis of how much you like the SO is a bit petty.
How much time are you really going to have to be around any single person (when most people say they hardly have time to see the people they do love!) when giving them the invite could have been an olive branch in your relationship?

Oh wow, i didn't realize that this was common. I've never seen this happen with any of my loved ones.

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You don't. Your mother will get over it. This isn't a family reunion, it's your wedding, and you only get one shot at this. Invite the people who are part of your lives and make you happy. Leave the drama at the door!

Don't do it. Stand up to her, and anyone else who has anything to say about your guest list. This is your wedding, nobody else's!

I’m kinda an asshole so there’s no inviting yourself if you don’t get a invite then don’t show up & if you show up there’s no space for you so don’t let the door hit you where the good lord split you

We Had Someone Lie About Losing An Invite (Which They Never Got) And Asked Someone Else To Ask ME To RSVP For That Person Who “Lost An Invite” They Never Received Because They Arent On Our Guestlist. I Also Had Someone Call Me Saying They Tried To RSVP For Their Daughter Who Also Isnt On Our Guestlist.


Its Frustrating For Sure.

View Quoted Comment I can’t believe people pull crap like this!! I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this too. There’s a reason people don’t get invited!

View Quoted Comment Yes!! Yes!! Yes!!

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We are using withjoy.com. It let us limit the guests, but they could still pick which plated meal each person wanted, because we are also doing that.

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Bummer, that would have been a nice site to know about! I've never heard of it before.

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I hadn't either until I did some research. I have really liked the site and would definitely recommend.

Wow that is so rude of them!!! I would definitely say no, we are trying to keep our numbers low. The nerve of some people!

That sucks to deal with. We had one person try to do this, so we called & apologized for not realizing they had an significant other (not considered a plus one in my opinion since a couple is a social unit), he then told us he didn't know who he would bring or IF he would bring anyone. He was single but wanted to have an option. I was laughing on the phone. He decided not to come at all after we told him he needed to give us a name of his date or just come alone.

This is why I'm doing an online RSVP. You search for your name, your party guests all pop up, and you check mark who is coming. If a name isn't there, it expressly tells you to reach out to bride & groom for clarification.

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YES.

This and the fact that people are much more likely to use a website to respond instead of putting a card in the mail. Plus, you save on postage.