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FutureMrs.V
Super June 2018

So tired of planning

FutureMrs.V, on December 21, 2017 at 5:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 16
I have a very DIY venue. We bring in alcohol, catering, linens, set up tables, chairs, etc. Its a beautiful venue and the price was great, plus we get it for the entire weekend. I have all my major vendors booked and all the must haves are taken care of. We have made some adjustments to things we had planned originally and so far it's for the better. I'm almost done with our save the dates to send out. I haven't figured out groomsmen attire yet and my bridesmaids haven't all gotten their dresses. That's all fine, they have time. I'm just feeling so overwhelmed. I have a DOC and she's amazing. She helps with whatever she can. I am a bit of a control freak especially with something as important as our wedding. I am doing all I can to make it as great as possible. Now it's time to plan the honeymoon and it's just making me more stressed. I'm so excited to be getting married and going on the honeymoon, but I feel like all these little details are almost worse than booking the big stuff. If I never have to address another piece of mail again in my life, I would be ecstatic. I'm in a constant battle of telling myself to relax and also wanting to make sure we get everything done now. FH is an amazing man, but he doesn't know what all is going on with the wedding. We only see each other on the weekends because of opposite shifts. He tells me how much he appreciates everything and wants to help. There's just nothing that I feel comfortable handing off to him except for gathering address. He will be the first one to tell you he doesn't have an eye for the small details. People want us to do a dollar dance. My mom doesn't want drunk people at our wedding. It's just been a stressful few months. I'm so glad we are past the halfway mark of our engagement. Sorry for ranting. FH is great at listening, but doesn't fully understand everything that goes into planning our wedding.

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Latest activity by Katy, on December 23, 2017 at 12:47 PM
  • Kelsey Brielle
    Super June 2022
    Kelsey Brielle ·
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    You need a break OP! Take a weekend of no planning, pamper yourself, you and FH go out on a date and don't talk about any wedding stuff. Great job on what you have accomplished so far, but you need a break. Grab a bath bomb and soak honey Smiley winking

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  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
    FutureMrs.V ·
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    I've never used a bath bomb. I need one! Thankfully I have three day weekends the next two weekends to spend with FH. We do need a good date night!
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  • Kelsey Brielle
    Super June 2022
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    Me either LOL. I recently got one from a bridal expo so I'm excited to use it.
    That's great about your upcoming weekends!! I hope you two enjoy it. Honestly OP you should really pat yourself on the back for what you have handled already. Wedding planning is stressful and you deserve a break. Enjoy!
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  • Catti Labelle
    VIP July 2018
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    Yeah, sounds like a break is in order. It’s good to step away for a little, clear your head, and go back to just enjoying your engagement. Then you can go back with a sound mind and hopefully planning will be enjoyable again. I have a long engagement, which has allowed me to spread planning out and I’ll take breaks when needed. It has definitely helped. People are like shocked at how chill I am when they ask how the planning is going, lol.
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  • O
    Master October 2017
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    Meditation, I think there's an app for it, yoga, and I made a checklist of what ifs and ran through scenarios and made plans on those. All that helped me to be calm and stress free. I had a therapist and talked to her about wedding, and it really helped. So take a break from planning. I had to realize and fully get that nothing will be perfect, so stressing over it does no good, and after the ceremony-the most important part-the reception is just a party. It's just a party.
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  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
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    Thank you! I have three things to check off my list, then I'm taking a break. I'll have these things completed this week. I've been coming to terms with everything not being perfect. I'm just trying to eliminate at much room for error as I can. I hired our DOC and she's helped plus she's handling our decorations. Just ready to be drunk at our reception with my mom side eyeing me.
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  • Orchids
    Master March 2018
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    You have enough time to take a week off, try out your first bath bomb, they're a favorite treat of mine. Smiley smile

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  • Ariyana
    Dedicated April 2018
    Ariyana ·
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    I totally get it. My FH just says “lets just go to a courthouse” everytime i Complain about something going wrong, And it doesn’t help that he’s overseas in the Air Force And isn’t coming back until 7 days before the wedding.
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  • Gracie Lou Freebush
    VIP October 2017
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    Tl;dr have some wine
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  • Laura
    Devoted August 2018
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    Hand the honeymoon planning off the FH!!!

    Also, take breaks in planing or only work on the wedding on certain days, so you remember you have friends and a life too. Planning should be enjoyable!!!
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  • Miaaa
    Super January 2018
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    Agree with PP- have one completely one wedding talk free weekend and/or date. I felt that way a few months ago and that I was constantly bugging my about decisions since we don't live together and I only saw him 1-2 x a week. What helped was just having a wedding talk free date at least once a week and consolidating all the wedding decisions to one or two convos per week.

    Also, have your FH plan your honeymoon. My FH is not much of a traveler but I am, but he was so excited to do most of the research. He ended up doing the majority of the work but ran it by me before we booked. It relieved my stress immensely and it's a trip we're both excited about.

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  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
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    I'm honestly scared to hand the honeymoon off to FH. In theory it sounds great, but logistics and plans are my thing. He is a go with the flow, everything is fine type. We compliment each other well in our daily lives. It just makes me nervous to leave something that big completely up to him. I already booked the car and hotels. It gives us an itinerary. I just have to book flights and it's done.
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  • FutureMrs.V
    Super June 2018
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    I could definitely book the flight and then send him the suggested itinerary. Then he could plan certain tours that we are interested in.
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  • Aly
    Expert June 2018
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    Wedding planning can be exhausting! It sounds like you a need a little break. Give yourself some time off, and then create a list of what you need to do. I created a list by month leading up to my wedding so that I know what I need to tackle in January, and February, etc. If something comes to mind, I just add it to the list.

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  • Katy
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    Girl I feel you. My venue is very similar. I ended up taking a break for a few weeks from wedding planning since the majority is done. I'll worry about smaller details in the New Year. Relax and enjoy the holidays!

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