So..we got kicked out of a wedding reception...I think?!

WOW! What a crazy story! You are such a trooper for doing what you did! What did FH think about the night?!

I would have gone to the outlet mall and found a skankier outfit to change into.

ETA: This outfit.

That is super strange. I'd be very tempted to follow up with the groom and ask some questions. Like, where was his family, and why were you the only non-amish guests. I mean, it's probably best to just let it go, but I'd be too curious not to.

I would've been mortified. Like Janeen said, you're so nice for going to buy a new outfit. I try to respect different cultures as much as possible, but a heads up would be nice!

Lol Lauren.

That is so bizarre that his family and no mutual friends were there. Are there any mutual friends you could ask about the situation ?

This is very strange. I wonder if they were menonnite? Or another very conservative religion? My (limited) knowledge of the Amish community is they would not be having a hotel wedding, not marrying English, and if the bride did marry English, she'd be shunned and no family would attend or they'd risk shunning as well. I mean, a hotel ballroom would be "showy" as would any traditional wedding stuff. Was the bride in a gown?

That woman sounds incredibly rude and I would not have changed clothes. You are a saint for doing that. You didn't do anything wrong.

Wow.... so strange! I would be so tempted to talk to the groom and ask him what was up lol. But yeah, not telling him what happened is probably the right thing to do.

What town was this in, can I ask?

I have the same questions you ladies do! Believe me - I'd love some answers, too! haha! It was in a traditional wedding ballroom/venue. The bride was wearing white, but she was covered - not what most of us would consider a traditional wedding dress - but for their culture, probably it was. The groom was in a simple black suit/tie. I'm not sure what happened with the other lady that was not "covered". Something must not be "cool" with the families since his family wasn't there. It makes me wonder if he had any say over the guest list, or very minimal input anyway.

Wowwwwww! That's so crazy!

Also, if you were at the outlet mall in Amish country, I love that mall. I would have said screw the wedding and shopped the rest of the night.

I too thought they weren't allowed to date/marry outside the Amish community, at least that's what Lifetime taught me.But, you're a better woman than I am. I would've given her the business before me abd a dozen of those cookies left...and I don't even eat pork.

I honestly think you should reach out to him and get more info. I would even explain what happened and that you just wanted to know if you did something wrong (that's how I would play it off).

Based on what I know from 'breaking amish' ha! and my DH works in outside sales for a paint company and has A LOT of Amish customers due to their wood working companies. They wouldn't have even been able to have a ceremony in a hotel like that?? Were they Mennonite?? Do you know they were actually Amish for sure? Mennonites could absolutely have a wedding there, but for the Amish it would seem very odd. So, did the guy convert to being Amish because if the women was marrying him and he wasn't Amish then in most sections of the Amish their church wouldn't allow them to attend?? This is super confusing as to what happened and what the heck went on. I want more info lol! If you decide to reach out to the groom or find more info out, please PLEASE update us.

This is all bizarre... Between not saying the dress code, his family not being there, you were invited but not other mutual friends, etc.

That is soooo strange. I would have been mortified and I think you are amazing to go buy a new outfit! So weird. Her family must have had a lot of say in the wedding. Maybe they disapproved of having any "English" guests there at all.

I too thought they weren't allowed to date/marry outside the Amish community, at least that's what Lifetime taught me.But, you're a better woman than I am. I would've given her the business before me and 2dozen of those cookies left...and I don't even eat pork.

I was at a Mennonite wedding once and there wasn't much of a dress code but it was a dry wedding.

Wowwwww, for weird wedding stories, this one may take the cake. (Or should I say, the pig-shaped cookie?) I mean WHAT?! I have nothing to add to the shock and confusion the commenters before me have expressed, except to join in and say...I too am SO bewildered. Also you are SO nice. I can't believe you bought a whole black slacks outfit out of courtesy to them. What a saint! Please keep us updated??

Well all i have to say is that it was a weird situation and i am impressed with you going out and buying a more conservative outfit. you really seem to have tried to do your best to correct the situation that you were put in, its unfortunate that this woman could not seem to be more accepting of different lifestyles.

(it seems as though the brides family may have wanted the wedding one way and didnt want any outsiders there at all)

This is so crazy! Seriously, you went above and beyond for even buying a new outfit! Were they even serving alcohol at the event? I'd probably be so annoyed at the whole situation, I'd be the lush little harlot in my tea-length dress guzzling wine.

Are you sure it was Amish and not Mennonite? Amish do not associate or marry outside of their community from my understanding.

ETA: I think I'm just in awe at the weirdness of this wedding... Like I. can't. Even.

I guess they could have absolutely been Mennonite, I assumed Amish due to the area we are in. @Lauren - LMAO - that is hilarious. I wish I could post a pic of the dress I had on - (we didn't even have time to take a pic of us, because I was asked to leave so quickly!!) haha. But it was very simple and conservative.

@Athena - It was in the Amanas

@Trisha - Yes-I agree. That outlet mall ROCKS! We stopped on our way home and grabbed a 75% off Coach bag. I figured I deserved it for what we went through the night before. HAHA!