So..we got kicked out of a wedding reception...I think?!

Iowa girl here too! I am originally from the Cedar Rapids area, and was curious if they were from Kalona or Amanas. That is crazy that it all happened, because most of those people are regularly around the "English". Hell, most of their revenue for their businesses come from tourists and non-Amish/Mennonite.

Sometimes I think guys are just oblivious to things like that, I wonder if the groom didn't event think about there being an issue.

This sounds like this one group (can't think of the name) that dresses like the Amish, but drink, dance and have weddings like this. They were on tv at one time and unlike the Amish they wear white for weddings and can be very nasty to outsiders.

Lol@Lawmom, I know, seriously, Pigs? I can't imagine anything yuckier for a wedding.

Please contact the sister to clarify the situation! WW'ers need to know! I'm so curious!!

@Kelly-- Are you talking about the Gypsys? They're not a conservatively dressed bunch at all.

Props to you for going and buying a new outfit!! Sounds like you were already pretty covered up to begin with - I would have been mortified as well, good on you for trying to stick it out! So bizarre

@Centerpiece - We did speak to the groom. He hugged me, we made small talk, he said it was great to see me, introduced me to his wife, but as I said before, there was no mention of the elephant in the room. I didn't get to tell him goodbye, since we were basically asked to leave. I didn't want to bring that to his attention and make a scene. As for seeing other friends there - No. There weren't any mutual friends, no one that I recognized, other than the groom. As for cards/gifts - I did take a card and they had a card box to put it in. About the pigs -- he is (or I should say, WAS, 5 years ago, a farmer, and he had pigs on his farm) as for what he does now - I really don't know, but I'm assuming the pigs were a reference to his profession? Also, I don't remember that the invite said anything aside from it being a family only ceremony. I'm just as baffled as you all are!

Well, Jamie Lynn, I have to say, you are the model of self control and etiquette, and I'm not being sarcastic when I say that. You were treated horribly, but somehow, you and your FH found a way to rise above the insults hurled at you. You allowed the groom to have his day without bringing those insults to his attention. I hope all of the Karma points you earned come back to enrich you in a huge way -- hopefully at your own wedding.

Awww, @Centerpiece - Thank you!!! You are the sweetest.

That is so insane! You are truly a saint. I don't think I would even have considered changing and going back! You're much, much nicer than I am haha

I'm also with everyone else regarding follow up questions. How can you (really, we!) not find out what the hell is going on there?! Would you feel comfortable reaching out to his sister on FB, maybe? If there's a strange family thing going on there, I'm sure she'd be happy to dish

Wait. This was a PIG-themed wedding??

What.

Did you say anything to the woman who kicked you out?!?

Well, I'm not sure if "Pig theme" is what they were going for, but there were wooden pigs for centerpieces, little fondant pigs on the cupcakes, and pig shaped sugar cookies... Yea---so...there's that. And no, when the woman asked me to "cover up", I was so stunned... I didn't say anything to her. I mean, I knew I stood out- I wasn't wearing their religious outfit and head covering, etc. so whatever. But the 2nd time when she asked us to leave- I was seriously beyond words (not typical for me- so you can tell how ticked off I was). So weird. I was thinking, is this really happening!?!

I would totally email the sister and say something like "I was looking forward to seeing you at John's wedding; how did I miss you?" I bet she'll spill...

Honestly the sister is probably just as curious to hear how it went from someone who was there.... So .... It's *almost* like you're doing her a favor by reaching out to her..... ;-). (A favor to us too curious readers anyway, lol)

@JamieLynn, I'm curious about why you don't want this guy to know about how you were treated at his wedding. I could understand not wanting him to know the day of, so that he wouldn't hear any upsetting news on the wedding day. But now that day has passed. As a host, I would want to know if any of my guests were mistreated, so that I could personally check in and apologize to them.

I vote contacting the sister lol! Just because I'm nosey as well.

This seems very unusual... I think I would have asked the individual who she was the first time... and why the second time and would have made my decisions based upon her answers to these questions.