S/o- when people think your ring is "too big" or gaudy

I get a lot of funny looks at my engagement ring. I didn't want a diamond. I wanted his birthstone with my birthstone as side stones. He picked out a 1.81 carat pink tourmaline and 1/4 carat of blue topaz for the side stones because aquamarine was just to pale next to the pink tourmaline. While setting the tourmaline the jeweler cracked the tourmaline. The pink tourmaline came from another country and could not be bought here. The closest gem the jeweler could find that matched the tourmaline was a purplish colored garnet. The jeweler could only get it in a 2 carat size. So I get a lot of people asking why is it purple and blue? I also get asked if my garnet is a natural stone or is it simulated? Then when people find out that my band is solid gold and not hollow they just look at me. When my daughter felt how heavy my ring was she asked if my finger gets tired or cramps from the weight LOL. I love my ring gaudy or not

Most people say my ring is huge. It just annoys me when they do

I've been lucky to never encounter someone so rude. I've had how gorgeous it is, or "now that's a rock". I have had several people who will point out their own ring and say that their H said he would get an upgrade on theirs one day. I hate that. I always say that "nothing can replace the ring he placed on your finger when he proposed". I would never have my ring replaced with another.

I haven't really had any comments made on my ring. Well, I guess except my guy cousins telling DH, "Dang man, you just raised the bar high." Whatever that meant. Lol.

My ring isn't anything crazy. I feel like it's a decent size but not huge. It's very simple. I adore it. It's definitely "me." Very classic and simple.

1.01 carat asscher cut solitaire in white gold. My wedding band is a simple white gold band with my married initials and our wedding date engraved inside.

Mine is definitely non-traditional (see my avatar) - it's a huge flower. I haven't heard any negative comments about it - in fact, some coworkers love to show it to others.

People are weird about rings. I don't know if it's because they are jealous, or because they don't really understand diamonds. But just ignore it. Be happy with your ring, someday you will get the compliment you were hoping for all along, and you will be able to enjoy it on the inside..

Now I got that last week when my cousin from half way across the world, who actually appreciated the (almost) perfection of the diamond FH got me. It's a nice feeling when it eventually happens.

I love all the big rings! I personally couldn't wear them either, because I'm clumsy and I run into things and get my hands stuck in things, but I would never ever dream of mentioning to somebody that their ring looks too big.

My ring is real, as it's a real diamond, made in a lab. I'm happy that my FH knew me well enough that I would be really happy with this choice. I would be way to afraid to walk around daily with something that is worth too much (see comment above about me being clumsy). My mum actually got me a ring that is worth about 10-15k with a sapphire and two diamonds and I can't bring myself to wear it because I'm just too scared.

Erica's ring might be the most unusual and unconventional engagement ring I've seen on WW. It's certainly a conversation starter. It is stunning (and if I remember correctly, it's made of a center ruby surrounded by smaller diamonds, emeralds, and rubies). Erica, if my daughter happened to meet you, she would immediately understand the significance of the design, and then she'd lock you into a lengthy conversation. I've probably mentioned this before, but she covets your engagement ring. Until recently, her FB profile photo featured three flowers -- the red rose of Lancaster and the white rose of York. The third one was a combination of both -- the Tudor Rose reflected in your engagement ring. (Oh, just in case -- If you have any suggestions for any great Tudor books -- especially concerning Anne Boleyn -- please let me know. She reads them again and again).

You know what I love about heart shaped gems? I always assume that it was purchased by someone who loves the person wearing it -- regardless of the size. Not many people buy hearts for themselves (okay, some do, but not most).

You ladies wear your rings proudly, and if anyone asks you anything insulting about the size or stone, just say, "You'll forgive me for not answering if I forgive you for asking." That will only work with strangers, but it might teach them something their parents failed to teach them.

Gorgeous ring! No way is it too big!

Love your ring - my first thought wasn't "wow that's huge" it was "fairy ring!" (reminded me of the cover from an old tales book - a fairy pool reflecting a stormy night sky on one side, and a rainbow on the other - was meant to symbolise the bad times being chased away by the good, or something like that)

We've had similar comments. FMIL got hung up that my (passed down) tanzanite was much larger than her diamond e-ring (even though everyone knows diamonds are marked up so much around here compared to tanzanite.. which is still "the new kid on the block" in highstreet jewellers.) Others tend to make comments on, if he can afford a rock that big, why do we still have a flatmate.

Didn't want a diamond, mum knew I always loved that ring and FH's style (solitaires) do not look good with my stumpy little fingers - so it made sense she passed it to him as my e-ring.

Every time I see a ring thread (not so much on here, but on another wedding forum I play on) I have this weird moment of realizing that I don't even know what my own ring is. Is it a real diamond? I don't know. What is the carat size? I dunno. What is that setting called? No idea. Don't care. It's mine, picked out by the guy I love and adore, and it's exactly my style. I love the fact that he picked it out on his own, I love the design on it, and I love that we're having matching wedding bands. I haven't heard anyone make any negative comments on it - and frankly, I can not even imagine someone having the gall to make snide remarks about any other person's ring. I'm not sure why anyone even cares - what does it matter to person A if person B's ring is bigger than hers? Person C's fiance doesn't love her any less just because her ring isn't as big as person D's.

Most of the time, I get comments on how beautiful my ring is. One time though, some ride customer at work commented "oh hunny, you need a bigger diamond, that one doesn't even reach the bottom of the setting." ETA, my ring feels small to me compared to some of these beautiful rings lol.

I love all of theses rings. I get told that mine is "so different" a lot because it isn't diamond. I love my ring. I don't need an expensive ring to be engaged.

I have a 1.67 emerald yellow sapphire. When people assume it's a yellow diamond I get the "holy cow that must've been expensive!", or something of the sorts. When people know it's a sapphire, not so much haha. I wanted a sapphire, it just so happens to look like a yellow diamond

Thanks, Centerpiece! Yes, it's a ruby center, diamond petals, and emerald leafs.

I just sent you an email with my personal email address. I can totally recommend Anne Boleyn/Tudor books to your daughter!

Anyone that doesn't either keep their mouth shut or say something positive about someone's engagement ring is a jerk. All of these rings are beautiful! I absolutely love when rings reflect the personality of the couple, whether that is a giant flashy diamond, or a non-traditional ruby. FH knew I didn't want a diamond and he picked something that was absolutely perfect for me. I love it....but I get a lot of non-comments on it ("oh.....that's nice"). It's green sapphire and it's absolutely gorgeous. Haters can have a seat ::shrug::

I love all the non-traditional and non-diamond rings here!

If I had to chose my own engagement ring, I would have went with black diamonds, however FH picked out my ring and while its not black, it's exactly what I would have chose if I had to chose a clear diamond and I absolutely love it! While I don't think it's big or small, I get questioned all the time what FH does for a living and I've also had a few people straight out ask how much it cost. -_-

Mine is a white sapphire from an Etsy seller that I LOVE, and I tend to tell people that right away much to FH's chagrin. He says that he wants people think he is loaded but I think that the fact he was frugal and picked me an ethical, lab created stone that I wanted is something to praise him about I love it, and I love that he didn't spend money we don't have on a diamond. Sapphires are only 1 less on the MOHS scale and the fact that it is lab created means it doesn't have any flaws - which isn't a negative to me!

People are just too judgemental when they have no place to be in my opinion...I love the fact that my ring is different and unique, so rock your ring!!

I've gotten a number of comments about the size of my ring. The most uncomfortable situation I've been in was when I was out to breakfast with some family. Both my aunt on my dad's side and one of my cousins on my mom's side--who had recently gotten married and also has a solitaire (smaller than mine, but beautiful nonetheless)--were there. My aunt wouldn't stop talking about the size of my ring. She even went as far as asking how many carats it is. I answered by saying that I didn't know and didn't care to know. I just find it really rude, though. I wish people would either say nothing or all or just say it's beautiful. Size doesn't dictate the success of a marriage.