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I am so sorry!! I couldn’t imagine what you are feeling right now. 🥺I don’t have any advice but I’m sending you a hug!!

That’s so sad. Did he give you a reason for not coming? Maybe there is still time for him to change his mind.

I don't have any helpful words, but I can relate. I'll be missing my only sister and two oldest nieces at my wedding too. I haven't met my oldest great-nephew and the new one is due around the time of the wedding. They're also in CT which is where I'm from but haven't been back in a few years. So while I understand why they can't be there, it's sad missing family; especially on a big day. Would you be able to visit them after the wedding? Is there any chance they could move things around to be there? I do hope it works out for you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much ❣ Hug completely well received.

View Quoted Comment Yeah 😕 it's money problems which I completely understood. It wasn't easy for them to start off here on the island. He got a job quickly as soon as they moved to US with better payment opportuniti and has been working year round ever since but his wife just found a job early last month. I guess besides the 3 flight tickets being too expensive for only one salary income (my brother, his wife and my baby niece), she couldn't afford to ask for some free days in a job she just barely got. Wouldn't look so good for her either... Can't say I don't understand because I really do, just hurts more than I thought off.

View Quoted Comment I've never had the one on one experience on being an aunt. Yes, of course her birth opened too many feelings I can barely control right now and barely even knew I could feel, so not being able to be on my niece's life and explore these, being my first ever niece, kind of sucked. I do understand his reasons and respect them. Me and him having the relationship we have, he was and still is always the one to accept me and take credit of proudly being my brother whenever needed. I've always been some sort of the "least playable note" on my whole family, never been fully accepted or tried to be but he's always been the one to stand up for me and be there, no matter who he had to wrong on the other side (mom, dad, grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins). He's been my inspiration for so many things since he hasn't had it easy, that I wanted to somehow feel and prove him I'm equally powerful and brave when I looked from the ceremony to the crowd and saw him there watching me make my best, not making me feel stupid or ridiculed for once. My FH and I have this thing on making a yearly trip since we're together: first time was in New Orleans, this year to Mexico, next 2020 to be the "Disney, Tampa, Conneticut Visiting Season" since his sister lives in Tampa, kill 2 birds with one stone and make it a whole Disney trip too towards ending up in CT visiting mine. If we do have the money, of course I'll try to be able to visit them. Thank you so much 🥰 and I do hope also that your sister and nieces work it out and be able to be there at least for a while. We don't actually NEED them there, but it sure would make things pretty more special on both days. Best wishes and I can't wait to see a wedding picture of you two ❣❣😭🥰

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That must be really hard. It is nice to have that one family member that stands by your side, no matter what. I'm sorry distance has taken a bit of that away from you. My sister and nieces can't make it. The younger niece is due very soon and has been having a difficult pregnancy so they all need to stay there and take care of each other and my newest great-nephew. I'm so excited for them even though I'll miss them terribly. I really hope you get to make the trip to see them soon. Connecticut is beautiful. What part are they in?

View Quoted Comment It's okay, sometimes we have to look for what's best for our new family and ourselves even if it involves leaving your forever home. I know he wants to be here, just as my sister in law and niece and I don't want them to have the weight of me being too sad or depressed make them unstable and change their own decisions. I'm so sorry about your sister and nieces too, and about her hard pregnancy but I do hope that baby arrives beautifully, healthy and ready to join a good family 💙 They can't make it but you'll have a new baby nephew soon. Two amazing news in the same weeks: a beautiful marriage and a beautiful birth. DOUBLE THE CELEBRATION YAY!! Thank you for the wishes, I also hope everything goes as planned during your day and that everything in your family runs smoothly. I haven't been there, so I'm partly excited for whenever I make the trip. I've seen pictures they send me and it looks mesmerizing. If I'm not mistaken, they live in Waterbury in a small appartment by themselves and the baby, but people in their building have been nice to them since the moment they moved and they've helped a lot so I'm really relieved they're in a place in which they don't feel uncomfortable or unaccepted.

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I am thrilled to have a new baby in the family. It is a lot to celebrate and we're a family that is good at celebrating. I know Waterbury, my mom grew up a few towns over. I grew up about an hour away. If you get the chance to go in the early fall, the colors are spectacular. I'm glad they are being welcomed. It is really hard being away from everyone you grew up with in a new place, but your support and their neighbors will make it easier. Good luck to you!

View Quoted Comment That's wonderful!! I will take the advice and plan it to early fall, it's also my favorite time or year. Thank you so much for such amazing words and nice conversation 🥰 Good luck to you too and many many blessings to you and your spouse today, tomorrow and forever!!

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Thank you so much. Enjoy planning and may your marriage be blessed with joy and love.