Song ideas

This isn't something that I would surprise him with. That's a very personal moment and he shouldn't feel pressured to share it with anyone else if he doesn't want to. It's also important that he has input on the song since, again, this is his moment.

As stated above, it IS a very personal moment and a surprise like that might rock his world. Though I wouldn't surprise him, here is a song suggestion to bring the idea up to him.

Celine Dion - Because You Loved Me. My mom and her sibling's played it at my grandmother's funeral when the song FIRST came out, and it still feels very much like a parent-child song.

But don't be surprised if he does shoot down the idea.

Oh my god please do not surprise him with something like this. My dad died in 2014 so obviously I can't do a father daughter dance. I'm planning an alternative with my brothers but if I wanted to forego it altogether and my FH "surprised" me with something else I would be seriously pissed. Talk to him and ask him if he would like to dance with this other person and if he says no, drop it.

While it's not the exact same situation, I lost my dad about 6 years ago, and even though my fiance can definitely think of others who could step in for the dance (my brother, my uncle that I live with), he knows my relationship with my dad was very special to me and distinct from others. I've had to grieve the idea of him not walking me down the aisle or having the dance, and have come to accept it, so if anything changed in terms of the dance, I'd be mentally thrown off. I'm not sure how your fiance has handled the grief, but I understand it's different for everyone. But if this dance is something he's open to, go ahead. It is your wedding and the relationships are unique and it can still be meaningful for his best friend's mom.

As for songs, "You'll Be in My Heart" from Tarzan?

We don’t have this exact situation going on, but an alternative suggestion would be to maybe do a dedication song to his mother? Then let him choose who to dance with during it. That’s what we are doing for our grandparents who have passed away. As far as songs go, we picked ones by their favorite artists or songs we knew they really enjoyed.