Sorry

I totally agree with you. You got parents treating your wedding like a reunion party. People trying to dictate your day. Others trying to pressure you to bend the rules for them. If someone offers to help pay for the wedding and you accept you find out it always comes with strings attached. It's absolutely ridiculous.

Nobody wishes they should have eloped more than I do right now. I just want this over and done with. I’m sure I will thoroughly enjoy the day but I hope it was all worth it... Have a great Wedding Dat!

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View Quoted Comment Omg yes! And then when you add covid to the mix and you have to cut people you really want there, postpone and postpone again. It’s A LOT.

I've wished this so many times. When covid started ruining our wedding, our families tortured us over every decision we made. We nearly split up over it. Boy oh boy weddings make people insane.

Yup! I swear for years now I’ve always been vocal about eloping because I just don’t want to deal with a big production... yet here we are 🙃 my FH is more traditional than I am and I know our families would be disappointed so we’re - I mean I am - planning a big white wedding for 100+ people in a ruralish town 2.5 hrs from where I live 🙃


At this point I’m just trying to view it as a good way to see and connect with everyone after this insane year, but if I could back I would probably elope and then plan a big backyard party or something as a ‘reception’ with everyone included 😫
You’re almost there though! 🎉💕

You can say that again! All these opinions kill me and drain me every day. I really wished they had a warning for couples before they entered into the world of planning blindly. I swear no one is ever satisfied and never thinks about the pressure and stress you may be under and then you add covid to the mix. Just yesterday I considered cancelling,, wondering if the stress is worth it.

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OMG yes! All of this. It is definitely a reunion to a lot of people. And toss money at you to solve any problem knowing it comes with strings. After a while my fiance and I stopped accepting help because it's like dealing with investors, you take their money you take their input. I just wish people were more compassionate and less self-serving.

Our day is also 03/20. :-D

And we are also soooo ready for it to be over. I am so stressed. It's a church-backyard-DIY-wedding which I never wanted because I knew how much work it would be but that's all we could effort. I am still very excited about our wedding and sure it will be beautiful. But it caused a lot of tears and sleepless nights.
We are in the lucky/unlucky position that both our families are far away, so no unwanted advise there. But also it means they can't come (my family due to covid travel restrictions). But I am still trying to please everybody and do everything right and I want guests to like it and enjoy themselves and that makes me so nervous. And whenever asking people for etiquette advise or reading online I got a thousand different answers with also stressed me. And I just got so tired making decisions and trying to comply with etiquette, pandemic, budget, what fiancé wants and what I want. Aaaaaaaah.
Anyway, it's almost over. There are still a million things to do but we can do it. And then we are married. I can't believe it. I will be a married woman in 9 days. That's still somehow unreal.

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I hope you tune in!!

View Quoted Comment That is what keeps me going everyday. I will be married in 9 days!!

You are not alone, girlfriend! I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined people would be opinionated about your wedding day. My biggest lesson from being engaged is to not give a damn about anyone else's opinion- people will always give you unsolicited advice, or just simply bash your thoughts if they don't agree. You're 9 days out! Enjoy this last stretch and take it all in!! It'll all be worth it so soon! Can't wait to see pics!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so very much!!

Plan the wedding you and fiance want and let all the other opinions go in one ear and out the other. They either already had their party or are waiting their turn so their decisions/ideas are moot..

View Quoted Comment I respect what you are saying. If I don't listen I'm going to go crazy!!

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If you listen to a million opinions coming at you, you will lose all sense of reality and confidence in your own decisions.

Hang in there!! Try not to let people live in your head rent free. Don’t question your judgment and try to enjoy this time leading up to the wedding. You won’t get it back and it goes by so fast. Woosah —your day is almost here. You got this!!

View Quoted Comment Michelle I so agree with you!!! People can be so selfish. Folks were telling me and my husband to go ahead and get married because we don't need the big party. Save our money. Others claimed they understood how we felt in wanting to have our big party as it has always been our dream. I started to block out the noise because most had their big party like they wanted already and others would want the same. So yes plan the wedding you and your future husband has always dreamed of.

I think almost every bride can relate to this! I hope you have such an amazing day though that you’ll be so happy with your original decision