TL;DR - We have to cut our guest list down even further because of COVID restrictions. I want to remove some family from the list (obligatory invites) but it will cause major tension. Advice needed!
Background: we postponed our wedding by 1 year to 12/12/21 but due to 4 months of COVID lockdown (we live in Australia) we decided to downsize our wedding from 160 people to 47 and have a seated dinner in place of a dinner and dancing reception, in the process, losing a lot of money. The government has now announced that from 1 December all hospitality venues are only allowed 1 person per 2sqm which means that for our private dining room that could hold 50 people, will now only permit 38 people in total, including children. Changing the wedding plans is not an option at this point for the sake of my mental wellbeing.
I can get our guest list down to 42 people but I still need to remove another 4. The 42 people currently on the list (other than FH and I) are our parents and siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, 3 children (our page boy and 2 flower girls), 3 family friends on FH's parents' side, and 2 family friends on my parents' side, and we have 17 friends of FH and I combined.
It would be logistically difficult to remove all 3 children from the guest list because they are in the wedding party along with their parents and as we have no gap between events, the only way to send them home before dinner would be if babysitters were arranged to pick them up. I can remove 2 people from my guest list but we want to keep the family friends as they are as close as family to our parents.
Issue: the best case scenario would be for me to remove my dad's nephews from the list as that would bring us down to 37 people but it would cause MAJOR beef in the family. I come from a very tight knit Russian family and my aunt (dad's side) would be absolutely furious if her grown sons weren't invited. We don't have much of a relationship with them which is why I'd prefer for them to get the boot from the list (they were obligatory invites because we knew we'd be put through hell if we didn't invite them) but now that I have to cut our guest list to 38 people, I don't see any other alternative unless we cut out people who we'd actually want there solely for the sake of keeping the peace in the family.
My parents keep saying that "whoever [we] remove will understand" (NOTE, invites haven't gone out yet) but I haven't mentioned to them what I hoped to do. When we previously discussed having a tiny wedding this caused such bad tension that my dad said if his sister gets offended and doesn't go to the wedding, he won't come either.
HELP!