Spin-Off: Bridesmaid-zilla stories

@ Michelle - I know my photographer wouldn't let her see the pictures, I was just so shocked that she even thought this was okay to do. She said she wanted to see which pictures she wanted so she could order. I told her THREE times any pictures she wanted I would be more than happy to make copies. She kept insisting on contacting him. I sent him an email to give him a heads up. He said she never contacted him and if she ever does, he's telling her no.

Wow, I am so sorry that you all experienced these things, but they do make for entertaining stories, so thanks for that.

We decided not to have a bridal party - I have a Man of Honor (whose fatal flaw is that he's a little unresponsive at times) and FH has his Best Man and that's it. I'm not sure if it's because I'm older, but dealing with a bridal party really didn't interest me at all.

More bridezilla-like, but maybe 10 or 11 years ago, a then friend asked me to be a bridesmaid, then un-asked me to make room for her sister because her mom complained, then told me that I could bring anyone to the wedding EXCEPT my then boyfriend (of about a year and a half at the time - whom I'd known for about eight years at that point). That was when I decided to give up on that friendship.

Originally I wasn't going to have a bridal party but my bff at the time was so upset. She was part of the proposal planning process and so I felt bad and caved. A month later she got back with her abusive ex bf and asked me to keep it from her parents. When I said no, she "dumped" me as a friend. My 2nd BM was my bff from high school. When she found out I was engaged she said she was disappointed because she thought I was pregnant. (Uh wtf). She too was insistent on being a BM so I caved. But once planing started she refused to come to any events ignoring my invites to dress shop, engagement party (at MY house where we were providing food). She refused to meet any of the other BM's and even tried to dictate who could come over to my house. When I said all the BM could pick their own dress she sent me one from alibaba for $5 even though she had the biggest salary out of all the BM's. Long story short I asked her to come as a guest.

I'm afraid to ask mine for this very reason! I'm leaning towards no bp at all because I am so over drama right now.

I asked mine 11 months out. I have a close nit group of 8 friends and have 3 BM and 1 MOH. So to stop all the wondering, I chose mine. Everyone was understanding. I didn't want it to become a contest or anything in anticipation for me to choose. Several people were shocked I didn't choose my sister.

No horror stories yet, but 8.5 months to go!

I haven't had any issues, but I know someone else who did. I have no idea how early she asked her girls, but here's what happened:

1) One BM never ordered her dress. I think they were supposed to be from an etsy shop. Eventually, she came forward and told the bride that she hadn't ordered the dress because of financial reasons, but had saved up and was ready to order the dress, only weeks before the wedding. But the dress was sold out. The bride was upset because she would have just paid for the girl's dress when it was supposed to be ordered, and had her reimburse her later when she could.

2)The bride's solution to being short a BM dress was to reallocate the MOH's dress to the BM. I believe the bride had paid for the MOH's original dress, so she told the MOH (her sister) they would need to pick a different one. They searched all over, and finally the bride had to just pick one. The MOH hated it. It was light purple instead of dark purple and I guess the MOH wasn't okay with that. In the end, the MOH wore the dress for the ceremony, and wore jeans and a white tank top during the reception.

3) One of the BMs brought her entire family (parents, siblings) to the wedding. The reception was plated, so the bride had to pay for extra meals and I think I remember hearing rumblings at the wedding of there not being enough extra food to accommodate the uninvited guests, so I'm not exactly sure how they got everyone a plate. I think each plate had a piece of chicken and a piece of beef, so maybe they gave some people just chicken and others just beef?

I asked mine as soon as I got engaged. I had the same thought as many ladies here (these ladies have been my best friends for 8-27 years!). I get the reasons not to now. Hopefully because I admit my mistake, it will keep the bad mojo away from me! I actually called my MOH and told her some of the horror stories I've read here and apologized in case I put her in any position she didn't want to be. She convinced me that she is so happy and that her hubby reenlisted so no one will be losing jobs and not being able to afford to go (I told her many stories about this). I'm glad she understands my crazy. But I'm so glad there hasn't been any issues and hopefully there won't be!

I've known my brother's wife my since I was about 8 years old and we've been fairly close my entire adult life. But she's been really looney ever since I asked her to be a BM. First, she was mad that I didn't ask her to be my MOH.

She was always really weird about wedding stuff when someone would bring it up, so I ended up just asking the rest of my family to not talk about the wedding around her. Then about a month ago she sent me this huge Facebook message about how she was really hurt that my parents are paying for us to have an extravagant wedding when she and my brother didn't get one at all, and that she didn't remember me doing anything for her when they got married. First off, our wedding budget is probably on the low end of average. Second, not that this is really any of her business at all, my parents aren't contributing financially to our wedding at all. When I told her this, she didn't even have anything to say, just went on with her rant. Third, I haven't asked her to DO anything for the wedding, I am not treating her like a glitter covered slave, I just thought it would be nice to have her stand up there with me. And also I was 13 years old when she and my brother got married. They could've had a wedding but they decided not to because they had an infant and had more important things to spend money on.

Now, probably six days ago, my SIL tells me that the other BMs are "hounding" her with Facebook messages asking her to do all this stuff and spend all this money and blahblahblah. Well, turns out that there was ONE Facebook sent by my MOH asking all my BMs and my mom if any of them had any photos of me growing up (I've confirmed with all BMs and my mom that this was the only wedding related message that any of them had sent to her).

I honestly don't know what her deal is, but the last several months have really just made me want to distance myself from her.

I did my asking about a year out. I asked one FSIL because I like the other one and felt like it would be a big deal if I asked one and not the other. The one I didn't want to ask has gone from being totally overbearing to having a complete meltdown and saying she doesn't want to be in the wedding or attend at all as a guest on two separate occasions. FMIL is worried that if FSIL doesn't come at all that FH and I will hate her for the rest of our lives and I'm over here all like, just pass the wine.

I asked my sister to be my MOH knowing that she hates when she is not the center of attention and would pull something to take the attention off of my wedding and on her instead. I joking told FH that the only way she could do it would to get pregnant. We found out a month or so ago she is in fact pregnant and her due date is the day of my wedding. She also recently confessed to getting pregnant on purpose. So long story short one of my best friends is now MOH which I should have done in the first place but was guilted into it because she is my only sister.

Pretty soon after I got engaged one of my sisters started complaining about the fact that I wanted short dresses for bridesmaids. I had mentioned it to another sister whom is asked to be my MOH. I hadn't asked this sister to be a bridesmaid. Literally two days after I was engaged she was planning what she wanted to wear as part of my bridal party...I should have known since she has a caused problem at every wedding. The frist time ever we gave her a pass because she was getting a divorce but the second one she complained about the dress color and not being able to find shoes. She complained that she didn't have time to go shoe shopping but would go out with her friends all the time. Before asking anyone else FH and I decided to keep the bridal party small, just MOH and BM. I know some of my sister are sad, but it is my choice.

Ugh yea so many regrets on this. I genuinely don't know why I decided to have a bridal party or why I choose the girls I did. Maybe being high on the engagement didn't help.

One of the bridesmaids (FHs friend) has turned out to be very opinionated and judgemental. She says things like "oh those flowers suck but it's your wedding so it's upto you" or "You HAVE to do an arch, it's tacky if you dont, but that's just my opinion. You know what look you would like so I'll stay out of it." Gee, thanks for shitting on my ideas and then reminding me it's my wedding.

I've planned almost the entire thing by myself and don't want or expect the bms to help with anything (even opinions) but that bridesmaid still finds a way to put down every idea she hears.

ME!! So, my (self-appointed) MOH is in the same grad program as me. She did a few crazy things in school while drunk, some of which could have got ME and other students in trouble. When I confronted her, she said I was just trying to find excuses not to get married (WTF). Thank God she was very civil on my wedding day, but afterwards blocked me on FB for not joining her "rebellion" against the profs she hates.