Spin Off- Virgins..first time doing it!

As MrsSasswood2016 said, don't force it or feel like you HAVE to on your wedding night. One of my good friends waited until her wedding night and she was so nervous during the reception just thinking about what was going to happen later that night. Turned out, they tried and tried and it just wouldn't work. In fact, they weren't able to fully make it work until a few months after they were married (she was very petite at the time). But rest assured, it works just fine for them now! So, just relax and enjoy your wedding and whatever happens afterward, happens.

Not going to sugar coat things but it's probably not going to hurt like hell at first. Go slow, foreplay is your friend, and if it hurts too much stop. Also pee after because utis will ruin a honeymoon.

The level of pain and whether you bleed varies. I had very little pain the first time and no bleeding. Make sure to take it slow and communicate. Practically speaking, have some lube on hand in case you need it. Have a towel for after and pee after.

And try to not put too high of expectations on that night - you'll be tired and nervous and on an adrenaline high, most likely. It won't be the best sex of your life and that's ok, you have time to figure it out.

Get some lube just in case for sure!

Foreplay foreplay foreplay. Don't let him stick his peen in your shoe until you are good and ready. If you are at all dry, don't force it in. Grab some lube and make sure ya'll are good and slippery. Be vocal about how things feel, and stop if it hurts too much. You got this.

I won't tell you about my first time, because it would only scare you. Just know that it gets WAY WAY better.

Pp's have given great advice!

On a side note, are you on the pill, or some other form of birth control? If not, have you thought about whether you'll be using condoms, or if you'll be TTC once you're married?

Sorry, I know that's not as fun as all the other advice, but definitely something to think about.

The first few times will probably be very, very...meh for you. It SHOULD get better as you get used to one another physically.

Start very slowly and work up from there. If you don't make it to sex that night, that's okay too.

All the stuff I've read about wedding nights keeps saying that the subjects of the article were so exhausted the night of the wedding that they just cuddled and slept. I know that exhausted sex sucks and can sometimes make it worse so don't feel pressured by others to do it that exact night if you two would rather be more rested and relaxed . Exhaustion tends to make me more frustrated more quickly which isn't always conducive.. (Or if it's super important to you to do it that exact night then go for it just take your time and enjoy the fact that you're with your love!!)

Whoever said go pee afterwards is genius. Like pretty soon after too (no hours of cuddling).

The last thing you want as a souvenir from your wedding night is a UTI.

@spazzy i died laughing at your first comment

Yes, definitely get up soon after (think within 5 minutes!) and go pee. Like over time train yourself to NEED to pee after sex. Seriously. I can't tell you how many times I've given myself a UTI because I forgot or I got comfortable and thought, "I'll just cuddle up for a few more minutes..." and fell asleep.

I don't remember it hurting, but it was a long time ago.

Yes, pee after.

The first time PROBABLY won't be amazing sexually, but hopefully it won't be too uncomfortable intimacy-wise.

On the bedside table, have tissues/washcloth/towel, water, lube.

People always say the first time will hurt, but the truth is it might, it might not. My first time didn't hurt at all. It was his first time too and we were both nervous and awkward and it was over really fast.

But it has hurt subsequent times; like PPs have said, if you feel dry, it will hurt. Use lube and/or extend foreplay until you're ready to go.

Also like PPs have said, don't expect fireworks. Just enjoy the moment with your new husband and take it for what it is. Practice makes perfect!

Foreplay.

I power kicked FH off the bed my first time, good luck...

Lmao Jasmine

Not sure if anyone mentioned this, but you may also want to try girl-on-top first. Gives you much more control and if it gets to be too much, or if he is rather large, you can go more at your own pace.

You actually should never bleed from sex. Girls only bleed when they are not fully lubricated and try to force it in anyway. Just don't force it and you will be fine. For me alcohol really helped. I was so nervous and just a beer or two helped relax me.

It might help not to look at it as a big night, but rather the first of many. My first time was extremely painful but afterwards I realized that was because he never actually asked if i wanted to and i was scared, so really i was raped my first time. For you, just try to relax and enjoy the moments as they go by! And have some lube on hand!

It may hurt. It may not. You may bleed. You may not. All are normal. It depends a lot on your hymen - which also, fyi has nothing to do with virginity. Some women are born hardly a trace of a hymen to begin with, others have a hymen that thins significantly during puberty, others have much thicker hymens that arent stretched as easily and can result in a little blood your first time. Some women also have something known as 'imperforate hymen' with little to no opening at all that requires surgery, but thats super rare and you'd almost certainly know if that was you.

I dont think I ever had much of any hymen - i can never remember it 'breaking' at any point in my life, and my first time was painless (though awkward as hell and shortlived, lol).