Spin Off- Virgins..first time doing it!

Alexandria: tell that to my 17 year old self and the pillow I had to throw away

Foreplay is the most important thing to remember ! Communicate with your partner ! I'm linking some good videos from a human sexuality professor who doesn't dance around topics. I watched her stuff when I first started experimenting with my sexuality and she's awesome !

https://youtu.be/F_hGkcrgtdc

https://youtu.be/WmZnNWtQ2DE

https://youtu.be/xoYxd3E3UXU

Those are just a few. She's has so much more on her channel, definitely worth checking out

I'll second (or third? Fourth?) pee right after. As "unsexy" as "hey baby let me go pee" might feel right after, the UTI will be even worse.

@therightlane- not sure if it's a myth either, but I played sports my whole life and it didn't hurt for me at all either!

I was 16 and I didn't bleed or have any pain. Use mouth lube, don't expect to have an orgasm, and it'll probably last about 45 seconds unless he's wasted.

My first wedding, we were both totally inexperienced 18 year old virgins, and it took us several tries over several days. But honestly, the anxiety was WAY worse than the pain, which isn't anything that would make you cry or anything. I know it's over said, but the truth is the more anxious you are the more the muscles will tense and you will be dry, and then it will hurt worse. So whatever you can do to relax! No pressure for that night, wine, long make out session, vibrator, whatever!

Also, maybe every other human on the planet knows this, but when I was a virgin bride I did not... the cum comes back out. I totally thought it disappeared into my womb or something! Nope. It all comes back out. Messy surprise. Thus why you need a towel!

Take it slow. No pressure. Try to familiarize yourself with each other's bodies. Lots of heavy petting, maybe mutual masturbation, etc. Do not force it. If you are not relaxed, in my experience, it may hurt some. And just remember practice makes perfect

@Charity I second the surprise of cum dripping out! There are so many things movies leave out.

My first time didn't hurt much. Maybe only for a minute tops. Try not to over think things and relax. Seriously, go pee after every time.

Let it happen naturally. Dont worry if its not your wedding night. You're gonna be tired from the day.

Also if he hasnt had sex in 7 years dont expect him to last long on the first few rounds.

@spazzy... Truth!

Lube. Lube. Lube.

Because he doesn't know your turn-ons yet you may be a bit slower to get your embers to flame up to fire. (AKA wet). KY jelly is sold in every drug store and will help with this. Not too much, you don't want it to become a slippery eel. Just enough.

And tell him to concentrate on the nub or don't be afraid to do it yourself during, if he's into your pleasure he should not be put off by this.

If you are thoroughly aroused, nothing will hurt. I would recommend good ol' cunnilingus before intercourse.

Lube. Also we didn't even have sex on our wedding night. We were both exhausted! Take it slow. Don't put too much on the first time. It's going to be a little awkward. But communicate and start slow.

Agree with others saying....do what feels great that night. If you go "all the way", great! If not, enjoy doing something maybe you haven't done yet. My first time was after a few attempts where penetration just wasn't happening (he was well-endowed, and I was obviously a virgin with a ton of Catholic guilt!). When it finally happened, it just kinda happened! I was happy things finally worked because I was starting to feel like something was wrong with me, but...no.

You don't say whether or not you have masturbated before. If you haven't, take some time between now and the wedding to explore your body and learn what you like. If you're able to bring yourself to orgasm on your own, it will be easier to share an orgasm with your FH. A lot of women make the mistake of arriving at partnered sex without having masturbated first, and it makes it that much harder to communicate what works and what doesn't work for you if you haven't taken the time to learn your body solo. If you don't have one already, get a vibrator (ideally from a reputable female-owned sex shop) and use it to massage your clit at first. When I bought my first vibrator, I made the mistake of wanting to go straight to insertion before I was wet and it hurt.

Don't set your expectations too high for the first time, and don't feel pressured to perform the night of the wedding. You will both most likely be very tired from the wedding and if your FH has too much to drink at the reception, he might not be able to get hard. Even if he does get hard, he hasn't had sex in 7 years, so he will most likely finish quickly.

If you have the energy for sex on your wedding night, I would suggest starting with a lot of foreplay. Make out, roll around, and have your FH take care of your pleasure orally and/or digitally before any penetrative sex. It will feel better for both of you. You will be wet from the foreplay and if your FH makes you come before penetration, he won't feel bad if he's not able to get hard or if he finishes quickly.

I agree with PPs advice about peeing shortly after sex. I know cuddling after sex is romantic, but if you wait too long to pee, you can get a urinary tract infection. If you do end up getting a UTI anyway, the cranberry pills are more effective at treating it than cranberry juice, and drink lots of water.

Have you not googled any of this information for yourself at this point? Do you really need to hear from other women at this point? Your wedding is DAYS away.....get yourself together!!

Lots of lube!

As asked before, will you be using condoms at all? If so, are you allergic to latex? You should definitely be aware of any allergy beforehand or it sucks so incredibly much to figure it out the hard way.