Spin off: What do you think is "okay" to post on social media regarding the wedding?

I feel the same way you do. We posted when we got engaged, and then our photographer put up some e-pics. I changed my FB profile picture to one of them. The only other wedding thing I posted was when we got to the year mark because I was super excited. Even then I just put something like "1 more year to go."

A little off topic, but I have never mentioned my shower on FB. A lady I worked with over a year ago messaged me asking if she could give me a gift either before or after my shower. It was so random!

Oooh, this is a good thread! I think you're right...the "announcement" and then pictures afterwards. I did post a few crafts that I was working on, but I wanted to brag on my talents and never specifically mentioned that they were WEDDING crafts, but I'm sure people could figure it out. ;-) Any wedding-related communication can definitely be done through private FB messaging.

I posted when we got engaged and our engagement photos. Other than that I've been pretty quiet. Every once in a while when I hit a milestone in my countdown I'll post. Last week I posted "100 days until we're married!" or something of that affect.

So far I posted that we got engaged and I shared a ring pick. When I got my shoes, I did a collage sneak peek I posted on Instagram and shared that on FB too. Otherwise, I'm definitely keeping stuff off it.

I've put that we are engaged and changed the relationship status. Most people don't even know the date. Since our engagement is only about 6 months, people won't necessarily expect it yet which avoids them asking if they can come! I will post wedding pics afterward.

OH! I did a ring pic, but I made it into a "look I'm doing my own gel nails!" pic. I definitely think a ring pic is okay.

Sometimes I wish we could have a list for new brides to WW of good and bad ideas especially in regards to social media. I never would have thought to keep stuff off social media had one of my college friends who got married in September of last year become something of a wedding mentor for me in the beginning stages. Her #1 suggestion was to keep the wedding planning off FB as much as possible. While she's not an oversharer by any stretch of the word, she did have a TON of issues with people coming out of the woodwork and asking for invites (so glad I wasn't one of those people).

The one and only thing I posted......."He asked, I said yes!". Nothing about the wedding has been shared on social media.

Did a ring pic and an engagement post, a "I said yes to the dress" status, and I'll occasionally post pictures of me and my bridesmaids out doing things. While I don't specifically mention wedding, I do use our wedding hashtag. I keep it mostly to Instagram though, where I am much more selective with my friends, and people generally comment less on there.

@Brittany, same here! Our engagement was only 5 months, so when pictures were tagged and put up, there was a lot of 'OMG ALREADY?! CONGRATS!" instead of "Hey, where's my invite?"

Agree with all of the above. There's a bride on my Facebook that posts incessantly and most recently that they have decided to go with a honeyfund account because it's totally ok now that everyone is doing it

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Here's a spin off to the spin off...

What about other people's posts?

My cousin (also a BM) posted a picture of a mimosa and said "Elizabeth said yes to the dress! Celebrating with brunch!" which I was okay with.

The artist who did my invites also posted (with information redacted and did not tag us) the painting and invites for his portfolio. I was a little peeved that he didn't wait until after the wedding, but since none of my friends (to my knowledge) have liked his page, I didn't ask him to remove it (I understand wanting to have this in your portfolio).

I'm also like Lizzy. I post more on Instagram than in Facebook, but not much more. I posted a picture of the castle we're getting married at when we officially booked and I posted my shoes because they're fabulous.

Whatever I feel like posting. Relationship status change, ring pic and little updates (going to a wedding fayre with a fellow engaged friend, any DIYs probably). Not much of a sharer anyway but think it helps that I only use FB to keep in touch with family so literally everyone on my friends list is invited.

I post a lot more on my blog actually.

I didn't even post my engagement first...I was in NC with his family when it happened, and I couldn't get my mom on the phone, so I didn't want to post it. But his cousin posted a picture of us, with him on the one knee and me crying, captioned "She said yes! Can't wait until she's officially one of our family!!!" with FH and I tagged in the photo! So yeah, that happened! But I did post an Instagram post with the ring and shared it to Facebook. Since then, nothing, although the girls from my bachelorette posted some pics of me and them with captions about that event. I'll change my status, and maybe post some pics the day of the wedding, but probably nothing until we get photos back from our photographer. I'm not a big sharer of life events, and I've been put off of all that by people who I know who are.

Our photographer put our proposal photos/video on FB under a pretty strict filter, but otherwise nothing is on there, IIRC. I talk on Tumblr all the time, because Tumblr is my prosthetic brain part, but I'm pretty careful about keeping FB and Tumblr separate.

I've shared a few photos of planning stuff and my ring on Instagram but the only post I've made on FB is to change my relationship status to engaged (oh and my mom tagged me in a photo that she took when FH and I announced our engagement to my parents). I will share our e-pics there and could see maybe posting something like "1 month to go!" before the wedding but that's about it. Oh and sharing wedding photos and that updated status.

I pretty much agree with everything you said in the OP. So far all we've done is change our relationship status when we got engaged. I didn't even post a ring pic. I will post an engagement photo when we get them, and then of course announce when we actually we get married. However, our BP members shouted us out on social media when we asked them to be part of the wedding. That's fine with me, but I hope we don't have any people posting pics of the STDs or invitations like some other brides talk about here. I'd be a bit annoyed because I'm trying to keep things low key.

I posted when we got engaged, like 3 pics from our engagement shoot, and when we booked our honeymoon (we were a little to excited for that one)

I agree about the I'm engaged and I'm married posts.

Other than that only pictures. I think its rude to post anything else.

We have 60 days until wedding. So far I have changed my status (back in February) on Facebook that we are getting married and put one ring picture titled "obligatory ring pic" on Instagram. Other than that nothing. But I'm not a big social media poster anyway and we didn't get engagement photos done.