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Spinoff - "spanking" post

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We'llAlwaysHaveParis, on April 16, 2013 at 10:12 AM

We should really divide this discussion into two. Do you have children? Do you believe in spanking? If you don't have children? Do you believe in spanking? There were A LOT of things I said I wouldn't do prior to having kids and guess what. . .I was an awesome parent pre-kids. LOL All I can say is...

We should really divide this discussion into two.

Do you have children? Do you believe in spanking?

If you don't have children? Do you believe in spanking?

There were A LOT of things I said I wouldn't do prior to having kids and guess what. . .I was an awesome parent pre-kids. LOL All I can say is never say never. You don't know what will or what won't work for each of YOUR kids until you're in the the throes of mommyhood.

Be careful who you judge in public too. You're seeing a situation or a family for 5 minutes, the family has been together the entire day. You don't know what happened that morning or 10 minutes ago. People don't exist in a bubble of time.

As they say, the best parents don't have kids (yet).

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Candy · on April 18, 2013 at 12:17 AM
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1) I think a lot of people are taking what was said the wrong way. I didn't interpret it as people who don't have kids don't have a relevant opinion, but the truth is those of us who don't have kids CAN'T know how we will react when faced with situations in the future.

2- I think spanking is necessary in some situations. It depends heavily on the individual child. Some respond best and maybe only to this, some don't.

3- On the subject of punishment vs reward, it's a proven fact that reward generates stronger long term results than punishment. Psychologist have proven this in many species. Therefore I don't think it should be looked at as rewarding kids for something they're supposed to do, reward is a good tool to make sure that a behavior is learned and maintained. Not that they need a reward for every good behavior...they would just be a brat then. This also doesn't mean that I don't think there is a time and a place for punishment- the problem with so many kids today is that they don't know consequences for their actions.
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Leanna · on April 18, 2013 at 12:32 AM
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I was the one who said "I'll never spank my child" Then I had my son. Putting him in the corner without a toy or putting him in his room and closing the door usually works - he hates to be alone. There are those times though that he will literally laugh at me and continue doing what I told him not to do. Sometimes it's something dangerous or he's destroying something, when we get to that point and nothing else works I've spanked. I hate the look he gives me because its the "why mommy" but after a minute or 2 I'll hug him, attempt to tell him what he did wrong (he's still young so I dont' think he fully understands) and then tell him I love him. The spanking is never on bare bum and it gets the point across.
For those of you who said - I would never hit my dog / cat . Animals are ALOT different than a child. I've raised and trained dogs never having to hit them. I've had cats and other animals and again never hit them. Sorry but a pet and a child are not a good comparison.
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