Spiritual post ahead

What I mean is, you will likely be saying vows, you will have a meaningful ceremony.
I was raised evangelical and the church I was in was very against not being marries by a pastor, so that they would have said for sure to not move in until the church ceremony. It really depends on how you feel.

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Thank you so much for sharing your story!! totally makes sense

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Well FH is becoming a firefighter and late April is when they swear in and fill out paperwork. In this paperwork is where they list their next of kin etc. He wants to list me but we'd have to be married.

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Ok gotcha. thanks for the feedback!

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Yeah my pastor won't be marrying us for the license signing but he knows about it and gave us the green light. It's gonna be more of a notary thing. He'll be performing the ceremony at our wedding in May. I guess I can talk to him about it. He's very Godly without being too religious . . if that makes sense.

Some Christian sects consider marriage a sacrament, and that you should have no sex until the church ceremony. Some will tell you that it is the moment that the two of you take your vow, before God, marriage solely to each other forever. Which is why many do that, briefly at the time of paper signing. And others say, when you are legally married. Where you have lived so long by your sect's teachings, talk to your minister or priest, rather than us. You will be happier to at least know, when you choose.

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You will be legally married by the state and entitled to half of everything of your husband's the minute you sign that paper.

DH is Catholic, I'm not Christian.

We were not able to get married in the Catholic Church, only in a civil ceremony.

He considers us as married as if we were in the Church, because we are.

However, if you do not feel that way, it's up to you... but do keep in mind that many, many, many people never have a religious ceremony. And they are just as married.

First, I completely disagree with anyone who says legal marriage = wedding. A marriage is a legal contract, a wedding is an event, and the two things often go hand in hand but are NOT the same thing.

You need to do what feels right to you. The time difference you are talking about is a not even a full month, so if you have any doubts about whether it is appropriate to move in with your husband before your religious wedding ceremony, I would just wait.

Keep in mind that whether or not you can get legally married beforehand by just signing papers depends on the state. Many states still require a civil ceremony in which some basic vows are shared. Regardless if you choose to marry in April you will be legally married before your religious ceremony in May, and you should verify with your pastor/church that this is permitted, as some churches will not perform wedding ceremonies if you are already or have been previously married.