Spouse seating

It is definitely wrong to keep someone away from sitting from their spouse. I think that weddings shouldn’t even have a wedding party sit with them in a certain table. You and your husband can sit together and let your party sit together. I’ve only heard of that in a quince.

I have been to a few weddings with a few different layouts. The ones were I didn't get to sit with FH because he was in the wedding party just not as fun. It is the couples day but sitting at a table with a bunch of folks I don't know at a wedding is not fun. It's stressful and I am mostly thinking about how much longer it will be before I can be back with FH, I am not paying attention to anything else sadly. Yes we are adults and can suck it up for 30-60+ mins but I am hoping at my wedding there aren't people there who feel as though they have to suck up some minor inconvenience , or truly stressful situation ( depending on the person social situations forcing them to interact with people they don't know could be more than just ackward). I guess it comes down to what is more important and who your WP is. Most of ours are married they are going to want to have dinner with their spouse.

View Quoted Comment Lol someone else said this truth is I usually don't have time for lunch but if I did sitting with FH would be my ideal lunch break. If we worked near each other you can bet I would be with him for lunch. Also work and a wedding are vastly different type of environments. The bride and groom can make a decision on this that takes WP and spouses into consideration. Work is generally not that flexible (so unless you are lucky enough to work with or near your SO) so you may want it to be an option but it isn't.

I've never seen a wedding where the wedding party sat with spouses, to be entirely honest. My wedding party will be at the head table and their spouses will find a seat wherever they'd like since I'm not doing a seating chart. It's only max an hour that they will be apart, so I think they can be friendly with other guests for that long.

View Quoted Comment Not scattered. My sister had all of tus at one table with our dates/SO. It was nice because then we weren't moving around trying to find them to talk to them, etc.

Me and FH are having a sweetheart table and then I’ll sit my bridesmaids and their plus 1s together and groomsmen and plus 1s at two other tables ! I’ve been to two weddings with FH where he’s in the wedding and I’m not and they had head tables and it wasn’t extremely awkward for me and I didn’t know anyone at those tables. So you can do either and I think it would be fine!

View Quoted Comment I have been to 12 out of 12 weddings in 2 years, where all bridal party and their dates or spouses sat at one or two tables, with B and G either with them, or at a nearby Sweetheart table. Next week I expect my BM husband, and MOH me, (we introduced childhood friends of each of us) to sit at a table with the 3 of our 5 children they invited by name. Not at opposite ends of one long table, with the children sitting with bridesmaid's boyfriends and GM wives.

FH and I will be sitting at a sweetheart table while our wedding party will be sitting with their partners at their tables. I don't want to split couples up during dinner.

I have been a bridesmaid and now I’m a bride and I still feel the same way ...sweetheart table only for the bride and groom and the wedding party with significant others, friends or family. I want all the alone time that I can get with FH so we can both have those intimate moments together and soak it all in! 😍

We are having our party sit with us at the Head Table at least through dinner, We will be leaving an open chair at the table where their spouse is seated for them so they are not just assigned to the Head Table. We only have 3 people in our group (1 of my BMs and 2 of his GMs) with this dilemma. Their spouses will be sitting with people that they know since his 2 GMs and their spouses are part of a very big groups of friends that talk and hang out with each other on a daily basis. My 1 BMs spouse will be sitting with our co-workers who he knows very well.

We are going to go with a family sweetheart table. Together we have 3 kids, all 3 will be in the wedding. So, for the reception it's going to be the 5 of us at a table.

Today it's considered rude to separate your bridal party from their spouse. Most head tables incorporate the spouse and/or dates of the bridal party.

I'm honestly tired of this mindset of "It's my wedding. I can do what I want." That's the bridezilla mindset. It is your day and you will never 100% please everyone so you shouldn't bend over backward to please each individual person, but it's still important to be courteous and be a good host. You don't gain anything by having your bridal party sit next to you at some long table instead of with their spouse/SO.

Head tables are very old school; this is 2019. Most people have head tables so it "looks good" in pictures. But you're already going to have a million pictures with your bridal party. Also, nobody wants pictures of people eating, which is all they'll be doing at that table anyway. Talking is difficult at head tables because you can only talk to whoever is next to you.

They and their date are adults and probably will suck it up and deal with being separated without complaining. Do you really want your guests to have to suck it up and feel awkward or alone all night? They're already doing it before the wedding, during the ceremony, during cocktail hour, and then also for the dinner and toast if you go with a head table. I personally want my guests to feel as happy and comfortable as possible. Seeing the people I love enjoy themselves makes me happy. And on your wedding day, you'll be so busy focusing on marrying the person you love, none of those other things will matter. So who cares if your wedding party sits with their dates? Besides, they already spent a ton of money on your wedding, potentially traveled, bought you a gift, bought the outfit you wanted, threw your bridal shower and bachelor/bachelorette party, helped plan, and were emotional support to you. The least you could do is allow them to enjoy sitting with their date. Also, keep in mind that some people may have used their date night away from the kids on your wedding and it would suck to spend that night separated.

Personally, I will be going with a sweetheart table and I will definitely let my wedding party sit with their date!

View Quoted Comment Lol you can’t call someone a bridezilla just because they do something different from you. I don’t care what you’re tired of, you didn’t have to comment. This post is old and i have made adjustments since then, whether i allowed my guests to sit with their spouses or not, i know how to treat them, there are other ways to show appreciation. Good for you and your perfect wedding

We just had a sweetheart table and sat our bridal party with our family because we had just had our siblings and cousins in our bridal party.

I didn’t do a wedding party table because of this. I had a sweetheart table and just husband and I sat alone. I had the the rest of the wedding party sit with their significant other with the people they know.

Spouse always sits with each other. Do not separate couples ever.

Jeez most of these comments are so harsh.
You should do this, you need to do this, etiquette says.
OMG throw etiquette out the dang window! Lol
This is the couples wedding not the guests. Im sorry, but they are attending a wedding and are being fed for free they should go a long with what the bride and groom want
We are doing a head table. Luckily everyone in our wedding party are married or dating others in the wedding party. Only 2 spouses will be sitting with other guests. BUT they are family, so they are sitting with family so there is no akwardness.
Every wedding ive been to had a head table and spouses sat seperate for dinner.
Also head tables have been around for yeaaarss. Not sure why people get so offended over it now
Girl. Do what you want to do!

I've seen it were a bridesmaid sat at the head table and her bf was assigned to sit at the complete opposite end of the rectangular sized reception hall. You could tell it stressed the bridesmaid out bc she couldn't be two places at once. To help combat this issue at my wedding, the S/O of the wedding party will all be seated a few feet away from the head table.

We sat the wedding party with us at the head table and the plus 1s of the wedding party all sat at tables together or with people they already know. My thought process on the matter was plus 1s and the wedding party can deal with being away from each other for the getting ready at the venue (if you're doing that - we did), length of the wedding ceremony, cocktail hour (wedding party photos), and dinner. After dinner we did the 1st dances and then no one sat at the head table the entire rest of the night