Spouse seating

View Quoted Comment I like this idea. Only two people in our wedding party are married, so maybe i should sit those two wives together?

View Quoted Comment This is idea is nice. However, only two people in our wedding are married. Everyone else is single lol. How could i incorporate these two couples?

We are having a small wedding. We have 7 bridesmaids and no groomsmen besides the best man. They are all sitting as guest with their families. Now I have been to weddings with bridal party head tables and the spouses usually just sat with other family or guests, I don’t see the big deal. The only time they sat was for the main course and toasts anyways 🤷‍♀️.

View Quoted Comment Lol exactly, thank you!

I actually sat my wedding party with their spouses and plus ones together. It felt weird to separate them

We did a sweetheart table so our wedding party sat with their significant others among the rest of the guests. (This is why I prefer a king's table over a head table.) Dinner during our reception spanned two hours and I would hate to separate any couples, especially since a handful literally knew no one else at the wedding.

View Quoted Comment I really like your idea, so we’re the dates at another table in front of them at another table or sitting across at the same table?

We are doing a sweetheart table instead of a head table for this reason. I have seen people sit their wedding party with their dates at the head table as well.

You’re definitely not “wrong” because a head table is obviously a common thing. But for what it’s worth, I was a guest at a wedding FH was in and they had a head table. I knew only one other guest so I was pretty much by myself a lot of the night and it was really awkward and uncomfortable.

View Quoted Comment All of your guests should be getting food and drinks for free. They’re also all sitting with their dates, everyone except for your wedding party. Of course it’s the couple’s wedding and you can do as you please, I just don’t understand what anyone benefits by putting the wedding party on display for dinner and making their significant others sit alone.

Maybe in the old days...but I think that would be super uncomfortable. Why would you separate someone from their significant other? It’s just inconsiderate.

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Our head table is one LONG table and we are extending dates to all of our bridal party members. The bridal party will sit on the side of the table my FH and I will be sitting on and the dates/spouses will be sitting directly across from the bridal party member they came with. FH and I will sit together on the one side with no one directly across from us. It's like family style dinner seating.

If you’re doing a head table, you can have you’re bridal parties SO’s/dates all sit at a table together. By the reception, they will likely all know each other (at least well enough to talk for a 45 minute dinner) from spending time together at pre-wedding events and the rehearsal.

View Quoted Comment It is, but its still not the kindest to sit your friends alone and exposed because you want a certain look. They're your friends, not props and their comfort should be taken into consideration just as much as the 'look' of a head table

I was invited to a wedding where my FH was one of the groomsmen.

I didn't get to talk to him from 2pm when we arrived to about 7pm, after dinner. The ceremony and reception were at the same venue, so I made friends with the GF of one of the other groomsmen (let's call her Cindy) and some of their friends. I sat with them at the ceremony.

When we got to the reception area, all of the groomsmen's friends were seated together and I was assigned a table with the bride's cousins who I've never seen before.

I'm sorry to say that I seated myself at the table with Cindy and the others, luckily there was an unoccupied place. I had way more fun because of that.

Recently, my mom was her younger sister's BM. As soon as the BMs ate dinner they went to the table where their families were seated, so the head table was really empty.

The usher also made a huge mistake and placed two people with a terrible history at the same table. One of them ended up leaving the reception before dinner was even served.

Personally I'm not doing seating charts, I'll let the wedding party sit at a "sweetheart table" next to ours with their SOs for dinner. Our immediate families will get reserved tables in front, and everyone else can sit where they please.

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This sounds like a nice idea

View Quoted Comment I’m not being inconsiderate, i was never aware that significant others sitting with someone in the wedding party was a thing. I’ve always been to a wedding where all of the wedding party sat together. All of my other guests and their spouses are sitting together. They would only be sitting separate for dinner, they will live. My FH was recently in a wedding and i wasn’t even invited. Lol ppl can’t always have their way.

View Quoted Comment I am now thinking of doing this, thank you for the idea.

View Quoted Comment I’ve thought of this idea too but only two ppl in the wedding party are married, i think i am going to try the king style table.

View Quoted Comment SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! ITS THE COUPLES WEDDING NOT THE GUESTS 🙌👏