Spouse seating

View Quoted Comment Yes i think this is what I’m now going to do

View Quoted Comment Good luck! I’m sure whatever you decide will be great. Just make the decision that’s best for you. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding 😊

It’s funny that people say they would be miserable if they couldn’t eat dinner with their spouse at SOMEONE ELSES wedding. I laugh because it’s not their wedding! This is your day! You do it how you want! Personally, I have been to a lot of weddings when my FH and I couldn’t sit together because one of us is in the wedding. But it’s not our wedding so why add that extra stress to the couple by complaining. 30-45 minutes of FREE food and some people still find something to complain about. I’m not sure if it’s their codependency or control, but I completely disagree with most of the comments on this post.

View Quoted Comment Right! Some ppl are ridiculous! Thank you for understanding

Were doing a head table but I've placed the families at the closest 3 tables. None of our bridal party has had an issue with it.

Awww That's so sweet and kind to do. Enjoy
being that beautiful bride on your special day.

Well we are not having a wedding party table just a sweethearts table..so my seating chart was easy..I did place my wedding party tables close to our table and did seat their spouses with them..

I went to a wedding in June that my FH was a groomsman. The couple had the head table with the bridal party, then an assigned table for the spouses of the bridal party, so they were all together. It worked well with us because we knew most of the couples, so during dinner I was at a table I knew people.

At my best friend’s wedding last year she added an extra seat at the wedding party table for everyone’s plus one.

View Quoted Comment Right, i made sure their spouses sat with people they knew or around the same age group and could easily converse with

We are having a sweetheart table - FH AND I.. then a table of our wedding party and their SO

I've been debating on this as well. Several members of the wedding party have kids and I want them to be comfortable. But then, almost every wedding I've been to have a bridal party table.

Honestly, I’m doing a sweetheart table so me and my fiancé can relax and talk about our last 24 hours. We talk crazy so I rather no one be around while we gossip like two teens cause we haven’t seen each other to talk and most likely talk about our crazy family lol.

View Quoted Comment Lol! I’m having a sweetheart table too, i just might adjust my party table some

View Quoted Comment This sounds ideal!

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Yes, but when you invite people and ask people to be part of your day, it also becomes about considering their comfort as well.

I still see head tables a lot, but no one in the bridal party ever likes them, and neither do their significant others. It's just better for everyone if they can sit with their spouse/date. There's no real reason for them to all sit together with you.

We had all wedding party and their spouses, fiancés or dates sitting together at two tables, with our table between the bigger ones. Most weddings I have been in, the only time the bridal party is separate from their mate or date is during the ceremony. I won't be in a wedding any more, nor will hubby, if the B and G intend to separate BM and GM from SO for dinner. I would rather be a guest, and enjoy dinner and dancing with my SO, than be in WP, but sit away from SO. Not that much of an honor to be unhappy all night

I sat our bridesmaids & groomsmen with their significant others/kids/friends/family. I wanted them to enjoy themselves and not be forced to sit at a head table. We had a sweetheart table.

View Quoted Comment Yes!!!
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If you don’t work at the same place as your spouse, then you don’t eat with them until Dinner most weekdays, depending on the work schedule. They will be okay not sitting with them for a few minutes at a Wedding.

Yikes! It never fails to surprise me when people can be so self-centered as guests. We were told three minutes was offensive because guests wouldn't want to sit around and have to watch us have a first dance that was that long. I've seen people say that you need to make sure to keep speeches no more than 2 minutes because "guests don't want to sit through that." I've even seen poor brides be told that they should change their religious ceremony of 50 minutes to a condensed 15 minute ceremony "because as a guest I would be bored." Like with those instances, I could never understand guests expecting the bride and groom to accommodate them with not having a head table. I have nothing against sweetheart tables, but as a rule of thumb, head tables are traditional and always have been since the 80s. And it's just the bridesmaids and groomsmen, no plus ones. It's considered a special honor to be seated at that table as a group of your best and favorite people you want with you throughout the day. As fiance of a very popular FH, I have attended numerous weddings where the FH was in the wedding and I sat at a table with strangers. Sometimes with friends. I carried polite conversations--sometimes made some new friends and you know what? Still had a great time! I didn't need to be attached to my FH the entire event to still enjoy myself. I understood he was there for his friend and happy to be invited and watch him as a groomsman. Maybe some people would be annoyed with that. (MY FSIL did ask if I could seat her husband at the head table and I said no. I am sitting him with some friendly SOs of other bridal members.) She accepted it though it wasn't her preference because it was my wedding and there is no harm in it. I think some people get so wrapped up in the attitude that you have to be ultra-hyper aware of your guests every need that the line between being a good host and sacrificing your wedding to their wants gets crossed. I think as a host you must provide food, drink, and entertainment. Greet your guests. Ensure they are comfortable. However, I will never understand this mentality of letting the guests desires rule your wedding. It's called being gracious you're there to share in their day and as a guest I always try to abide by this rule.