Spouse seating

I would sit them with each other, but then again it's your day. Do it how you want it. But I think it would be awkward

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I have been to plenty of weddings where my significant other wasn’t even invited and vice versa. In addition, it’s good to mingle and meet new people sometimes too. I’ve been to weddings where I didn’t know anyone but the bride and groom and sat with strangers who were friendly. I survived. I guess most of the weddings I’ve been to are more traditional in that the bridal party still sits together. My husband and I didn’t have a bridal party, just my sister as my MOH and his brother as the best man, so we had a sweetheart table, and everyone else sat at round tables. But it should ultimately be up to the bride and groom.

We will be doing the usual route- bridal party (without their partners) with us at the head table. It's pretty standard where we live. Never thought of it as inconsiderate. Heck, I was at a wedding this past Saturday where my fiancée was a groomsman and was at the head table... i had a great time at my table with some other ladies and couples. I don't need him by my side to have a great time... and vice versa. He was at the head table for the duration of dinner and we were together the rest of the evening. People can handle being separated for 2 hours.

My point is, either way is perfectly fine. It's your day and you should do what works for you and your group! I'm surprised by the amount of people with overly negative opinions on the traditional head table. With their logic, we should also have all the spouses standing at the altar and walking down the aisle with our bridesmaids/groomsmen.

The last wedding I attended my FH was the best man. He sat at the bridal party table and I got sat with friends. It was fine because I knew a lot of people there and I got sat with friends so it wasn't awkward for me. Years ago, I attended a wedding that my then boyfriend was a groomsman for. I knew literally no one and got sat at a table of people that all seemed to know each other and didn't speak to me. Super uncomfortable.

We plan on having a sweetheart table and having our bridal party sit with everyone else. I just know how I feel having to sit alone, in a sense. Honestly though, it's your day. Do whatever you want. I get that people can feel uncomfortable, believe me I do, but I also feel that they should be able to stick it out for the hour (maybe) of dinner if that's how you want things to be arranged.

A few years back, my FH’s brother got married and he was the best man. I, however, was not in the wedding. She had her bridal party sit at a separate table and I could not sit with him. It honestly ticked me off. She also had it to where their parents/grandparents had their own table. So me, really not knowing anybody else, sat by myself.

For our wedding, we’re gonna let our bridal party sit where they want. Because they have spouses who are not part of our bridal party, and children as well. So we only see it fair for them all to sit together and sit with who they want to so no one is uncomfortable and sitting alone.

I think it is awful. There are many alternatives. If the wedding party is too large to accommodate WP and spouses, bride and groom can either sit with just MOH and Best Man and their spouses, or a sweetheart table.

View Quoted Comment No need to be smart. This was all i knew until i got other ideas on this post. My guest will be well taken care of, thank you

My wedding party is sitting at their own table with their dates. My FH and I are going to have our own table

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Not sure why you deleted your response to me from last night. This may have been all you knew before you posted but even after people gave you other options, you still said you were not redoing your seating arrangement. These people have spent hundreds of dollars to be in your wedding and their comfort should be a big priority.

View Quoted Comment Actually i didn’t delete it, the wedding wire administration must have. After people on here gave me many seating options i said thank you for this, i may now make arrangements, did you not see those responses? There are many other ways to make sure my guests are comfortable, if one thing isn’t their way doesn’t mean they’re not being treated right. I know how to treat my guests, no matter where they’re sitting, I’ve got this, thanks.

You are completely right! Stick to your guns & stand up for what you think!

I understand your wedding is about you and your FH but you really didn’t think people would want to sit with their SOs? Lol

Bingo! Thanks girlfriend

View Quoted Comment This is what we are doing our bridal party all has families and we didnt want their spouse to sit by themselves or have to watch their kids by themselves. It's up to everyone I've been to both kinds just a personal preference. Then again we are not doing a seating chart to much work for this girl!

View Quoted Comment Thanks Meredith, i saw you’re getting married a day before i am. We’re almost wedding twins! Lol

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LOL! I'm dreading it but idk I just feel like I need some kind of structure. I don't want hella people just roaming around like a cafeteria trying to figure out where they want to sit and then if they see someone they actually want to sit with at another table, I don't want people getting up randomly. It seems like it would just take too much time and be weird for people to settle. Maybe that's just me. It could also just pertain to my crowd.

At my wedding, we will have the wedding party’s significant others seated actoss the table from them. I have gone to weddings where my fiancé was part of the wedding party and I had to find random people to sit with. It wasnt the worst thing ever, just a little awkward at first. It can work either way. I would prefer to sit with my fiance though if possible its up to you!

I'm doing a 100% casual reception with no set seating chart. We'll have less than fifty guests so it's not like no one will be able to tell who's the bride and who's the groom, and half the people there will have been involved in some way. I can't personally imagine being at a big traditional wedding reception where I couldn't sit with my FH; sitting alone with a bunch of people I don't know doesn't sound like a good time tbh. I wouldn't do that to my wedding party even if I was having a traditional reception. In my eyes, yes it's the couple's wedding but these are also ideally your closest friends and family. Sure, you can do what you want, just keep in mind that they will remember and if they're not happy, they're not likely to do things for you like that again.

These are just my two cents. You know yourself and your party best at the end of the day and how the bridesmaids and groomsmen will take it.

My FH was a groomsman this summer and they seated me across from him at the head table. I really appreciated that because i didn't know anyone other than my FH and the groom. I am personally having a sweetheart table and allowing guests to sit with whomever they prefer.