Spouse seating

I've stood up in a lot of weddings, and only once did I sit with my (ex) spouse. It was never awkward - it was just for dinner. Afterwards, I went and sat with him, danced, etc. I agree that, if this is going to be an issue, just do a sweetheart table for you two, and have everyone standing up sit with their spouse at the regular tables.

So I'm having a sweetheart table and my bridal party will be at tables with their significant others.

For example table of 10 5 groomsmen and their SO. then 5 BM with their SO across from them and then 2BM, Maid/matron of honor with their SOs at different table so they are relatively together just with their SO.

I can't imagine making partners sit away from eachother so we will have a sweetheart table for us and then a rectangle table for the bridal party plus spouses. (Luckily we only will have a few)

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We don't have a sitting chart but I will let the wedding party know if you have a significant other they can sit at what ever table that's closes to the wedding party tables

We have a long family style table for all wedding party and their plus ones... among with a select few close friends who didnt make the wedding party cut but are dear to us. It's a long 26 person table. Plenty of room for everyone.

We are older and most of our friends are already married. It seemed appropriate to seat them together so we can all revel and party together

One of my bridesmaids is married and her husband isn’t in the wedding party. Because the bridal party is sitting together at not a long head table but abnormal round one like everyone else her husband will be sitting at the bridal party table with all of us. I would feel bad making him sit without his wife.

I will have just a table with FH and i.

We are having a sweetheart table, most of our wedding party is couples in our wedding, however some aren’t and will be seated with their spouse at the wedding party table.

We’re sitting bridal party at regular tables with guests, but that’s because they’re all our siblings, & we want them all at tables lining the dance floor to keep the party going lol. If you’re not seated with your date at a wedding there’s a WHOLE DANCE FLOOR you can be with them on! 😉 Meet new people, get out of your shell, enjoy the free food & drinks, have fun! We have tables of 8 and intentionally sat 4 of FH guests/family and 4 of mine so everyone can get to know each other, we paired them up personality wise! 😊 Do whatever you want IT’S YOUR WEDDING!

View Quoted Comment I had a friend who did a sweetheart table and had the bridal party sit at a table all together but I’ve Also seen where they have a table or two close by but then the SO sitting with the bridal party.

I’ve attended 2 weddings where my FH was a groomsmen. I can say that it’s VERY UNCOMFORTABLE to not sit with your significant other if you don’t really know anyone at the wedding. At one wedding I sat with the groom’s friends and their spouses. At another, my FH’s brother was the groom and I was seated at the singles table even though his mother and aunts (who I know/like) had their own table.

For this reason, we are doing a sweetheart table. If you are set on doing a bridal party table, make sure she is seated with someone she knows. Hope this helps!

View Quoted Comment But what benefit does the couple get from seating the wedding party without their SO? Why not a table big enough for both? Separate them, and every wedding party member will leave their seat and never come back, to be with their SO after dinner. That looks so bad in pictures, everyone completely ignoring the couple, but it is what I usually see when the couple insists on seating the WP separate from dates. You cannot expect a couple to stay apart long. Sometimes dinner, with speeches and toasts, is 90 minutes or so. . . . My youngest sister did not want WP separate , but her in law's pushed and pushed. Then she went to 2 weddings in the month before the wedding. And saw the couple had completely empty tables on either side, where wedding party had been, the moment dinner ended, for the next 3.5 to 4 hours . Except a teen sister with no date at one, and a GM no date at the other. After the second wedding like this, , she came back, changed her seating plan so WP and their SO were at two tables with B and G, and told her FMIL, this is how it is going to be.

View Quoted Comment FH has put his 👣 down on this. So, another table has been added to accommodate 5 more people at the head table so that these people can sit together. I still don’t get it. They would be able to see them at the front of the room.

I hope that I wouldn’t be in a tizzy if I couldn’t sit with him for an event so that someone else could achieve their dream/visual aesthetic.

You don’t sit with your SO/Spouse at lunch when you’re at work unless you have the same employer, so what’s the difference?

I was having the wedding party sit with their dates. We only have a few couples in the wedding and everyone else will be bringing a plus one and I don’t want them to have to sit alone or be uncomfortable. At my SIL wedding, my fiancé was in it and I was not but I was still at a table with him and another bridesmaid and her husband. I’m definitely glad it was that way, I probably would have been uncomfortable sitting alone.

I just recently attended a wedding where they set everyone in a U shape. Which I'm going to try for my wedding, since most of my Bridal party has spouses.

Honestly, a lot of people are not doing a wedding party table, for that same reason! It's also a bit old school! Everyone sits at their table (usually close to the bride and groom's table) with their family.

View Quoted Comment No, but when we go somewhere for a date or social event, after the ceremony and pictures, I expect to share a table for dinner. If I go to a restaurant with hubby, and we see people we know, I would not dream if sitting with folks I know, while he is across the room, for hours. Not a fun date. And for all we are married, with 5 kids at home, I still want to see and sit with and talk to my honey much of the time when we go out for an evening. Spend 2 to 4 hours on the road, one of us in a ceremony, and pics, hundreds spent, plus wedding gifts, being at the same table for dinner is not a lot to ask. I will go to a wedding alone, did when I was single, do now. Sometimes we have gone to or been in different weddings, same day, miles apart. But if we are going somewhere together, I want to be at the same table when not dancing with other people.

Were doing a sweetheart table and then everyone in our wedding party plus their significant partners will be at 2 tables very close to ours. Their centerpieces will be ever so slightly different (with bridesmaid bouquets on them) to distinguish them from normal guests!

We’re having a sweetheart table and we’ll have four tables closer to us where our bridal party will sit along with their S/O