Stag raffle ideas

View Quoted Comment If this is something that is a tradition in her area like it is mine, then she definitely 1000% will have a lot of attendees and supporters

I am also from CT and this is extremely popular in my circle too! For the last one I attended, the family who helped host the party all contributed some type of baskets (some with alcohol, movie night basket, grocery store gift cards, etc) and then there were raffle tickets available to purchase where you could enter to win whichever prize you like.

View Quoted Comment Just to clarify, no birds should host her own bridal shower. That’s literally all I came here to say. Nothing about your stag party or the games. But a bride shouldn’t (or really shouldn’t cause it’s tacky) host her own bridal shower. I don’t understand the idea of asking the community to pay for a wedding they aren’t even invited to. But I’m not knocking a tradition I don’t partake in. But I don’t think it’s fair to equate that to a bridesmaid/maid of honor or other female guest hosting a bridal shower for the bride with guests that are actually invited to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment It's her fiancé stag party not hers.

Ok just wondering for people who don't agree with having a stag. Why is it unacceptable to you to have a stag where people in the wedding sell tickets to a party and some of the money goes to the groom, but perfect acceptable to have a bridal shower where you send people invitations that make them feel obligated to go or at least buy something off the registry the bride created, the bride makes a registry that pretty much tells people who are invited what present to buy.


And she never asked for anyones thoughts or feelings on a stag or if they would have one or not. She simply asked people for suggestions on games and things to do at the stag. You don't agree with her having a stag that's fine then keep scrolling on to the next post.

View Quoted Comment To answer you, not her, I don't think a stag is anything like a shower. For a shower, someone besides the bride invites people who will be invited to the wedding to give a small portion of their wedding gift early. For a stag, it seems the couple themselves sells tickets to people who aren't invited to the wedding to make money to pay for the wedding. Those don't strike me as remotely similar. A friend organizing early wedding gifts versus the couple asking people directly to help pay for your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Incorrect a stag/stagget is thrown typically by the wedding party, just like the shower and bachelor/Bachelorettes. People who are invited to the wedding go to stags as well. But in areas where stags are very popular everyone wants to go regardless if they are invited to the wedding or not cause a ticket gets you more than you would get attending a bachelor party. And I've seen women on here talking about how they are inviting people to their shower that they couldn't invite to the wedding so🤷‍♀️

And to add that typically the wedding party will post on social media that they are selling stag tickets to so and so wedding if anyone is interested. They don't send invitations to people. If people want to come which most people do even when they know they are not invited to the wedding, they will purchase a ticket from the wedding party.

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Okay even if the couple isn't throwing it themselves (which I have seen on here), the other differences still stand. Also, people who have said they are inviting people to the shower that aren't invited to the wedding have gotten huge pushback because that is insanely rude.

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This makes it seem like a fundraiser, which I think is why people find it off-putting. Your wedding isn't a charity or a necessity, it is a privilege. I don't believe asking someone to contribute to your wedding is ever okay.

Again, not attacking OP, just addressing your questions.

View Quoted Comment So when the day of the wedding comes for you and you have a bunch of envelopes with money in them from guests, you're going to be giving those back right?

I'm just trying to see where you draw the line with people giving you money towards the wedding.

View Quoted Comment That's a gift for my future that I didn't ask for, not money to literally give vendors for the wedding. I don't think it's the same thing at all. 1. We didn't ask for it 2. We paid for the wedding without it

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I agree completely with Elizabeth.

Also, the OP of this post (Krissy) lectured me on another thread that "wedding gifts/money you give at a wedding should be around $150 per person...so please be mindful of that when giving wedding gifts." Apparently all guests need to give her $150 a person in addition to this stag fundraiser! Pretty hypocritical if you ask me

View Quoted Comment Yikes. Wouldn't want to be a guest in that position

View Quoted Comment Who says it isn't for the vendors. Some people pay vendors with credit cards. Whatever money they get from the wedding they might choose to use to pay those credit cards. People who give money at the wedding assume the money will be used to help pay off the wedding cause most people end up with bills from their wedding after it's over.

View Quoted Comment I'm not really interested in going back and forth. Asking for money before the wedding to pay for it is different than using freely gifted money to pay off bills after the wedding. That's really all I have to say about it

View Quoted Comment I have to agree with Elizabeth.
I come from a culture where gifting is 100% expected (it is in poor taste to come to a wedding empty handed) but for me the key distinction is that a gift is a ‘thank you’ for being invited to the wedding / to assist with reimbursing the couple for a portion of the wedding costs, or to help them with their future. However, a couple should not be throwing a wedding if they cannot afford it without guests giving physical or monetary gifts, that is, if hypothetically no guests give gifts, the couple need to be able to front the bills that the entire soirée cost them in the first place.

A wedding is meant to be a one in a lifetime event but to me the way I see it is that you wouldn’t throw a big party to have people help you pay for a once in a lifetime holiday so why would you do it for a wedding?

View Quoted Comment Well where the op and I come from stags are very very popular. And like I said before everyone wants to go even the people who know they aren't invited to the wedding. My fiance and I had a lot of people asking if we were going to have one and when we said no people were disappointed.

View Quoted Comment I just responded to your question with my honest opinion and of course this is very much a ‘know your crowd’ thing. While I don’t like the principle behind it, different strokes different folks.