Stag raffle ideas

View Quoted Comment Yup. I understand.

View Quoted Comment Lol I often wonder this myself. I personally don’t agree with either of them personally. however there’s absolutely nothing wrong with people having either if they personally agree with it. I’m just curious like you are about what the difference is here

I also don't come from a place where wedding fundraisers are a thing, so I couldn't possibly have any suggestions about how to make more money. But if these events are really as common in your area as you say, OP, then you should ask all of the people you know who have thrown a successful ($$$&dollar one for tips.

The best advice for you will come from your local friends who understand this tradition. It definitely doesn't translate well to this international forum where the vast majority of us aren't familiar with funding weddings that way.

And for the record, I paid for my own wedding and did not have any pre-wedding parties (just in case the strawman of "showers are the same as fund raising parties" gets thrown at me).

View Quoted Comment Yesss!! Just like a diaper party !... I love the idea of a stagget vs bridal shower!

View Quoted Comment Yess!! Thank you. Well said .... are you a social worker?! I feel like that is something I'd respond with 😊

View Quoted Comment You're welcome😊 no I'm not a social worker, I just see so many people on here jump to respond with their own opinion on a subject they actually know very little about because of their own personal background.

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Yes! We will have outside space ! That is a great idea. Our area is very Italian and I saw someone else post that it's big in Italian culture so maybe that is why we do it here.

View Quoted Comment Me to, especially if you have been living with each other for years, you probably would need the money more than house gifts.

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Thank you ! I also live in New Haven County ! Bocce is a great idea! We do have lots of Italian people attending ! Thank you !

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Roulette sounds fun! No I am from CT .. hope the wine was delicious.

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Ugh I wish is was a Jack and Jill because the pie in the face sounds hilarious!.

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Incorrect... the groomsmen throw the stag for the groom.. and they come and eat food, drink beer, and gamble via raffle games.... it is a lot less formal than a shower so no one feel pressured to go and buy a gift off a registry because they were formally invited and since no one is actually "invited" no one feels obligated to go and no one feels obligated to RSVP yes.. since there is no actual invite... its spread through word of mouth... it's like paying a cover charge to get into a club or to get into parties back in college.. you get in, drink and eat for free... then if you want to gamble and do competitions.. which most people do because they're fun and competitive, then you can partake for an entry fee... but to clarify.. we are not hosting it.

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I think you are a bit confused.. we don't invite people to this.. it's spread through word of mouth and social media... no one is obligated to go.. but the people from where I am from like to drink, have fun, and party... so they don't mind paying money to drink and eat "free" all night and hang out with their friends... similar to paying a cover charge to get into a bar or club.. or get into a party back in the day,.

It just goes to show their ignorance on the subject. It's like it's not at all about the bride and grooms financial situation on their wedding. Most people that I've attended their stag/stagget had the means to throw their wedding. I've never been to one nor have my brothers ever been to one where the bride and groom where counting on that money to pay for their wedding. Its like I commented on here to another person that is against stags that if she is against people giving money for the wedding then she shouldn't be accepting all the envelopes full of money the day of. Brides and grooms don't plan their wedding around the money their guests will be putting in envelopes for the day of just like brides and grooms do not plan their wedding around the money they might make off a stag. And I believe like you what's the difference between people furnishing your home with gift off a registry they feel obligated to buy and then give you an envelope full of money for the day of on top of that, or people buying tickets to your stag/stagget and you getting a chunk of the money. Plus I've seen many women on here talking about have a registry for a honeymoon fund for their bridal shower. That is all acceptable but God for bid people willingly buy a ticket to a stag that they actually really want to go to regardless if they are invited to the wedding or not.

Someone reported all my comments apparently I hurt some feelings... but maybe now my post will actually get responses that are on topic and not just judging me lol

View Quoted Comment Reported you for speaking the truth but they think their comments trying to put you down for having a stage isn't bad lol wow. Yea hopefully now you can get people who actually want to help you

View Quoted Comment It's not about directly inviting people, though clearly people do reach our directly to others. It's about throwing a fundraiser for a wedding. It's very obviously about getting money.


I think it's great if this is common and fun in your circle. Another commenter asked why people don't like the concept and I answered.

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Girl I am SORRY people are coming at you for this lol, if it's not common in others circles just don't respond, you weren't looking for advice if you were doing the right thing you were looking for ideas on games to have.

You may still be able to pull off the pie in the face tho lol! Have it be between the groom and best man!

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Thank you .. it's like they forgot the golden rule of "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all". Like.. I asked a question about a stag, if they didn't have an answer they should have and could have just keep scrolling. It is so sad that there are people in the world who judge people because they are different than them and practice different customs and traditions. It's actually kind of scary, because if they can judge and try to shame me for asking about a Stag, I can only imagine the kind of discriminatory and judgmental things they think, say, and do in real life. ALARMING...

in other news, yes, that a great idea! or even between all the groomsmen !