Standing ceremony?

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Well, considering the poster did not mention where her wedding is, anything goes. This forum is not exclusive to the United States only. In fact, we have members here from the UK, New Zealand, Italy, The Netherlands, among other places. Myself? I live partially in the US and in Greece.

So yes, it has a lot to do with everything as she also mentioned she's having a Hindu ceremony. Don't make assumptions because you may or may not live in the United States.

View Quoted Comment I certainly didn’t. But she also didn’t say anything about cultural norms for standing, so I still don’t see how your comment is relevant.

View Quoted Comment FYI- Her wedding is in New Orleans.

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Well, let's refer to her original question... she asked for our opinions so everyone's comment is relevant - yours, mine, and everyone's. Just because you don't like it, doesn't make it irrelevant.

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Ok, wasn't sure if she mentioned that somewhere but it's good to know. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment No problem! She posted something the other day and it's on her profile.

View Quoted Comment Except if you take 0.5 seconds to click on her profile it says NOLA.
it just seems that a lot of your advice is “this is what’s done in Greece,” not things that are actually relevant and / or helpful to the bride or groom’s original question.

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Eh it's pretty inapplicable. You can see easily that OP is having a DW in Nola (it's in her profile).

Sometimes we just need to do a little research before we jump to respond. As a Rockstar, IMO, that is very important as people think you have some added knowledge/expertise.

Yeah I would be super annoyed and I would never tell that to you if I was a guest.

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I miss the like button.

View Quoted Comment This!

Back and knee problems aren't the only invisible illnesses that might impact your guests. Many people don't talk about their illnesses. Also most people won't complain because they are too kind and polite to do so.

I got an invite recently for a wedding that will have a standing ceremony. I'm not going to not go because of it. I'm still happy to be invited. I'm not going breathe a word about it to the bride and groom or grouse about it at all to anybody while I'm there.

But there was definitely a "dude... seriously? why?" moment when I found out we'd be standing, and it honestly is impacting my level of excitement about going to this wedding.

Unless there's some real reason why you cannot have chairs available (and frankly I can't think of a plausible reason for that) I think you should really find a way to make chairs happen and make sure there's enough for every single person. Your guests will be happier.

I’m glad you asked this because I have been debating getting chairs for my ceremony. I am only having 25 people and our coordinator said the ceremony length will only be about 15-20 minutes and that we wouldn’t need them. They charge $3 a chair for the ceremony, but I’m thinking it’s worth the cost so that people won’t have to stand especially if they are standing beforehand.

View Quoted Comment I really appreciate everyone’s feedback on this, I will be getting chairs! People made a good point about “invisible illnesses”

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I'm really glad you're going that direction!

There really is no way to be sure that everyone coming to your wedding can stand for an extended amount of time. I have days when I can, and days when I can't, and I know I would probably end up sitting in the grass, or on the cement, rather then risk hurting my self.

Additionally, you never know if someones situation will change, someone could break a leg, or a toe, or any number of things.

View Quoted Comment I went to a wedding like this. I was 8 months pregnant. There was no chair. It was awful. No, I did not complain to the bride or groom or to anyone other than DH, but it was uncomfortable and I was unhappy.

View Quoted Comment Good choice!