Starting a Blended family

I have 2 children from 2 different marriages, I would never dream of adding the name of my current spouse to their last name. You do not have to share the same last name to be a family. If you didn't change your last name after the divorce than why not hypjenate your last name if it is that imporant to you to have the same last name as your child.

Yes i remember hearing that. we are now a new family and we need to try our best to look and sound like one. well my case i didnt like the fact and im glad i have my dad's last name. it wasnt my fault that my mom and dad divorced.

Exactly it is not your daughters fault that the marriage didn't work and have you thought at all about how she will feel when you change her name to suit your whim? She is her own person with her own identity. What if you get married 3 times, are you going to change her name all three times? I say this because this will be my third marriage and I wouldn't dream of changing my children's last name to my future husband's.

I think you are focusing to much on what you want and not thinking at all about your daughter and her identity. You are marrying your future husband not your daughter. A family is how you treat each other, she doesn't have to have your last name or his for you to be a family.

Family doesn't equal the same last name. In fact my daughter has her bio father's last name and I have my last name (we were never married). She and I are still family even though we have never shared the same last name.

I don't see that going over well. I really don't see the point in it anyway. You made the choice to Mary your FH, not your daughter. The name change is only beneficial to you. I guess you are embarrassed that she has a different last name, but that's something you have to deal with. I would have been livid if I found out that my mom changed my name. I have my father's name and I am proud of it.

Edwina that is a really good point. My father just passed away and I went back to his last name over my divorce to honor him. I am proud to have my father's last name and would have been so mad and also as soon as I could have would have changed it back if mom did something like that to me.