Still Bummed About my Bachelorette Party

Not at all. I totally get it. I"m pretty sad no one is giving me one. Not even a shower, a lunch, nothing. Is the guy normally a jerk or does he just think he's being funny? It would bug me too.

It's never wrong to feel how you feel. I would be bummed if I were in your situation too. And I would have had even more choice words for the "funny" roommate. Ugh. Yeah, some REALLY choice words. So congrats on keeping your cool there.

Here's what I think. You said at the end of your post that you would rather just take your boat out with the two ladies who can make it, and have fun with that. I don't know why you think you can't do that. It's true that a bachelorette is supposed to be hosted by someone other than yourself, but who cares? You tried it that way, and it's not working out very well. You're the bride, do what you want!! Talk to the other two ladies, and see if they'd be up for the boat fun instead. I don't see anything wrong with it. What is wrong is trying to force yourself to have fun at an event you're not interested in. That's just lame. Do what makes you happy. I'm sure your ladies will totally understand!

Woah, that dude sounds like a jerk. Your feelings are totally justified! Talk to MOH again and let her know you really don't want a bachelorette anymore. A good friend will understand

I would just enjoy your 3 person party, I think you'll have a great time. Maybe tell her to have something very casual, but I'd still do something to celebrate you. I do think it's inappropriate to snap at the best man, he is probably very happy he is planning such a great event for your fiance and in my opinion, you should be happy for them. My fiance had 15 people at his bachelor party, and it was a huge event. Far more people flew in for his than they did mine. I was 100% okay with that and so happy he was celebrated since basically the entire wedding & shower focuses on the bride.

I like your style! that's exactly what I would have said! I say good for you. I'm glad your fiancee was trying to get him to stop. My FH isn't having a bachelor party, even though I told him if he wanted to I didn't mind. He isn't much of a partier.

I guess. Maybe he didn't realize what he was doing? I was more involved planning my fiance's than planning mine, I was far more concerned with him having fun at his than me at mine. I couldn't hear enough about his because I was so happy it was a success.

It's ok to feel the way you do. But it sounds like the friends you have are great and you would have a good time. I would just think about it before making any decisions-you don't want to end up regretting not having one at all. If you really don't want one, talk to your MOH and see if you guys can come up with something else. Just try to make the best of things. I'm sure you will still have a blast doing something with your friends!

I get being bummed. My FH is going to Vegas for his, and we stayed local for mine, the majority of my friends are moms of young kids & traveling isn't something that they were able to do. Not everyone in the wedding party could make it, and some people not in the wedding party could. All in all it was a great night. We drank & danced, my hangover wasn't too bad the next day (which is always good - because it was like right on the brink of being really bad). My friends bought me a veil, and a sash, and they bought sashes that said Bride Tribe, and they had some "colorful" head wear on (it was pink, and looked like devil horns, but wasn't), and we had shot glasses that went around our necks, mine lite up, and I had a candy bracelet...