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Cathy
Devoted October 2019

Still Feeling Bummed...

Cathy, on September 23, 2019 at 11:05 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7
Semi rant time. My shower wound up getting canceled because no one could come (no one wanted to drive 70 miles to the hostess’ place), and the bachelorette party was canceled too because no one could come either. Meanwhile, my fiancé’s roommate (the best man) keeps bragging about how great the bachelor party is going to be, (sometimes in front of me), and honestly, this is kind of hurtful. (He knows that all my parties got canceled).

I don’t mean to sound selfish, but I feel like I am really missing out on part of the pre-wedding experience because all the parties got canceled. This seems to be like the story of my life— I hosted showers for two of my bridesmaids, but when it’s my turn, I don’t get to have a party.
I feel left out. I know it’s a stupid and petty thing, but it bothers me because every time I look at my registry, I get reminded of why I had to put these physical things on the list in the first place. Maybe it’s the stress of the impending wedding, but I just can’t get over this.

Thoughts?


7 Comments

Latest activity by Megan, on September 24, 2019 at 9:37 PM
  • L
    Devoted August 2020
    Lauren ·
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    I totally get feeling disappointed when you thought that these things were happening. Feel those feelings and try to move past them and focus on the happy stuff! I know easier said than done, but after the wedding you'll just be happy to be a wife!
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  • Lisa
    Savvy August 2021
    Lisa ·
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    Sorry hun! Yea, it is best to focus on the positive parts of your union. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out how we plan. Try treating yourself to a spa day and pamper yourself. This may help relax your emotions right now. Plus you could always make up for it in the after party/ celebration. Just a thought!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Your disappointment is so valid Smiley sad it makes sense that you're disappointed because those would be fun things to experience, like PP said maybe you can treat yourself out to something.
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  • Carol
    Devoted October 2019
    Carol ·
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    Can you invite every one out for a day/evening bowling, at a theme park, local fair, something like that just to hang out and have a good time with each other? It wouldn't be exactly the same, but it would be a fun, relaxing day.
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  • M
    Dedicated February 2020
    Michelle ·
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    You can try to coordinate a bachelorette party locally, just in the evening, even with a couple of your friends. You'll have a good time even if it is smaller scale.

    On the other hand, I just found out almost none of my family is going to my bridal shower, and we specifically moved it to within 15 mins of most of them, plus gave them 2 months notice. I feel your disappointment.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    It's not stupid. I"m feeling kinda the same. No parties for me at all, not even a lunch. I was really hoping for something. I think the best man is being kinda rude rubbing it in

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  • Megan
    Expert October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I dont think its selfish at all and I can understand how you feel. My bachelorette party was cancelled (my MOH was temporarily laid off unexpectedly for a couple of weeks and her focus is her priorities, which I dont blame her) and my brother is the Best Man so he keeps talking to me about the bachelor party this weekend. I'm really happy for my FH, but im also envious that it worked out so well for him. My bridal shower was almost cancelled too but my stepmom intervened and made it happen (it ended up being awkward so I was looking forward to a fun night).

    Maybe you could do a girls night with your bridal party the night before? That's my plan. Doing my bridesmaids nails, cake and good movies with my cousin, sister and best friend. ❤ I hope it all works out for you. Good luck. 🍀
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