I am at a lost and need advice. I hate that I still feel this way but I can't stop being annoyed that I don't have my ring yet.
I have been with my boyfriend (I hate that word) for over 8 years now. We have 3 wonderful kids, 2 good careers and a gorgeous house. Our relationship is very healthy, we honestly have never had an argument and are on the same page with the same priorities. There is virtually no reason to not be married now. We decided at first that having a child was more of a priority than getting married so we didn't want to do it before having our first baby. Then we thought let's wait until we are done our family as we didn't want wedding pictures with just some of our kids on them.
But now here we are. Our family has been done for a year and I still don't have my ring. I am sick of calling him my boyfriend, feeling like we are 14 years old. Or people questioning if he is the father of my child because I called him boyfriend (!!!). I don't care about a wedding, I just want to be married. He always take 10 000 years to make a simple decision so I know he will probably need 2 years of thinking about it before he end up starting to think about buying a ring, then 1 year to pick it and 1 year to decide how he will propose. I wish I was kidding. He wants to get married, he knows how important it is to me and to our kids, yet I fear it will never happen.
How can I shrug off that feeling and just be content with being only boyfriend/girlfriend forever ? I am usually the one to make the decisions, but I don't really want to have to buy my own ring just to make it happen. I designed it and show him the picture but that's about as far as I can take it without being weird and removing that "surprise" feeling.
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