Stress

I’m so sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed. I know exactly how that feels. It’s always easier said than done, but try not to stress the little things. The people who want to be there for you will be there and that’s most important. If people are offended they weren’t invited, oh well. Don’t work yourself up about it. Do you have anyone helping you with the things you need done? Everything will work out, even if it doesn’t seem like it right now. You got this! Hang in there ❤️

Hi Reina. I'm sorry your feeling so stressed. This is very real and unique to weddings unfortunately. You may feel capable for a long time and then decision fatigue sets in and you can't go further. Declines come in and people disappoint you. Try to limit the things you cannot control, and conversations that go nowhere. Rely on your partner for a hug or to handle duties. Use WW checklist or write down other errands, crossing them off one at a time. Designate certain times for wedding stuff, then turn it off (hardest part maybe!) Try premarital counseling to get you into marriage headspace (the life after wedding).

If people are hurt they're not invited, oh well. You cannot control their feelings. They cannot control your money or patience-- only you. Your friends who declined-- let it go. It is not your business to investigate if they really had enough $ or love for you. Can you believe people decline invites because of their dogs? Just say, not my world, not my business. Take a day to heal and do something for yourself like sleep. I hope you can soon find physical and emotional equilibrium, if even for a couple hours a day. It's a process, be gentle with yourself. If this cannot be done, consider talk therapy to voice it all out there. Best wishes.

Take some time away from the wedding - just a day or an evening, since you're so close - and concentrate on self-care. Have a date night with your fiancé or a spa day or whatever else that makes you relaxed and happy. For that period of time, though - no wedding talk/thinking/etc.

As far as the other goes - you can't make everyone happy - if you had invited the people who are upset about not being invited, they would have found something else to be upset about. Not your monkey, not your circus.

It's definitely difficult when people RSVP "no" but I expect that they would have come to celebrate with you if they could - the reasons they can't aren't relevant. I understand wanting those people there (believe me, I understand - my grandma couldn't make it), but your day will be beautiful and wonderful anyway.

This post makes me so sad. Your wedding is supposed to be the best day, and it sounds like you've slowly been whittled away by all the stresses of planning.

If I was you, I would take a full week away from thinking, doing, reading, breathing anything wedding. Whatever you need to do, will be there in a week. Or better yet, pass it on to your fiance, most trusted friend, etc. Shoot, I'll even do it for you!

You cannot control who says yes, and who says no, who wanted what, who doesn't like this or that. While it is really upsetting when you think a guest will absolutely show up for you and they don't, it's not unusual for friendships to be....unbalanced. I have a lot of friends who kept telling me they were SO excited for my wedding and turns out, aren't even going.

It does hurt a lot, but at the end of the day, who shows up for you is ALL you need to focus on. Once the day comes, you won't give a second thought to who isn't there, whose mad at you for not inviting them, etc. You only have 1 wedding day and you HAVE to let it go, there won't be anything sadder than looking back on your wedding day and remembering being anything except joyful.

You're not alone, and SO many brides go through this. As they say, weddings show everyone's true colors!

View Quoted Comment Thank you all so much for your responses - these honestly made me feel a lot better! I was able to get away this weekend with two bridesmaids (of my 10) who threw me a spontaneous bachelorette weekend in Cape Cod! I’ve been so concerned about asking too much from my girls that I didn’t even plan a bachelorette party because I thought it would be too pricey. But two of them who make good money really treated me this weekend and it was so special. Feeling hopeful! 18 days away!