So I'm getting married in about 3 months, and have never been more stressed out about this. I knew that the guest list was going to be the most stressful thing, and so far it has been.
I just feel like so many people have opinions on who to invite, and recently I got a call from my dad (Who I try to keep my distance as he has mood problems and gets upset very easily). He said he ran into a friend who he hasn't spoken to in years and apparently helped him get a job. So, he pretty much told him that I'm getting married. When he called me, he told me that I should invite him too and I said I'll have to wait and see as it is expensive. He then went on to say that he would pay for them and to just invite them instead of another family he doesn't talk to/like due to some drama between them. This has made it more annoying for me as I don't want to trigger his anger disorder and stress more. He eventually called his friend and told him that he can come and they pretty much said sure. My mother called after and told him off saying that he can't just go around inviting whoever. He called me and apologised saying "but it's too late now. I don't want to be rude and say don't come". I told him to make it clear that their children aren't invited as it's pushing the number of people and we can't afford to have a huge wedding.
So now, I'm stuck. Don't know what to do. This whole thing is so stressful that I've let it go and my fiance has been doing a lot more. I've been procrastinating, but every time I come back to the guest list it's like we're finished but not as there obviously needs to be adjustments. We've only sent out the Save the Date cards.
Any advice on how to handle this issue? I want to be excited as 3 months isn't that far, but it's still so far as I'm yet to start work again soon (I'm a high school teacher), and I know that once I start working, everything is going to be 10x stressful prior to the wedding day.
I just want the wedding to be over with so we can just be a married couple and start a family. Help!
