stressing over money :(

That's one of the hardest facts of life. You have to live within your means. If you really can't afford the $3000, you really need to find ways to cut- as hard is it to face.

Also think of what that $3000 would do in terms of savings- part of a downpayment on a house. A rainy day fund in case one of you loses your job. Savings in case of one of you gets sick and needs medical care. Or a good nest egg for your retirement.

There are ways to make extra money. Child care is one way, but there are others. Get a part time job in the evenings, or just weekends. There are companies that hire people for promotional work- working at sporting events, or festivals, or concerts. I know people who just work Saturdays doing wine tastings or cooking demonstrations at grocery stores. There are options- so don't limit yourself.

Thank you

Aww I know its tough I'm really worried to but you'll be okay don't worry (: you'll have a BEAUTIFUL wedding even if its just a tiny backyard wedding.

Money is soooo stressful! But there's lots of ways to still get what you want within a budget. I've found so much great stuff at places like dollar tree, and if you can diy, you can save a lot there too.,

Here is a thread I started a looong time ago..Some brides gave really good advice on how to save money!

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/budget-brides-what-are-some-of-your-everyday-tips-to-save/f67e388dce21ed35.html

Little sacrifices really add up..It's important to be disciplined, creative, and consistent.

That being said, Meghan is right ..your wedding is one day albeit an important one..but it's more important to look at the big picture; you don't want to start off the marriage in a financial hole!

Thank you everyone.there is not really anything we can cut the ceremony site is free and reception site was the only place we could find that wasn't booked.we are only inviting like 40 families which atleast half will not show.

I would recommend a book called, "Your money or your life'. Buy it used ;-)

Ruthlessly cut your expenses. Do you need unlimited minutes on your cell or could you use skype for free/cheap? Do you need cable TV? Hulu costs 7.99 a month for premium. Do you need bottled water? Every expense should be carefully considered.

And don't worry about a small sweet wedding; the important thing is that you're going to be married.

Yeah. It's SO hard, but TRY to find a place that's free and suggest a potluck from your bridesmaids, mom and FMIL. The savings might really add up. Plus, keep it small and simple. Good luck- I feel your pain though! It's SO stressful!!

Best thing I did was get rid of my cable. I never watch tv because I'm usually really busy. Even when I am able or want to watch tv, there is absolutely nothing on.

As far as specific things for the wedding... the dollar tree honestly has some great things for a wedding.

My partner and I are having a morning wedding and brunch reception. ... this reduces cost of caterer, and alcohol.

If you want to have alcohol, you should have a "stock the bar" party for your wedding. I've seen it done and worked great.

There is always getting married on a Friday or Sunday. Many venues have major discounts for "off day" weddings. I just read of a couple today that had their wedding yesterday... on a thursday... it was the same day that her parents got married.

Hope this helps.

Hi date twin :-)

I think all of us have been in this situation (except Kim Kardashian, but I doubt she was a WW bride). The most important thing is to try not to compare what your love and your marriage should be to what you *THINK* other people expect you to have. Live within your means and feel proud of that.

Like Celia said...cut your expenses if you feel there are any to cut, and if you're living at your basic, then you just do what you gotta do. Push the wedding back, cut people out, do something smaller, etc. Just remember that this is ONE day of a lifetime you are about to share with each other.

Hang in there!

I think you should just keep in mind that this is one day and you still have to live after the wedding so if you cant afford it just keep whats most important to you and your FH and do that. I decided that the big wedding thing was too stressful and too expensive so instead we are going to a chapel and then going on a long honeymoon. The honeymoon was what was important to me and my FH we just wanted to make sure we had time to really enjoy each other away in paradise but just sit down with you FH and find out whats important to him and decide together what is best. At the end of the day its about you and him and it will be just you and him paying the bills so dont cause problems with this just remember what is important the two of you I hope this helps hun and good luck!!

Just know your not the only one going throught it. Wedding planning can be very stressful. I have already had a couple of melt downs.

Thank you everyone we live with in our budget its just some things have come up so we have not been able to save like we wanted to.I know everything will work out in the end its just stressful.We don't have cable no need when we have the internet and you can watch almost any show you want.

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Its natural to feel stressed, the closer you get to the wedding u will find that family and friends will bless you in whatever way they can, this site has so many innovative ways for saving money, check out the diy sections, it has helped me a lot

I feel you 100%. ♥ ♥ ♥

It's hard when people are telling you to cut down on expenses when you're already living on bare minimum; or to give up because you don't have that the money. I don't think that's fair. The fact that you already have a modest budget and guest list shows me that you are trying you're absolute best.

We pushed the date out and invited immediate family only to help with costs. If you can, I suggest pushing back the date a bit, even if that means doing a civil ceremony now, and a wedding later.

I wish you the best. It can be done, just think positive

Is it possible if you could push back your date? We are getting married in September in a civil ceremony, yet we are saving for our renewals for next year! This gave us adequate time to save, discuss what we could cut back on, and what we each would be able to set aside for the wedding. It is hard and the economy is not great (actually...really bad) but you can do this. I am sure you both will be able to have the wedding that you both have in mind in time.

Thank you Stacy I am glad you understand.I know it will work out just need to vent.The wedding we are planning is every simple and what we both want.Thank you all for the advice.I am just looking forward to marrying my Fh

I feel your stress as well. I notice you are the day after our wedding. I felt the same way a few days ago I just wish the bills would stop for a week. And then I get another call about well now we want to take the deposit from you that originally we were going to wait on! I wanted to cry. But I keep praying and I've got to trust. I'm doing the same trying to pick up some extra work, and trying to cut costs where I can. I'm praying for you as well. It is not fun being stressed out during such a wonderful time. hugs to you

One thing you can do is just have a wishing well. do not register at all

one of my bridesmaid was counting out hers at her wedding to pay off the venue. I mean you won't know what you will get but its an option to use if you have to.

As far as anything at your venue that you can provide yourself.. research research research. you can always do it for less. may have to get creative.

if u haven't yet - start posting some of those things on this forum.. there are plenty of folks with resources that can save you money.

There is always postponing: going ot justice of peace & having a ceremony later. Stay prayerful, you just may get what you want in a blessing.

Everything that you will plan with your wedding will hinge around your wedding venue. It is the very first thing to plan, so make sure you get it together right away. An instant payday advance can help you pay for it if the venue wants cash now for the reservation. In fact, it helped me a lot for the wedding expenses. Also, make sure you reserve the location you want, so nobody else can ruin your unique day.