Strip Clubs for Bachelor Parties

I actually now hope he goes and gets turned on by another woman cause that would mean he is human!

These girls who think their FH doesn't like to see other girls naked are just lying to yourselves and your FH is lying to you and you're too dumb to recognize it.

My husband went to one. He had a lap dance. Was I happy about it? No, but life goes on. The women aren't naked. And it's not sexual. It's money to them. In fact, the stripper giving my husband a dance beat him up good.

Things are getting pretty serious.

Mac, I only went off mye xperience.

When I didn't truly trust someone, it did bother me.

Now that I fully trust this man with my life, money, and entire world without any questions or hesitation, then it doesn't bother me.

So, naturally & logically, it does seem like a trust issue to me, whether they're aware of it or not.

@Mactobe I dont think that was directed at me bc I don't consider myself pro-stripper. some may have trust issues BUT what I said in my post (and more important than a trust issue IMHO) is even more ppl (women) have self-esteem issues which may cause them to not want their future spouse to go to a strip club. I can't help with trust issue, that's something you have to overcome within the relationship. But as someone who has had self esteem issues, that's something you can overcome. and I'm open to helping anyone with that.

Fellow Canadians, the women at the strip clubs here are typically naked, right? No bottoms or anything.

I've only gone once and I remember seeing a vagina piercing, so I think she was butt naked. I didn't think I'd enjoy the strip club, but it was actually a fun time! I went on a Tuesday afternoon so it was kinda dead and I chatted with the strippers.

Spazzy- I think it depends on the state and the liquor laws. Here in NY they can be nude if there is no alcohol served (boring) and the strippers can definitely get closer than 4 feet from you. I had strippers taking money out of my cleavage.

For some reason if they serve alcohol then they can only get topless.

Different for every state though

@m - I truly wasn't referring to your comment. There have just been countless people here assuming that this is all about trust for the anti-strippers.

I see where you're coming from. Thing is, I am also floored by how much I trust my FH, especially because of how often I've been cheated on in the past by ex boyfriends. We live 3,500 miles apart and I never ever worry about what he's up to. If he went into one of these places, I fully trust him to "keep it in his pants" and not let things go too far, but it's the whole idea of strip clubs that unsettles me. I just think it's putting a committed person in an inappropriate setting, but again -- that's only my opinion.

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@FFW - nopers, not directed at you. It was really more of a generalized statement based on the sheer volume of people who are accusing others of having no trust in the SO's.

You're right. Lack of self-esteem is one of those other items I was referring to in my other post when I said some people sound like they "have some other deeper shit going on." C'mon. You couldn't get self-esteem problems from that?? ;-) I agree that a lot of people have a problem with strippers because of their own self-image.

My FH is going to go blow things up with his GMs. They are going to put a bunch of tannerite on targets and shoot at them. He's not really interested in strip clubs - but I'm ok with it if he were.

Frankly, I was kinda wanting to crash his shooting party...sounds fun.

My FH doesn't want them. He's gonna go to a casino and have a couple drinks with his groomsman

Which is worse?

The stripper who is paid to take her clothes off for entertainment value only or the hot girl with the Mrs. K tits that your FH works with that makes him laugh on a daily basis?

Truly interested to know where the line is drawn because I do think being worried about a strip club is due to a level of insecurity or trust issues. I'd be far more worried about an emotional connection developing with someone than him seeing a stranger naked.

My friend that almost called off the wedding... She also wouldn't let her H have a Facebook and he definitely isn't allowed speak to any woman who isn't related to him. She regularly checks his phone, laptop and has his passwords to everything. I think it's completely fucked up.

From the strip club stories I've heard, there are those that get completely naked. I disagree with those claiming that guys who say they find strip clubs gross are lying. He doesn't like it for a multitude of reasons (wasting money, fake boobs being primary reasons) and it isn't about him claiming he doesn't want to see naked girls. He can like watching porn or seeing naked girls and still not be into strip clubs. It's about the setting for him.

Bethie- You're friend seems to have a ton of issues.

I always say you should be more worried about the people in your life hurting you than some random stranger. This applies to Bethies question but it also applies to many other things in life. Just like a child molester, it's hardly ever the guy in the white van offering your kids candy; it's the coach, teacher or other trusted individual that is touching kids.

Sorry to get deep but I had to make a point haha.

Because Nikki you don't have the same brain or chemical makeup that your FH has. He's a guy, that's what they do.

Not mine.

"He's a guy. That's what they do."

Beware the broad strokes.

FH has made it very clear to all of his GM that he does not want anything to do with a strip club or strippers, his idea of a bachelor party is playing video games and getting drunk with his friends...hopefully they'll listen.

Double.

Yes, @BvilleBride! That analogy is PERFECT!

@Nikki - I am certainly not worried about FH's co-workers (I don't think any women at his firm have anything to write home about in the chest area anyway), it was a hypothetical situation, specifically referencing my crazy ass friend.

I am definitely more in the "show him your tits, cool, if you make him laugh, I'll cut you" club though.