Strip Clubs for Bachelor Parties

OH yeah, all men love fake boobs and crappy beer. Come on, I recognize that there are people out there who enjoy strip clubs more than I do, but it's absurd to assume that all men love all strip clubs. I have lots of male friends, and you can tell there are some who love going to the strip club, and others who try to avoid it. I'm not even saying it's degrading or anything, it's just not everyone's scene. And we're talking about Bachelor parties here, is it really so hard to believe that some men don't think looking at naked women is the MOST FUN thing they could do with their buddies? Maybe your FH feel that way, and I'm not judging them, but I know for a fact that there are plenty of men out there who can think of something more fun to do with their buddies than strip clubs. Not saying they hate looking at naked women, but it just isn't every man's #1 idea of fun.

"show him your tits, cool, if you make him laugh, I'll cut you"

This should be on Tshirts.

@m - I can make that happen, what size do you want?

When I said "He's a guy, that's what they do" I was referring strictly to when they are at bachelor parties. I realize it's still a general statement but I didn't mean that FH would ever want to or have the occasion to head to a strip club. However for his BP, it's pretty common to assume they will end up at a strip club. While my FH might not have that idea, someone in the party will.

I also am on camp strip club being a situation of trust or insecurity. In my last relationship, I was totally against my ex going to a strip club. Would it have been war if he went, you betcha, but I didn't trust my ex...like at all. I said I did, but I didn't know at the time what it was like to be fully committed to someone and be able to trust them fully! It's very different with FH. If he wants to go, cool he's going to come home to me. He has said that he doesn't want to, because it's not his thing, but should things change I'm not going to go nuts about it. Why? Because I trust him. He's said the same thing. He doesn't care if there are strippers at my bachelorette, but I also don't want them.

I've always wondered why so many relationships end in affairs and to me it seems like so many women drive their husbands or relationships to cheat by keeping such a tight leash. If you have an issue with your FH going talk to him about it; but don't give ultimatums or be demanding. C'mon everyone knows if you keep your man on a tight leash, at some point he's going to pull away.

I go to them with my fh one and a whole. It's no big deal.

I love that Bethie referenced my titties in her example about the hot co-worker

Things I love about this thread:

1. Princess Consuela and the Lifesavers reference

2. M reminding all of us that titties are fun to look at

3. O&S lessons that every man loves a good BJ no matter how much he stresses he doesn't

4. That Mrs.K's rack came out for a cameo

5. Bethie's new t-shirt line. 'I will cut you'

ETA: one more, and that Faith is a staunch advocate of the strip club. @Faith - you completely surprised me, I was expecting doe eyed innocence from you, but you brought out the badass today :-)

Like many have said, if your FH is going to cheat; it's going to be with an "obtainable girl". Ie the cute brunette who loves craft beer at his favourite bar. The bombshell red head with the DDs and jlo booty who asks him to spot her at the gym. The multi hair coloured girl with the cute laugh and loves to play COD at game stop. The blonde who lives next door and loves to tan on her deck.

Strippers are the least of any woman's worries. Also if you don't trust FH... well then you might think about taking separate paths.

Did anyone else do a double take with Andilynne^ and automatically think Andixlyn came back?

So I can say with certainty, my problems with strip clubs don't stem from lack of trust, so that leaves insecurity. I think any gal who claims to be 100% secure in her own skin and not have a single hang-up about anything is likely full of poo. That being said, I don't feel like my problems stem from insecurity either. Here's why I say that -- I wouldn't want to go to a strip club myself. Not because of anything FH has said but because I truly would feel uncomfortable and like I was doing something inappropriate and disrespectful.

@Mrs K. Definitely not the same, sorry to get your hopes up: /

I have no problem that FH going to a strip club for his bachelor party. I trust him 100% and know he wouldn't do anything stupid. He's gonna stare at some boobs, have some beer with his buddies and maybe have a lap dance or two. No big deal!

I'm going to be really disappointed when I go to the plastic surgeon, request "Mrs K Tits," and he doesn't know what I'm talking about.

@Nikki - LOL confidence about your man going to a strip club doesn't make him not a piece of shit if he is, in fact, a piece of shit. If your guy is going to cheat, he is going to cheat. There is nothing you can do to prevent that.

Kind of like when I was a teenager and my mom wouldn't let me sit on my bed with my boyfriend... We just got it in on the futon instead.

Also, strippers aside, I don't see the Bach parties as a "last day of freedom" thing. Sure, I guess that's the traditional thought, but I see them more as "You're getting married soon let's plan a blowout party / event to celebrate." Maybe I'm making up my own thing but none of the Bach parties I've attended have felt like a "last night of freedom" event. More celebratory.

Inappropriate and disrespectful? Have you been to a strip club? There is nothing wrong with watching from afar. Just because you go, doesn't mean you have to pay the strippers or even get a lap dance. I sure hope none of you anti-strip club ladies have seen Magic Mike, because if you have you're being disrespectful. Lol Seriously, there's no difference.

I think they can go to a strip club with their boys and still respect you enough to not get a lap dance and still have and amazing time. Just my opinion

@Chrissy - Just show him this pic. My surgeon told me he's had girls bring in pics of their friends' boobs all the time and tell him they want "that." Or sometimes they bring their friend with them to the consult and show him her boobs and point. Lol

Want me to go with you?

ETA: words are hard.

@Bethie "with MrsK tits" dying laughing.

Yes I thought the same about Andilynne, especially when she got flagged for cursing haha.