Strip Clubs for Bachelor Parties

Like I said before, they are choosing to have the experience of strippers over their partner's feelings. This may cause unrest and trust issues later on. Not saying it's right by any means but it could be a highly possible outcome.

As for my personal relationship both FH and I agree that is disrespectful to the other person. It was a one and done conversation and we were both on the same page.

As for the porn situation. I think that many partners are able to accept that because the actors are not "real" in a sense that they are not their physically. Personally, I feel porn can be a good and bad thing. Some people develop addiction habits and experience unrealistic expectations for their sex life based on porn. Other times it can be a useful tool in relationship to spice up a relationship or one partner can use it when the other partner doesn't match their sex drive. I have a friend who watches it occasionally because her husband travels for work and she needs to let stress out. It's all about communication between the couple and what they find works for the relationship. Just like strip clubs a couple should be on the same page or else it could lead to problems.

I left it up to my FH on what he wanted to do with his guys for his party. He isn't a big drinker at all so he isnt going bar hopping or to the strip clubs. He's going to one our friends house in the mountains and is riding ATVs and go to the shooting range.

It is completely against the law in every state for the girl to be completely nude and be on the floor with customers. I think only one state, Florida (of course) can do topless couch dances, all the others the girls are wearing stripper outfits that are a little more skimpy than a bikini.

Yes, there are private rooms, and there are ^some* desperate girls with sad lives that will flash, grinds or even grab for a lot more money--much more money than a bachelor party is willing to spend because if she is caught, she will lose her job.

I do respect OP's position with not being comfortable with it, some people just aren't, so be it. As long as there is complete and honest trust in a relationship I don't see anything wrong with the BM bringing the bachelor to a club for a few dances. I think it's more of thing /convention that's been around so long that some guys feel there are missing out if they don't go. Funnily enough they are usually slightly disappointed in the night (unless the are rip roaring drunk) the night never lives up to their expectations.

Just to lighten the mood

What TV show was it that said " you can heat up the water where ever you like as long as it boils at home"

I do not thinking having nude or borderline nude women dancing on top of my FH is anywhere near the same as watching a video. I've seen multiple women on here saying they'd divorce their husbands if they smashed cake on her face. I think my man watching naked women and having them be on top of him is a little worse than that but to each their own. Like I said, in my eyes it is cheating. It's fine that others are comfortable with it but I'm not. And he feels the same way about me going to strip clubs.

I misunderstood a post and realized after I posted.

I can't read all the comments because I know the gambit. My DH went to a strip club at his Bach. I didn't love the idea, some of the other wives forbade their husbands to go. I think of it entertainment, DH loves me and wants to be with me. He's an adult free to make decisions, you have to have some level of trust.

....who said they'd divorce their husband for a cake smash?

Pp I see at least 3 on every single cake smashing thread.

Hahaha @ PC, I don't remember who it was exactly, but I do remember on that post a while back, there were a few brides who felt VERY strongly and did use the word "divorce" in the same sentence as "cake smash."

My FH won't step foot in a place like that. Due to his sobriety that he cherishes, that's not the best place for him or his buddies. He will probably go shooting or hunting with the dudes.

Hahahah, well I stand corrected then. So congrats Ashlee, you're less crazy than those women.

I don't veto anything, because our relationship doesn't have an executive branch.

I could not care less what his friends decide to do for his bach. They are awkward AF so I doubt they'll go a strip club, but it doesn't make a difference to me one way or the other. I know where he lays his head at night.

I was hoping to get to at least page 3 or 4 before the lifesavers came up...LOL.

My two favorite topics on WW: Strippers and honeyfunds. Is this what it would loook like if we combined the two?

@BvilleBride,

I'd think you would rather have your FH go the non alcoholic strip club, the girls can only be nude ON the stage during their 'highlight' dance 4 feet from the nearest customer surrounded by a tip rail; and the lap dances can only be done in bikini-,like skimpy outfits. Not topless.

The topless bar that serves alcohol means the girls can give topless lap dances while straddling the guy on the couch, picture adding alcohol to that scenario....

Just a little FYI

Best man is taking FH to montauk because they care about stripers (rockfish) not strippers.

I am totally comfortable with strip clubs. I don't know what FH's best man is planning for the bachelor party, but if it involves a stripper I'm cool with it. We've hired male strippers for several of my girlfriends' bachelorette party, and FH was fine with that. My view is: its like live action porn. FH may find it arousing (or entertaining), but as long as it's just watching it doesn't bother me. I trust him completely not to touch (or anything else), and I am confident he would never cheat on me. He trusts me the same way. ETA: I feel the same way about strippers now and I will after we get married. We don't see our bachelor/bachelorette parties as a "last night of freedom", we see them as a chance for the girls or guys to get together and celebrate getting married. So far at the bachelor/bachelorette parties we've been to, we haven't behaved any differently than on any other night out.

Just because I feel strongly against strip clubs means I'm crazy? Lol ok.. I really don't need to explain myslef, but that is just one of the things FH and I feel strongly about. Just because it's different than what's acceptable in your relationship doesn't mean it's wrong? Don't like it, then don't marry me? Lol tf.

I feel like bachelor parties are the same tongue & cheek signs as: "Groom, now's your last chance to run!" "Here's socks for your cold feet!" "Here are your handcuffs because your freedom is gone!". No one is holding a gun to your head to get married. These are all in good fun. Its based on love and trust that goes both ways. Your FH is a grown man and knows his responsibilities, including to you.

I would never veto a bachelor party or any of its plans but you have every right to express your feelings to him.

@O&S in I believe in NJ all fully-nude strip clubs are BYOB. Topless clubs offer booze on premises.