Strip Clubs for Bachelor Parties

I don't look at strip clubs as a threat. I look at them as being very, very sad. DH went to one on his bach party because all his friends - that's what they wanted to do. I think it's a waste of money. He can do what he wants but I don't need to hear about it. It will just make me angry.

I feel very strongly about objectification of a human being. To each their own, it's not for me.

Anyone who would leave their relationship because their FH laid eyes on a naked chick is crazy.

My FH doesn't see it as a "goodbye to single life" or "last fling before the ring" - He's just as committed to me as he always was and is not going to be touching or swapping fluids with any strippers. It's a TRADITION. It's a special occasion and reason to celebrate and be social. Do you know how many of his groomsmen are like "OMG I'm so excited, I need this so bad"? They are married and can't wait for an excuse to go. They are more interested than he is.

I did make it clear that I would be uncomfortable with a stripper in his hotel room, however if it happened, I wouldn't call off the wedding. The groom has little control when they have 5+ other guys doing what they want to do. In FH's case, he has 16 guys going with him to Vegas.

I also would hate to be that wife that would not allow him to go to his best friend's bach party if a strip club is involved. That is so unfair. Strip clubs may not be their cup of tea but of course they will do it if it's for an important pre-wedding event for a close friend or family member.

Hey, FMG, while I totally understand your position, I looked at it this way: it's a dumb tradition, DH has never been to a strip club outside of someone's bach party, so cleearly it's NOT his thing, so what's the big deal?

As for 'if it's not OK outside the strip club why should it be OK in the club?" well-- it wouldn't really be OK to wear my wedding gown outside of my wedding day (although I'd love to!) so-- does that make it not OK to wear it on my wedding day? Wouldn't really OK for a surgeon to wear her scrubs, gloves, mask, etc. outside the surgical theater-- but she'd better well wear them *in* there-- so that's kind of flawed logic.

If you really don't want yout FH to go, tell him.

I WANT my fiance to go to a strip club LOL

i'm going to vegas and you better believe i will be at a show / dancing with guys at the club!

"Why do I come here? Because I heard someone say you can look at a strangers p***y for a DOLLAR. Listen, I will watch ANYONE degrade themselves. If there's a man and donkey show, I'm going in. I don't want to be 80 wondering "What do you think the look on the donkey's face was?" - some comedian I don't remember the name of but remember laughing my ass off.

Poor donkey

O&S, like the guys who say they don't watch porn?

#suretheydont

Hahahahaha, @m - reminds me of that line in Zack and Miri Make a Porno when Zack says, "Everybody wants to see anybody fuck. I hate Rosie O'Donnel, but if somebody said "I got a tape of Rosie O'Donnel getting fucked stupid" I'd be like "Why the fuck aren't we watching that right now?"

YESS! Titties thread!

Don't we all need a pick me up today to have a very PERKY day?

LOL @O&S

@Harrison I asked because if you've ever been to a strip club they aren't doing anything in there that you couldn't do but better actually (bc its your man/woman and no rules). The stuff on the pole (ok may be you can't do all of that), but everything else: skimpy outfits, high heels, suggestively taking off your clothes ("stripping"), dancing, grinding... are all things you can do and for free. (personal story) but before FH I was pretty close minded and thought that doing any of that stuff was degrading, but I learned that's my man, I love him, the question went from why should I? to why not? It not only makes him happy/excited it allows me to showcase to the man I love another side of me. So just knowing there is nothing any girl in a strip club could give him that I can't helps me feel a lot more secure in him going. So he'll see someone different there, not better/hotter/sexier.

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@O&S you are so spot on. Of course he'll say that if he figures you'll have a problem with it.

FFW, that's how I think but no one has ever vocalized it properly before.

DH went to a Vegas TRIPLE (3 guys) bach party, so there were like 50 guys. Needless to say, lots of stripper stories. You guys, one had to leave the party to go pick up her toddler from day care. They are not a threat.

I may be in the minority, but I think lap dances constitute cheating: getting turned on my another women? Yes. It doesn't matter that the stripper is abstracted from the situation; the guy certainly isn't. I support your discomfort, FutureMrs.Guzman.

To me, it a trust issue. If you can't trust your FH to "behave himself" when he goes to a strip club for his bachelor party, there are deeper issues there. The strippers are just making a living. It's not like they're out picking up hookers. And for those that feel going to a strip club is cheating, better not let him go to a beach, there might be women wearing skimpy bikinis and he might accidentally see one. Guess what, your FH is going to see barely dressed women at some point, be it the strip club, or the beach. Just sayin...

Getting turned on by another woman is cheating? Make sure he never turns on the TV. Or watches a movie. Or goes to a beach. Or reads a magazine. Or a brochure. Or takes in advertising of any kind. Or steps outside. Or just touches himself in thought. Or dreams.

I assume this is directed at me, Q&S.

Porn has aesthetic remove; a corporeal stripper on your lap doesn't. I don't see it as being any different from having some girl at a party give him a lap dance. Would that also be permissible? Certainly, he feels no emotional connection to her either.

Edit: I didn't mean to say getting turned on by something other than your SO is cheating; it was the context and source of the situation.

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Def can't control dreams. what about memories. they don't disappear just because you showed up. (but that's just another one of those: he even says when I came into his life he forgot about all those other girls responses)

O&S speaks the truth. LOL