Strip Clubs 🙄

FH has a great strip club story that I hold close to my heart for future shoving-it-in-your-face moments 😂 anywho!
To me its just not a big deal. When we first started dating, he went to a bachelor party and I was hoping theyd go to a strip club. They didnt 😩 and I got a bit upset.
I dont know! Fh and I have a weird relationship. Going to a strip club would not bother me at all! I see it as going to a broadway show or something. Performers are being paid to provide customers with a service. Thats pretty much it.
On a different line, I've been begging FH to take me to a strip club for yeeears as I feel like it's something we'll enjoy to do as a couple 😂

My Dad keeps threatening to take FH to a strip club before the wedding. I am entirely uncomfortable with this idea. I don’t want barely dressed strippers all over my FH...in front of my Dad. And probably my uncles, and maybe an aunt. I have a weird family. But I really don’t want them to go.

View Quoted Comment I think if they wouldn't have been naked I wouldn't have hated it soooooo much lol like I was like alright how do I look at this naked woman lol she was doing some crazy pole tricks and I was like ohhh wow...but I don't like that their boobs are out 🤷‍♀️

Mine went to one when his cousin came into town a year ago and didn't tell me. He didn't tell me because I didn't want him to go it started a huge fight.
But they don't get topless, it's not something he does on the regular, I trust him. So while I was mad a year ago I feel like I'm more accepting that this is going to happen at his bachelor party and there not much I can say about it.
But you have to decide now how you feel and have an open discussion with him. It almost caused me and FH to break up.

View Quoted Comment I so understand. He lied to me last year about going to one and I found out and we fought so much so I think that's why I'm so much more uncomfortable with them now. And he knows how I feel and hes said he doesnt care to go and he told his BM that but he doesnt think he'll listen. We've fought like 3 times this month, since forever and it's been about him going to a strip club every time

I told FH I wasn’t comfortable with it. It wasn’t a shock as it’s something I’ve said the entire time we’ve dated. I just think it’s disrespectful. He went to a cabin in the woods and they drank, golfed, shot guns etc and had a great time.
To those that say getting a strip dance isn’t a big deal, I would ask FH if he would want me to strip for him and his friends “since it’s not a big deal” obviously the answer is always an appalled no. To me that puts things in perspective.

It’s not a big deal. These women are just trying to do a job and are not after your FH. If you trust him it’s nothing to worry about.

I’m the same way. I definitely wouldn’t want my FW to go to the strip club. I understand that the strippers aren’t there to hook up with their customers and that they’re just doing their job. Good for them. And I trust my FW entirely, but I’m not a a fan of the person I’m about to marry having a naked person all over her. I wouldn’t be okay with her having a stranger dance topless on her for free, why would I be okay with her (or someone else) paying them to do it?

I hate strip clubs. I totally respect the women and their business, and I trust my FH, but I also think that my FH shouldn’t need to go to a place with a ton of topless women dancing sexually in order to celebrate the fact that he’s soon marrying me. People seem to think that women just think their husband is going to cheat on them, as if going to a place that is all about overt sexuality and includes naked women is something that isn’t ALREADY borderline cheating (if you are in a monogamous relationship). If a married or almost married man goes somewhere with the intention of drinking heavily and seeing women strip and give them lap dances, I’d say he’s not actually ready to get married at all. It’s honestly just disrespectful and immature.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I hate this concept that women who don’t want their FHs to go to strip clubs are somehow insecure or just need to lighten up. Like no, I think that asking the person you’ve decided to spend the rest of your life with to not go to a place to dance with naked women in a place that is inherently sexual is a reasonable request.

Lucky you just went into one that’s topless. If a stripclub is 18+ they can be full nudity! Only if they don’t serve alcohol! My FH will likely be going to a strip club before our wedding. He’s never been to one more has he had the desire, but said that he would go if his best man planned it to do typical bachelor party things. I said it could only be a topless one and no full nudity. I trust him 100%, but I’m not fully comfortable with it either. I mean it is what it is lol

FH has never gone to a strip club and does not entertain the idea at all. When we started discussing bachelorette/bachelor party ideas, he was the one who first said “no strip clubs” to ME. Neither of us are interested in going. I also dislike the idea of bachelorette and bachelor parties representing that last night of “single” life, as if people aren’t already in committed, long-term relationships with established boundaries?

I requested bo strip clubs or hald naked men. Instead the girls did a pole dancing class for nt bachlorette party.



My thoughts on FH going toa strip club for bachelor party is fine with me because ge used to work in one and us. Ot amussed by the atmosphere of the club. You gave ro ve confident in self ans trust your FH judgement.

My shower/party was this past weekend and we went to the Clermont in Atlanta. First we went to the rooftop of the hotel and then to the lounge. It was definitely an experience. One lady crushes beer cans with her boobs and another put matches in her nipple piercings and lit them on fire 🤣🤣🤣. Best night of my life!

View Quoted Comment YES. It’s not like my FW is a doctor who needs to see female anatomy in a nonsexual environment and I’m telling her to quit her job because I’m uncomfortable with it. Strip clubs are a sexual environments where you purelosely go to be aroused by a stranger. And while my FW is a loyal human, she is still just that, a human. Humans are sexual beings and when put in a sexual environment with naked people, our bodies become aroused. That’s human nature, it’s how the body works. I don’t want my FW purposely going somewhere and paying someone to arouse her.

I have made it very clear to FH that I am uncomfortable with him going to a strip club and that I would be upset if he went. He has been previously(before our relationship) and doesn’t care to go. He has promised that if he had a bachelor party that they would not be going. To me going to a place simply to pay to look at other women is not only a waste of money but close enough to cheating. I would not want some mostly naked/fully naked women touching him and trying to get money from him. The clubs around here also aren’t clean and the girls are known to break the rules to make more money. Stories from a bachelor party a friend attended really made me dislike the idea more, as well as an EMT friend having to pick up the girls from one and explaining that he was worried about her being in the ambulance because of her history and numerous job related medical issues (stds etc). I told FH if it is that important that I will strip and he can pay me, you have free boobs at home so if you are gonna pay someone to see theirs then you can pay to see mine.

View Quoted Comment The most concerning part of this story is that an EMT would truly be worried about being around someone because of an STD. Assuming something was seriously wrong with her since she was in an ambulance, and knowing that we are all around probably at least one person with an STD every single day. You don’t catch an STD by sharing a space with someone. This post wasn’t intended to shame strippers, just discuss the act of going to a strip club when in a committed monogomous relationship.

I think it’s disrespectful to a relationship to go to strip clubs right before getting married. Both my fiancé and I are fine with each other going to strip clubs so it’s not like a trust issue or anything but we both find it to be in poor taste. There’s a million other things to do with your friends other than watch naked/half naked people dance around anyway.

So, I have mixed feelings about this. I feel that if he wants or needs to go to a strip club, we can go together. I'm not entirely comfortable with him going without me. But I'm lucky and he gets really uncomfortable and doesn't care for them at all.
*I do want to add, that I know a few strippers... no, I do not hang out with a bunch of strippers. (Not that there's anything wrong with that). But my best friends cousin has been a stripper for 6 years, and I've met several of her coworkers/friends over the years. From everything I've heard, as far as bachelor parties go, its much better for them to go to a strip club, than to hire a stripper for a private party. Nasty, raunchy things happen at private bachelor parties, and I mean nasty... like groomsmen paying the stripper to give the groom oral and whatnot... and to the stripper, its just money, they don't really see it any other way.
***Let me also add, so I'm not bombarded with nasty replies, this does not apply to ALL strippers. Just what I, personally have heard, from the strippers I, personally know.

I’m not bothered at all bc it’s not something my FH does often..or really at all bc he hasn’t been in a couple of years. I know he doesn’t have plans to take any of them home. I’ve actually been w/ him once before. Everyone is different. I don’t think you have to feel bad for not wanting him to go, but I would just let it go this time.