Strip Clubs 🙄

This! I actually have a friend who is a stripper and she's just trying to make money to put food on the table. She's not after the men there and if they try hitting on her she ignores them for the rest of the night and avoids them. They aren't dancing to try to get our men. They are just putting on a show.

There's soooo many options here that are fun for men and not as creepy or upsetting. My thing is, watching another guy get aroused by a topless girl is like an awkward sexual activity so all the guys need to be super drunk (bad idea) and then they don't really have full self control and do and say dumb things that they might regret.... To me a bach party (either man or woman) should be a fun celebration of marriage with friends, not a "Marraige sucks, lets celebrate this last bit of singleness while I'm free" and to me strip clubs are like "see this is what you could have done if you weren't getting married" and I know that these are just my feelings and it's not a big deal to some people, but to me it's just disrespectful and bound to be hurtful to most future wives.

Your husband shouldn't be putting the blame on you, he can tell his friends "that really doesn't sound that fun to me, can we do ____ instead" he doesn't even need to bring you into it.

I'm personally not bothered by the going to a strip club to watch women on the stage, but I wouldn't want H to get a lap dance or anything more intimate/touching. That being said, my H has no desire to ever go to a strip club, he's had friends who've gone for a bachelor party and he opted not to go in, and for his bachelor party he didn't go. What concerns me about your situation is just how disrespectful your BM is. I don't get the having to do "traditional Bachelor party things, because that's what you do." They should be planning an activity that the groom wants to do. If your FH is telling him that he doesn't want to do that, because it makes you feel uncomfortable, then he should respect that and plan a different activity. If he wants to go to a strip club, he can do it on his own time. I would tell your FH to have a serious conversation with his BM and ask him why he thinks it's okay to disrespect his relationship and force him to do something that he doesn't want to do and that would cause issues with the woman that he loves. IMO, a good friend (which if he's the BM, I'm assuming he's a good friend), then he needs to listen to your FH when he says he doesn't want to go to a strip club and come up with a different activity (I don't know what your FH likes to do, but fishing, sporting event, golf, formula 1 car or go cart racing, camping, whatever). The purpose of a bachelor party is to give the groom an opportunity to bond with loved ones and celebrate his upcoming marriage. It's not really a "last night free" kind of a thing, because you are already in a committed relationship. The groom should be celebrated in a way that makes him happy, and if that's not going to your strip club, then your BM needs to not be selfish and plan something that he would enjoy. Good luck.

We are going to Vegas and I know we are both going to strip clubs. I told him It's fine as he goes as long as their is no bodily fluids exchanged.

And hell yes i'm going to a strip club! Let me see some naked men!!

I DON'T want to go to one for mine. Nothing weirder than a sweaty man rubbing up against me, UGH. My fiance doesn't want to go (or so he says), but I said IF he went just to tell me. I wouldn't worry about him going, honestly the strippers don't care about the men nor do they find them attractive/fascinating at all! Even if some of the groomsmen think they do haha! They are just at work like anyone else, waiting for their shift to be over! Usually the "nicer" strip clubs aren't full nude either and they aren't allowed to touch the women to any great extent. I wouldn't over think it, your fiance loves you!

I was offered to be taken to one for my bachelorette and I declined. To be clear: I don't have any issue with strip clubs, the people who work there, or the people who frequent them. Just not for me. I've never thought too deeply on FH going to a strip club, because he doesn't want to go to one. He's a religious man and doesn't care for it.

Anybody who is uncomfortable with their spouse going should have a conversation with them and work something out, whether it's that the spouse doesn't go, or that they're feeling better about them going.

FH groomsmen are joking about the strip club and I'm kind of like, try me. Lol. I know FH wouldn't do anything inappropriate but I agree, I don't want naked women dancing on my husband. That's not cool to me. Luckily for me FH DESPISES strip clubs so he literally would not go in if they brought him. He just thinks it's gross to pay women to be naked. Lol

Completely agree with this 100%

I’d say he’s not actually ready to get married at all. It’s honestly just disrespectful and immature.

Glad someone else agrees. To each their own for their own marriage, but that's also my viewpoint.

It really doesn't bother me. I am in a male-dominated field of business and going to a strip club was kind of a given if we all went out after work. You would think times have changed since #metoo and all, but I digress. I have sat and talked to many of them and most of them are decent women trying to make a buck any way they legally can. FH really has no interest in going to one. One thing he always says about women "They all have boobs and vaginas". I am so glad that a woman with brains turns him on!

I would much rather have them go to the strip club than have a stripper come to the house/hotel where the party is. Those tend to "give more" than a lap dance for money and that I am not ok with.

Totally agree!

Totally agree with you!