Strippers and bachelor/bachelorette party

Trust is important in the relationship. Your future husband should never be scared to tell you something...

You cannot tell anyone how to post on a public forum. If people want to be rude, they will be. If you don't want to read them, don't post.

With that said, I'm a firm believer in no strippers. If FH needs to look at another woman for some sort of pleasure, he shouldn't be with me.

I would just tell him that the idea of him having strippers at his bachelors party makes you very uncomfortable. I'm sure he probably doesn't want them either, especially if it makes you upset. If he has decent friends they will respect the both of you and your relationship

I understand why you would be apprehensive about it. If you trust him though I don't think it would be an issue. My FH is going to Vegas for his bachelor party and I know there will be strippers. I trust him completely and have no problem with it. However, some do. Trust your gut!

You have trust issues but you completely trust him? If you do trust him then it shouldn't be a problem if they do get strippers right? He shouldn't keep things from you just because you won't like what you hear .. and honestly, nothing should happen between him and anyone because like you said, you are engaged.

You said you have trust issues but you trust him completely?

I guess I will add that I'm not really sure how I feel about the whole stripper situation. My FH isn't into it but Sass makes a good point. You need to sit down and talk to him and come to an agreement. But it sounds like some other things are going on ...

My FH doesn't want strippers or a strip club either. It's one thing he's worries about...but I told him just to tell the guys he's not into it and please don't plan for that. If your FH's GMs respect him, which they should if they are that close, they should not get strippers.

If you have trust issues (like fearing that your FH will sleep with a stripper) and are planning on getting married, that's something that needs to be resolved before you walk down the aisle. Obviously the stripper debate is a big deal for you and if you guys are on the same page, he should stand his ground. If he tells his friends no strippers, they should respect it. I would be livid if I had a bachelorette party and my friends hired a stripper even though I specifically asked for one to not be present.

Neither me or my DH wanted "our last night of freedom." We both think if the other wanted to look at someone else, we shouldn't be together but, every couple is different. I think this is a conversation you need to have with your FH. If you're insecure about it, he needs to know that. His friends should also respect his wishes. They can have a fun bachelor party without a stripper. Or, another thing I've seen couples doing is having a stripper together or having their parties together. It really depends on what you're comfortable with. ETA - spelling

I told my friends no strippers, and they respected my wishes. Honestly none of us are into that anyway so I highly doubt that it was ever in the plans. If your FH tells him BM that he does not want strippers, GM/his friends should respect his wishes.

My FH and I both don't want strippers at our parties.

I agree with Sass...if he needs to look at other women for pleasure then he shouldn't be marrying me.

I get where you are coming from with the trust issues but this should be a discussion with you and your FH for sure.

Do you trust your FH to get up and leave if there is a stripper?

I'm not getting married til June so we have a ways to go 'til bach parties, but FH and I talked and agreed together that we won't be involving strippers in our plans..

Tell him that you don't think strippers align w your faith and you don't want him to have that kind of party. He's probably going to say that he totally agrees and may even be a little defensive that you think that's an option for him. Ask him if he plans to tell the stripper to leave if his friends get him one anyway. If he says yes, put it out of your mind. If his friends do it anyway they are INSANELY rude and not friends

If they do, can't FH leave? If you trust him (Idk from your post if you do or not...), then trust him to make the right choice. My H leaves strip clubs at others' bachelor parties. He'll call me as he's eating nasty microwaved chicken nuggets at the bar as his friends come up asking him for money And then will stay on the phone until he goes to the car. Usually then he'll fall asleep on the phone with me. He hates strip clubs/strippers. Knowing how nasty it is and how usually they're stripping bc of horrible circumstances, it's not attractive anymore... Not saying "oh well MYYY H does this", but just saying, if you trust him, then you trust him to make the right decision. For instance, H could be completely lying to me and pretending all of those things while meanwhile, he's actually getting a lap dance. But I know he's not bc I trust him and he trusts that I believe him... Different strokes for different folks, I guess, but what does he believe? Does he want a "last night of freedom" and thinks that strippers are okay??

Honestly I don't get the strippers. They creep me out and why would you pay to look at another woman's (or man's) body?

You have trust issues? Why get married? You need to resolve your issues before you get married.

No strippers. My FH is having a bonfire and shooting guns with his best friends and my girls and I are considering dinner and movie or theme park day!

Exotic dancers are people. They have their own goals, motivations and reasons why they do that job.

Just like there are people who cheat, lie & steal... There are dancers who do that too and dancers who don't.

You can't predict the people you interact with. You can only control how you react to them.

All it comes down to is do you trust your future husband to exit a bad situation?

People can cheat or do bad things just as easily in an everyday setting due to craigslist and tinder.