Strippers vs. no strippers...

I personally have no problem with strippers. I dont like them, as far as me having one or going to one. However, I know our groomsmen and I know my FH will be having strippers at his bachelor party. The way i look at it is, i trust him 100 percent and i know he respects me. We also consider "cheating" as in if one of us do something we wouldnt do infront of eachother. So yeah im not worried. I say let them, its just a show, its not like they will be having sex or anything.

However, if you just cant deal with it. Talk to him. I mean even tho i dont have an issue with it. My FH doesnt like strippers but i know the guys and there will be some. Some guys that know there FW isnt a fan wont wanna upset you and will not have them. good luck

I don't want fh to have a stripper. But I know he will. And I know that I will also. So I am not going to stress it. I think that have it for a bachelor party is ok. But if it was an all the time thing. Then yes, I would have a problem. Don't worry about it.

I am a stripper.

Trust me Babydoll, he could be Brad Pitt...the only reason he's getting any attention is cause I'm getting paid. Most of those girls are married or have boyfriends of their own. I wouldn't be too concerned.

IMO I don't see anything wrong with it, it's all a show and that is what they are getting paid to do. But if you really do not want him to have one, talk to him and tell him how you really feel.

Fh will be going to a strip club for his bachelorette party and it doesnt bother me. i trust him completely and i think its more for the other guys than him. i mean i'm sure they will buy him a lap dance but i know he loves me and is coming home to me so i see nothing wrong with it.

My whole bridal party is going to the strip clubs together and I cannot wait! Have you ever seen a stripper in person? It's really not bad! Why don't you suggest doing the party together and have strippers? Your FH and the guys get what they want, and you get to be there to see t? IDK, I see nothing wrong with it at all!

I have no problem with it. Its a bachelor party for cripes sake. As long as he comes home to me I don't care what he does while he is out. Honestly I have no issues with guys looking at other chicks. I am the one that he sleeps with everynight. I am the one that he is marrying. Why on earth would I be jealous of some chick that his buddies are paying to strip? Its no worse than a guy watching porn Imho. Or is that a no-no too?

Maybe I am weird though, I do let my fh do everything he wants so I guess if you don't have a relationship that implies that you support whatever crazyness that he decides to do then I could see an issue I guess

I understand where you are coming from. My Fh and I have an understanding that there will be no strippers, he doesn't even like the idea of having one.

Carmen- i love your perspective. One of our GM's wives used to be as well and when I first made noise about it she said the same thing. Most girls dance for the money and aren't trying to steal your man. if you trust your man then you trust your man and thats all that matters. It took that perspective for me to let go of my issue with it. THANKS! :-)

Sorry to be the odd-ball, but I completely agree with Suzanne... absolutely no strippers. If he is looking at & lusting over another woman (which he obviously would be) then that is cheating in my book. I have made it plain as day that if he has a stripper, the wedding is off. Call me old fashioned, but there will be only one naked woman in my man's life from the day we met 2 and a half years ago to the rest of forever. I respect other people's opinions, but when it comes to me, this is where I put my foot down.

If I had the choice, I would prefer him not have a stripper. I know he will and I am OK with that. I trust him 100%. I wont have one but thats my choice.

Danielle R. you are completely right. There is no reason for him to go and look at other women, especially in that sense. It is cheating. Would he like if you gave someone a lap dance or sees you naked? No! So why is it okay if someone does that to him/in front of him? And when they say it's my last night of freedom, hey buddy, you were not "free" since the day you said you wanted to be with me! So don't pull that! I am not having one, and neither is my fiance. But again, this is just my OPINION. Good luck!

Personally, I like exotic dancers a lot--I enjoy watching them work both because I generally find them attractive and also, good ones put on quite an athletic show, which is entertaining in itself. I considered a strip club for my bacholerette party, but decided I wanted something lower key (PJ party!).

FH is totally uncomfortable with the idea of dancers, and definitely would not want to go to a strip club without me. If he did, though, I definitely wouldn't mind.

That said, that's ME, not you! If you feel really strongly about it (although Carmen is right; I have a good friend from high school who has worked as a dancer for a long time, and she is quite happily married), then your FH should respect those wishes. I think that it's a sign of possible future problems if he isn't willing to do that.

I have a bad taste in my mouth about strippers because of my ex husband... but if my FH wanted one at his Bachelor party I would have to trust him totally or why are we even getting married! I would hate teh idea and dont really want one myself just not my thing but men are differant!

I'm not crazy about my FH having one or going to a strip club but I trust him fully. We went to one together and after about 5 minutes he was ready to leave. I know he won't be lusting after the ladies, if anything he'll be wishing he went big game hunting. (that's really what he wants to do)

Lol... thats funny Kshively...we drive down the street and instaed of my FH looking at women his head turns for every big truck that passes by with big tires and lifted bodies!! lol

I don't have a problem with him having a stripper. When we were dating we used to go to strip clubs routinely with our friends just to have drinks. I met alot of the girls and they all dance for their own reasons but I never heard one of them say they were doing this to pick up a man. So let him enjoy his last view and then lock him down

This is a former post on this exact issue. i think it will be helpful here-

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/the-bachelor-party-strippers-allowed/d56bceb3af4d4357.html

My husband went to a strip club for his bachelor party, I can't say it really bothered me. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a stripper-free bachelor party until I started coming onto wedding websites. However, if he was going every weekend or something then obviously that would not be ok.

If you have a problem with it, you need to have an up-front and honest conversation with your FH about your feelings. It's not an easy battle to win, since he is going to tell you it's "tradition" and he'll have peer pressure from his friends, and you don't want to look like a nagging wife, etc. But hopefully if he values your feelings and sees you feel strongly enough about the issue, then he will honor your wishes.