Strippers

I side with @Jo on the debate. We both don't care and real strippers/pole dancers can be crazy talented. I didn't have male strippers but my friends know I prefer female strippers. Also, male reviews are more fun than male strippers anyway.

OP are you ever going to come back? Why was he mad? Was he big mad or little mad? Did you discuss boundaries and the possibility beforehand?

Personally I don't want a stripper and I don't want him to have one either.

Everyone is different and feels differently about this topic but I wouldn't be comfortable with him having strippers and I know he doesn't want me to have any.

Male strippers aren't my thing. No man should ever wear a g-string. We're not having any for my bachelorette party. FH's friends might bring him to a strip club, but I'm not worried. We've been to strip clubs together, and we have no trust issues. I'd say 1/2 of his GM have significant others (including the BM), so it SHOULD be relatively tame.

I'm not having a bachelorette party! If I did though, there definitely wouldn't any strippers involved. I'm not comfortable with some dude jiggling his junk in my face. Fh also isn't a fan of strippers. He thinks it's degrading.

FH and I talked about bachelorette/bachelor and strippers and realized that we have no problem with each other having strippers but neither of us want them (just not something we were personally into). It seems like you should have discussed this prior to the party.

I plan on having a ladies evening style bachelorette party. Dress up, Dance, drink, laugh and just enjoy my people.

I don't do strippers now, so I already knew I didn't want one for my night out. To each is own...but if your FH was against it, unless it was a surprise thing, you should try to respect their wishes.

FH and I have gone to strip clubs together and separately.. It's not really a big deal for us.

I won't be having any because I'm going for a different type of bachelorette. However both MOH and I really wanted Butler's In The Buff, but the other girls invited wouldn't let us... Lol

FH will be going to "the ballet" as his friends call it and I'm totally fine with it. All I told him was no back room stuff!! He can get a lap dance in the public and that's that!!

I don't think my FH would be mad, but it's not my thing anyway. I personally don't really like the thought of another woman grinding on my FH, but I'm not going to stop him either. I trust him, just grossed out by the idea. I don't like the thought of male strippers either. I don't want some rando's junk in my face.

We have talked and he seemed uncomfortable with me going to a male show because he knows how aggressive they get when you wear a "bride to be" sash. He said to go without all the tiaras and things. I didn't care either way and wanted a chill night out in Austin and then relaxing day in the hot tub at a lake house anyway.

I was encouraging him to go to a show if he wanted but he very much didn't want to. Also, one of the groomsmen has a wife that hates strippers more than anything and the other gm did not want to stir that up. The marriage almost broke up after he attended another guys bachelor party where he had no idea there would be a stripper even though he left immediately after the stripper showed up.

@Laura - I'm DYING!

"umm....your profile says you're a fit, buff looking stripper. We've determined that is a lie. LEAVE."

bwahaha

Anywho, FH has been to strip clubs and it doesn't bother me. Personally, I do not want strippers if I do have a bach party.

Not the lifesavers, I thought it had been eradicated from my brain.

I'd be upset if FH had strippers. I don't feel like it's respectful to the SO to have strippers, but to each their own!! We've been together, but that's a totally different ballgame.

I was supposed to have them but the show got cancelled, and I know DH had them. Neither of us are uncomfortable about the other going, in a group setting, but we are also uncomfortable with ourselves going haha. To be if I don't trust him to go to a strip club I got bigger trust issues that I need to work out, and vise versa. But that is IMO. Also, i assume you did not plan your own party, so it was something they did for you. And some people say just walk out. Honestly, I think unless you specifically told them no strippers, that just walking out of a party someone took the time to plan for you is just rude. Just like a gift, someone gives you something you smile and thank them. But again, IMO.

Neither of us is bothered by the other having strippers, but I doubt either of us will. I don't like strangers touching me.

Seriously though this sounds like a convo you should have had with your FH

I do not want strippers at mine, I would be mad if there were strippers at his, he does not want strippers at his, and would be mad if I had strippers at mine. The way I see it is you should only be looking at one person that way. That's why he doesn't even want any of his friends to plan his. He said he wants my brother to.

Personally it's not my thing. I'd run out if I seen a stripper. Disgusting!! Ugh. However, FH likes that stuff so I'm expecting it so I can't get mad. It's something I knew he did with the guys. It is what it is.

I know that my FH will have a stripper or two at his bachelor party. I'm not really sure about mine. It's not really me. But I trust him and know his friends will keep him out of trouble. Plus is best man will be planning the bachelor party. We've talked about it a little bit. That's what is important, that you are both okay with what you both want to do. If neither of you are okay with strippers, they shouldn't be there, if one of you isn't comfortable with the other having them, neither of you should have them. It should be something that is discussed, not just done.

I once went to a party and they had strippers come over (women but I bet it rings true for men too) and they were super aggressive and there was tons of exposed skin-on-skin contact. I kept thinking "you could get a skin condition from that... you could get an STD from that..." Now when I think about home strippers, I just imagine microscopic bugs hopping off of the strippers onto the attendees and dancing around... kinda like the Mucinex commercial.

I personally don't want to see any penis or vagina so I wouldn't have a home stripper. I could get behind a male review/burlesque show where they don't actually show genitals or have any contact with the genitals though.

@Lyla - I think the same thing, ugh gross.

Just popping in to say....punctuation. Please. I have no clue what you're trying to say here. I mean I get the gist but dang.....