My fiance has 3 adult children, and I have 1 adult child. We decided to ask the 4 of them to be our "Best Kids" all together, instead of having a best man and maid of honor. The challenge is, we're not sure what to do with them during the ceremony itself. I was hoping you all might have some suggestions.
Let me start by saying that we are having a short, casual "micro wedding" type of ceremony.
We do not feel a need to follow traditional ceremony "rules" since this is a second go-around for both of us and we aren't spring chickens anymore. So we're open to options. But of course we do need to take their feelings and comfort levels into consideration.
First option I thought of was the traditional setup, having them stand at the back on either side. But there isn't a good way to split them up. If we split them by relationship it would be uneven (3 on his side, 1 on mine) and would make it feel like we are not blending our family. If we split them by gender that would also be uneven as there's 3 girls and 1 boy. I'm not sure splitting them 2 on each side would work either because that would mean one of his would be forced to stand with mine instead of with their own siblings, and unfortunately I think that would cause some upset feelings (the 3 of them are very close, but they barely know my daughter).
We had thought maybe we could just have them stand together in kind of an arc formation at the front (so the officiant would be at the back, then me and my fiance, then the kids in front of us), but I'm concerned that could interfere with our guests' view of the ceremony.
Another option I thought of was to just have them seated in the front row together, not have them stand at all. If we do that, maybe we would do a short processional then so at least they would be highlighted in some way (have them walk in first, maybe by order of age, and go straight to their seats in the front row, and then we would walk in and up to the front).
I've seen suggestions in my internet research to just have them do some sort of reading or other type of presentation as an alternative way of having them participate, instead of having them stand. But I don't think any of them will be willing to do anything like that.
Thanks in advance for any suggestions you all may have!
