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Super stressed- what would you do?

Rachel, on February 28, 2021 at 9:02 AM

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So I hired a pretty expensive officiant ( they tell your love story etc) Unbeknown to me he contracted us 3-5.. I assumed we would get into chapel earlier to get dressed, prepare etc. Well, chapel said in order to get in at 2:30 it will be $160 dollars extra.. I told the officiant that I can secure...

So I hired a pretty expensive officiant ( they tell your love story etc) Unbeknown to me he contracted us 3-5.. I assumed we would get into chapel earlier to get dressed, prepare etc. Well, chapel said in order to get in at 2:30 it will be $160 dollars extra.. I told the officiant that I can secure the chapel no sooner than 230 and he said as long as we can begin at 3, since I need to be done with your ceremony at 3:30 to head to another wedding.


As soon as i heard that I felt nervous- I asked it won't be rushed will it? He said as long as we start right at 3, it will be fine. Well, What if im not ready? WE are having a very small amount of guests but still what if they're not seated? If violinist or photo runs behind? I just feel so anxious. Do you think half hour is enough for me to get my dress on and ready to walk down?


what would you do??

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  • R
    Dedicated September 2021
    Rachel ·
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    So you think it will be ok ?
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  • Michelle
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    You will be fine

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  • R
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    Rachel ·
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    The chapel is 3-5

    He has 3-330 ceremony but didn't realize we wouldn't be able to access the chapel till 3. I was able to secure chapel at 230 for 160$ extra. I am just nervous we won't start right at 3 and he will rush it.. Also now we have the chapel till 5 and the ceremony is done at 330.

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  • R
    Dedicated September 2021
    Rachel ·
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    So leave it be ? Just hope we begin at 3?

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    Rachel ·
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    Didn't do them yet. just concerned what if someone is running late. Photographer , violinist,, if someone has to pee ( we have 5 kids in it)

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Cancel him and get a new officiant asap. He should not be rushing you if he has you scheduled for a 2 hour block.

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    Sara ·
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    Yikes, this officiant sounds super unprofessional. Like you said, what if one of the kids needs to pee at the last minute? What if the violinist is running late in traffic? I'd find a new officiant ASAP. You should not feel rushed on your wedding day

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    Expert September 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Well, how long is the ceremony supposed to be? If he’s only contracted 3-3:30 there really isn’t much wiggle room. Maybe shorten the service?
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    He said its 30 min and won't be rushed as long as we begin at 3.. and to tell all my people to come at 230.. idk kinda strange to put pressure like that on a day that is supposed to be special

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    Rachel ·
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    Well the chapel has me 3-5 . He has down in contract 3-330.

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    Rachel ·
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    My issue is the chapel is 3-5. He neglected to tell me he needed to Start immediately at 3 and end at 330
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  • Michelle
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    That's his fault and he should not be doing this to you. Why you need to cancel him and go with someone else.

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    Rachel ·
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    I think I’ll have to. I wonder if he will refund me though :/
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  • Michelle
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    He will need to minus any non refundable deposit

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  • Givemeallthepups
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    Givemeallthepups ·
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    So what’s his plan if things run behind? I would ask if there’s a fee or does he just bail and head out?


    I, personally, would eat the deposit and try to find a new officiant.
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    Rachel ·
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    I am assuming rush it sinxe he said it won’t be rushed if we start at 3. So strange to me for the money he charged
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