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MrsSnez
Super October 2018

Surprise Couples Massage?

MrsSnez, on May 25, 2018 at 11:56 AM Posted in Honeymoon 0 14
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We're getting married in Breckenridge, CO and staying at a ski resort with a spa. I recently decided that I'd like to get a massage while we're there, but wondered if I shouldn't surprise FH and include him too. If I'm needing some stress relief, he's probably in the same boat right? It's a DW and we'll have almost a full day where it's just the 2 of us before the rest of our families fly in. As far as I know he's never had a massage so I'm hesitant to just book it, but I know if I ask him about it he'll just ask how much it costs and then say no (he's the pincher of the pennies in our house). Is this something most men would hate? Or would he actually appreciate the opportunity to decompress before the storm of family hits?

Also, I know people generally advise to have a couple days between a massage and the wedding. I'm looking at Friday morning massage before a Monday afternoon wedding. Is that long enough?

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Latest activity by Jenna, on May 29, 2018 at 5:34 PM
  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    Has he ever had a massage? FH & I went for a couples massage it was his first, he admitted after he loved it, that he was very nervous and a little apprehensive. We now go regularly because he did love it. You need to drink lots of water after a massage and I would def not do it the day of or before.

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  • WED18
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    WED18 ·
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    I say YES!! DH and I love couples massages. He's a guy kind of guy and I got him to get a pedicure recently, and now he loves those as well. Go for it!!

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  • MrsSnez
    Super October 2018
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    As far as I know he hasn't, which is why im struggling with booking it or not. We'd have a few days in between (Friday before Monday wedding).
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  • Mrsp
    Devoted July 2018
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    I surprised my FH with a gift certificate for a massage when we first started dating and he loved it but he ended up with a male masseuse and couldn't relax because he felt weird having a man touching his body. I completely understand and feel bad that it wasn't a good experience for him and I'll know in the future but that might be something to consider too.

    My mom is someone who wouldn't like that as a gift because she's uncomfortable with people touching her. I personally would love it! We're all different about these things. It's a very personal gift so you have to know your FH. Maybe casually bring up the question of whether he's ever had a massage.
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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
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    Maybe try mentioning it (not letting the cat completely out of the bag) and see his reaction. Like "if I wanted to do a couples massage would you join me one day?"

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  • NVV2B
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    I personally do not like couples massages. I booked one for my FH and I a few years back for valentines day. We both decided that it was a bit odd and we would prefer to get massages separately.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Yes to a massage!!! I wish we had done that a few days before our wedding we were physically tired & quite stressed. If you surprise him, get him a female masseuse. Sometimes we women are more open to a male or female therapist, but most guys I know would feel very awkward with a male therapist. Friday before your Monday wedding is great. 👍
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  • MrsSnez
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    That's a good point! I've had massages before but never with another person. I wonder if they'll let us decide the day of. From what I can tell on the website there's no price difference vs couples or separate, you just pay for 2 massages.
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  • L
    Expert May 2018
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    Wow!! We are getting married this Sunday and today, I am taking FH to a surprise couples massage!! He is so going to love it!! Go for it
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  • KB
    Dedicated July 2018
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    I’d sniff around first and see what his opinion is about getting a massage. My ex had one and that was enough for him, he didn’t want to ever do it again. FH has never had one and refuses. He doesn’t want a stranger rubbing on him, he wouldn’t be able to relax.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I'm doing this the Thursday before our wedding! We are staying in the hotel in Denver Thursday evening - Sunday morning. So Thursday night or Friday morning I'm booking a couples massage for us. My fiance had never had one before, but I have scheduled 2 since then (one on a vacation in Mexico, one for our anniversary) and he liked them! I think if you aren't used to massages, a 1-2 day waiting period is fine. But for me, I never feel any different even the next day. Just drink plenty of water and you'll be fine in that time frame!

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  • Tara
    Master September 2018
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    As a massage therapist ive come accross a good amount of men that had never had one, or had only one, and didnt like them. Then after their session they said they loved it and most became regular clients. Just make sure they have good reviews as far as bieng intuitive and giving the right pressure and it should be fine.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    My DH would hate this. He doesn't like other people touching him. Maybe you can try and feel him out on this (no pun intended).
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  • Jenna
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    Jenna ·
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    You would know him best and know whether or not he would be comfortable with it. I think it's a very sweet gesture and he is okay with being touched by a stranger, I'm sure it would be appreciated. I sometimes get sore after a massage so I think the timeline you have in mind is a good idea so you're not sore during your wedding. Also, as everyone mentioned, make sure you drink plenty of water (and encourage him to do so as well). He would probably be more comfortable with a female massage therapist, because most (straight) men just don't feel comfortable with a male massage therapist, but again, you would know him best on this.

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