Swingers?

Heather- I'm not trying to imply that swingers are at a greater risk. Though by sheer stastical instances of having sex with new partners, I would say they are. That doesn't mean they aren't smarter about it. Single, sexually active people should use protection as well.

However, I know a few swingers who have had repeated cases of gonnorhea, and it spread like wildfire through their "group" of friends. I think their chances of contracting something are higher- but that doesn't mean their knowledge levels and precautionary measures aren't higher as well.

My whole point is that as long as you are being smart and safe about it- that's your choice, so go for it.

@ Clare C.--I did not know that! Thanks so much for the info. We'll look into it

@Clare I know what you mean by being to clingy it is starting to turn that way and we are looking for someone new. I think we might check out the site you listed earlier.

Clare, you should be proud that you him have the trust and honesty that is needed for a successful relationship. One time, I was chastised on here by a bunch of catty girls because I said I let guys buy my drinks...and, no, not behind my fiance's back..It's all out there in the open. But you know what? to each their own. FH and I have a PERFECT and honest relationship, and I'm very proud of it too.

FH and I are no swingers nor do we know anyone who does, I've only heard swinging when I came here and only seen couples on tv who are in the lifestyle, it's not something that is popular in our culture. I'm in no place to judge you or anyone who does, only GOD can do that, to each his/her own, as for us we strongly believe that a marriage is between husband and wife and any type of intimacy should stay between the two.

@ Clare--We were split up for a time, and I made my own page and lets just say I can take alot of crap from people but when they start threatening me and my job because I won't sleep with them it is time for a break. It is not always the place for single bi - girls and for that it has turned me away from it. That and FH and I are having to much just being with each other right now that I don't want to break that right now. But eventually since I am allowed to now have a gf I will get back into it, but it is all on my terms and based on what I want.

The lifestyle is alot of fun and you can meet some great people going to parties and clubs.

We're certainly not swingers...my love is way to prude and i am way to jealous of his affection.but going off of what Lillie said, FH and i certainly dont have your typical tight leashed relationship. I'm a flirt, I love to be looked at, flirted with, look and feel sexy etc...and FH is perfectly fine with that. we go out together i go off and do our own thing (certinaly no kissing or any such thing..but i would never turn down a drink or dance) we both know and trust that we will ALWAYS go home to our bed and our bed only..and plus idk i think it makes us both feel a little pumped and sexy.

I have thought about it, but neither of us share well with others..lol.

@ future mrs h- I PMed you back!

@ Lillie- thanks for the support! you are an awesome and very insightful chick for not being a swinger! and I totally let guys buy me drinks too- isn't that half the fun of being a pretty girl?

@trina- you go girl! it should always be on your own terms and never make you uncomfortable, the lifestyle is just about having fun

We are swingers, I wanted to bring this up in a topic but I thought that people would be mean about it.. We have not decided if we will stop after we get married or not but we haven't stopped yet.... I guess we will see what happens

@clare, I got it!! Ty so much for the clarifications.... sorry it was long, but it was like super long. I just need that for peace of mind.

Ebony! Finally another swinger couple on here! I think you're the first one! It's so funny from all the responses you'd think that half of WW was swingers but most people are just curious about our lifestyle. I was nervous to post this as well since there are a lot of judgemental catty women on here, but Lillie is right- we should be proud of our strong, honest relationships.

Mrs H- absolutely! glad I could help.

I think what it boils down to is that everyone has a way to express "bedroom" activities. Some people are more adventurous than others. What one person may do, another won't. Everyone has a limit of what they want and as long as the limit is respected with both parties, no harm done.

Yes, we love it. Soon to be Mrs. Gonzalas mentioned having a girlfriend. I talked to my FH about that recently but we are afraid of the whole attachment issue. I had that problem in a previous relationship.

Just as i believe a relationship takes more than just love...it also takes more than just 'sex' as well..and sometimes sex is well just sex. a successful relationship is a true and hoenst respectable partnership....and whatever ways you achieve that is up to you

Liek i said earlier, we're not a typuical couple and alot of people criticize our relationship and me personally. when we first got engaged i got so caught up in 'being a good wife" that i tried putting on an act and hiding what really made me happy. and you know what? my need for attention and flirtation didnt stop, but instead of it being a fun and laughable thing FH and i enjoyed together...i was having horrible sextual affairs and such behidn his back, hanging out with other guys it was terrible. i HATED the person i had become...the biggest relief of my life, and truest trial of our relationship was when i was 'caught' ...since then we've made sure that regardless of anythign our opinions of each other matter first and foremost and that there will never be anything that we cant discuss. i realized i dont care if people dont think i fit the image of a 'good wife' because by trying so hard to be 'good' i was absolutely terrible.

Yes, I was just talking about that with someone else, we had a similar experience with a girlfriend getting way to clingy and thinking she was part of our relationship. I'm not really into threesomes anymore, I feel like someone always gets left out, we prefer couples

I don't think that I've ever knowingly had a swinger couple in my circle of friends, but I'm sure that many keep that part of their life private; I can only imagine the ridicule that closed-minded people spew at them. I don't think that I would be able to live that particular lifestyle as a mother or while in a serious relationship or marriage, but I can't say that I didn't experiment as an independent, single person. Interesting topic. Really, it's not anyone's place to judge, we're all different and to me, that's a beautiful thing.

Thanks for sharing Mallory