Swingers?

@Soon to Be Mrs Gonzales i know some friends who are in the same thing. Do you think they would be offended if i invited just the main couple and not the girlfriend? i really dont care what lifestyle they live but i hate the bitch.

Good for ya'll but its not for us.

We have a friend that named their daughter after the 3rd party because they still don't know who the father is and it was a way to involve the possible father that wasn't ready for parenthood when the couple was. The wife fell in love with another one of our bf couples and he wound up leaving his wife of 10 years for her and she left her husband of 11 years for him.

I've seen the ugly side of it and I know that this is not how it is in every couple, but I just can't bear the thought of FH falling for another woman.

I wish yall the best and I will live vicariously through yalls stories...lol..

Lol Shannon that is funny. I don't think that they should be mad. You may hate the girl but also just because you except their lifesyles does not mean that you want their lifestyle exposed to your friends and family so they have to understand that its your choice

Jamie, don't take this the wrong way but any of our husbands or FH could fall in love with someone else if that is what he is searching to do. Swinging (sex with other people) has nothing to do with disrepecting your partner. I have seen several types of swingers. Some women do it for fun and some do it to save a relationship. Those that do it to save a relationship were already in a broken relationship to begin with. NOBODY can take a persons heart, mind, or body if they want you to have it.Respect and understanding are the first rules of the lifestyle.

Swingers frankly creep me out, but that's based on those 'true life' type shows I've watched on them. That's all I have to judge from. It is not something I'd ever choose for my marriage.

... now hairless cats, not creepy at all.

@ Mallory- yes thanks for sharing!

@jamie (& ebony)- ebony is absolutely right, a broken relationship is a broken relationship regardless if they are swingers or not. Ebony I'm glad you brought up that there are different types of swingers, there are definitely some that give us a bad name. I've been with couples before where you can tell the guy pressured the girl into it, or that they're only doing it to save their loveless marriage- and hooking up with those kind of couples sucks! Swinging should never be a solution to save a broken marriage, its a way to have fun and strengthen your bond with your husband.

@Shannon funny you ask that we are not even inviting her to our wedding. The GF should understand there are somethings that are for the couple only

I would like to try, but FH would never go for it. I never have, and dont think its something I MUST do. But being with another girl has always interested in-- mainly because I think that women understand women better. Dont get me wrong, FH gets me and I want to be with him and only him for the rest of me life. But sometimes I think it would be fun and I would like to be experimental with another woman-- but if someone were to touch my man, I would break their hand in a second lol

Lol Randi

Definitly not into that life style but at the same time though I'd never try it, I don't care that people are in such a life style, honestly and maybe it's my way to liberal brain but if you and your spouse or fiance are happy then so be it ... I'm with the others who say they don't like to share I most definitly do not like to share my FS with anyone but his family and friends of course ... LOL

Ditto Randi - not sure about being involved in a long term "swinging" situation, but there are always curiosities....

Definitly not into that life style but at the same time though I'd never try it, I don't care that people are in such a life style, honestly and maybe it's my way to liberal brain but if you and your spouse or fiance are happy then so be it ... I'm with the others who say they don't like to share I most definitly do not like to share my FS with anyone but his family and friends of course ... LOL

Haha- i get awkwarded out enough being with FH (or any past BF) the first couple times. I would be a hot mess if I tried to get sexy with a random stranger. I can just picture the awkward moments now..... lol

I think swinging is for people who have more confidence then me.

I know there are quite a few ladies on here who are in relationships like this.

I'm with Sharon though. I think it is better to have a swinging/open relationship that is honest than a cheating spouse.

I don't have issues or problems with people who have this type of relationship but I don't think I could do it. I know hubby would probably never go for it.

We are not but we have talked about it and we both are very open and honest with each other and if it ever came to that it would be something we would explore and make the right decision for us at the time.

We could never do it. Good for you guys that can make it work and enjoy it. However we prefer to keep our love making just for each other Sex isn't just sex to either of us though and never could be.

However between me and him, I would be the one more likely to have done something like that when I was single. I don't think I could go through with anything too serious though. I'm kinda a prude when it comes to who sees my body!

We don't do it. I feel the same way Shellie does when it comes to being with new people so I don't think I could ever do it. I don't have anything against it and understand if it is something a couple enjoys than it is between them.

I can't see it being a pathway we could ever go down, but if a couple enjoys it then whatever. Maybe someone could clarify something for me though. If a couple was involved in this from the beginning of their relationship and never just had the experience of the connection between the two of them to concentrate on, what type of basis is this to start a marriage on? Im assuming like anything else there are different reasons as to why couple couples engage in this. I can totally see theory behind and how it would be a turn on, but at the end of the day shouldn't your future partner be the one you can't get enough of. If from the beginning or somewhere in your mind you feel that one person isn't going to be enough isn't that a reason not to get married but still be together as a couple. You dont need marriage to prove love to eachother. Sorry but kind of curious. Don't know anyone in the lifestyle to ask.

Wow this post blew up overnight while i was away! It's so interesting to see so many women that want to try it! I know a lot of people like you ladies that say "oh I could never...but I've always been curious". Its definitely not for everyone, but for those that are curious about being with another woman, i say go for it! Most women have some sort of predisposition towards bisexuality, we're generally just more comfortable with it than men are. I can't really understand why some people are so worried about not having the confidence for it, you should be proud of your body and sexuality -you're beautiful inside and out!

Yes you should be proud of your body inside and out, but for those who are not I don't think bringing more people into the bedroom is the way to gain that confidence. That is something a person needs to find on a few other levels first. Then decide what you want to do with that new found confidence. And if you decide to go for it maybe try experimenting away before you decide to get married not after the fact.