Swingers?

Tina, it has nothing to do with your opinion, but your wording. All you have to say is that it isn't for you, or ask a question in a constructive manner. Calling people out on their lifestyle, calling them "whorish" isn't very nice. Besides, the OP was asking if there were any swingers on this site, not what we think of it.

It's awfully ballsy to come onto this forum with just one star and post judgemental comments. Don't be surprised if you're called a troll.

edit: based on some of the comments you've left on other sites, I'm guessing you're a troll. Here we go again.....

Well said Stacy! As I said, swinging isn't for us, but I can't judge the actions of others.

@Carole B: Same here. FH and I don't believing in sharing each other, and I'm too big a prude to let someone else see my nekkid self. But what people chose to do in their personal life is none of my business and I certainly don't see anything wrong with it.

Also, I'm tired of trolls. I've only been on this site since March but I feel like every other thread contains some nasty comment made for the sole purpose of starting crap. I've never called anyone out on it, but her comments just pissed me off!

Other people stated what they think. I was commenting on everyone not the one that started it.. You all chose to sleep with others go ahead just dont see how this could be a thread for people getting married.. Marriage is a commitment to one and almost become one not to explore everyone else s body. I dont care what Im called.. Im saying how I feel in words that are true to me. Im not ok with swinging and just stating that everyone else can state they are ok with it cant I state Im not in my own words.. Freedom of speech here.. If my words are to harsh for you then ignore me.. I dont care if you do..

If its none of you business why are you reading the thread? You obviously wanted to know about everyone's business.. I wasnt commenting to start anything it just pisses me off that people do this and can turn around and tell each other they " I LOVE YOU" the words are used so loosely these days. Im just being honest and stating it..

I usually don't take part in the intense threads, but I'm about to bust!!!

@Tina, your view speaks highly to what is wrong with the world today. Although you feel you are stating your opinion, you are also putting people down, and making it seem as if your views are better than others. I feel the same about marriage and sex as you do, but I don't JUDGE others for their way of life. If I don't agree with it, that's all I can do...not agree.

No matter how far along we come as a society, people like you keep us in the past. There was a time when the norm for love and marriage consisted of opposite sex and same ethnic background. A couple like myself and FH would have been killed for even thinking of being together, let alone getting married. I have Christian beliefs, however, my religion teaches me NOT to judge. Swinging is something I could never do, but I'm not about to put someone down because they do. And unfortunately, that's exactly what you are doing.

Speaking of diseases, do you not know that those who are married and are in relationships tend to contract STD’s more often than those taking part in casual sex?

Swinging is casual sex... Anyone whether they swing right or left sleep with multiple people married or not have more chances of diseases than faithful people.. Thats a fact.. I never said they were bad people their actions are whorish but not that swingers are bad people. Im not in the past same sex people want to get married they can diff ethnic want to they can. We all have red blood. I was stating my marriage beliefs that is what all this about. I might put it in diff words than you or anyone else would have. Didnt you just judge me? I thought you didnt judge people?

Nicole....Well said.

@Carole, thank you!

@Tina, um yep, swinging is casual sex. and not everyone in a marriage or relationship is faithful, and as far as facts go, the risk are JUST as high. Yet, those having casual sex are more inclined to protect themselves. And no, I didn't judge, I stated the obvious truth. Your “opinions” don’t come off as such. I didn't say you said they were bad people, but, at the same time, wouldn't someone with bad characteristics or tendencies be considered a bad person? Your marriage beliefs are narrow-minded, and to tell someone that their actions are whorish, says a lot about the type of person you are. Would it be just to assume that you fornicate? If so, what makes you better than them, sex before marriage is a sin, is it not? I’m sure you likely do many other sinful things, so what makes you feel as if you can put someone in a box, just because you feel their flaws are greater than yours? The way you're coming off is as if you have absolutely no faults. Who are you to label anyone's actions? Last time I checked, my scriptures read, "judge not. less ye be judged".

SO! I have finally made it through all 8 pages and find this all very interesting. I see each side of this. I see the attraction and why people are interested. It is intriguing, but, without knowing the whole lifestyle, I know that weather or not I would be intrigued or not, it is not in my beliefs. I commend you for being able to have such a great communicative relationship with FH to do that.

As for me, I don't know of anyone that has done that either. But, I will say I wish you all the best of luck the life can give. =)

BTW, Tina - My advice to you is to just keep those opinions to your self. It's like walking through the grocery store and you see a woman dress in skimpy clothes, you don't just hollar out "OMG IT'S A WHORE!" Don't hide behind a computer screen and do/say/type something that you would typically have more couth to not do in person. To each their own. There is only one person that can judge another, and that is not you.

LOL@ "OMG IT'S A WHORE", lol, lol, looooooool!!! Thanks for the laugh Mrs. Johnson. And the way that you stated your *opinion*, is exactly what we all are talking about. It was very respectful, and non-judgmental.

Anytime Nicole.... I'm always good for a chuckle! =)

Thank you.

Well said again, Nicole!

Well said, Future Mrs. Johnson!

I have actually considered this topic quite informative. I NEVER considered the lifestyle because I don't like to share and I am not into sex with women.

Thanks Carole, You made some great statements as well.

I agree, I've never considered it, simply because it's a lifestyle that is not mine.. not good, bad or otherwise, just not mine. PLUS, I barely have time to have sex with FH, let alone anyone else. LOL

Kudos to (most of) our wonderful WW community for keeping it classy. Love to see a potentially controversial topic be discussed with so much respect and honesty. I like that curiosity was expressed with questions, rather than people being rude because they have some fear of the unknown and would rather put others down than actually learn something or be a little bit open-minded.

DH and I aren't into the lifestyle as we're both too possessive for it, but I've enjoyed learning about it for sure! Thanks for sharing, and for being so open to discuss it!

PS -Please don't feed trolls, flag them. I hate to do it, but sometimes it is the only way to get rid of them.

Edit: Just noticed the "IT'S A WHORE!!", so funny! I just watched "Easy A" last week so I thought about the scarlet letter as soon as I read that! LOL...imagine!!

LOL Mrs.Murdie

Love what you said Carole Marriage wasn't invested in BC, all it was about is to have children that time if that make any sense lol.

I am in organized religion as well BUT what Tina had said was just wrong. Yes I do not believe in swingers lifestyle. But I hate to say that I have seen a lot of marriages that contract stds and sexual diseases from cheating. We do have a right to think differently but calling them names or looking down at them is not helping your opinion at all, it makes it worse. My good friend just found out that her husband been having sex with someone and it was unprotected sex, I told her to go asap to get checked. I am hoping she didn't get catch any.

Clara you are very brave to post something like this and I applause you for it. It is just not for me and my husband.

Well I haven't read all the posts on here, but I will say this, FH and I first met at a swinger party. But we met in the capacity of Dom/sub. He is my Dom and i am His sub. It has been this way for over 3 years. We have continued to visit this swinger's party on/off for this amount of time. Will we continue in the swing lifestyle, probably in some capacity after we are married as well as the D/s lifestyle. That *I* have to have in my life. This was a private house party that we met at. So there are different swing lifestyles as well. It all depends on each person....

Wow Tina,

I can honestly say I have never seen such an assnine and ignorant post on WW. I may be new to posting but I have lurked for some time. Seriously just ignorant .....

Sorry to interject ladies, back to your orignal thread